Isimo esivamile, uthandana ngempela, uqale ukuhlangana futhi ngokushesha noma kamuva, okwakumele kwenzeke, ngolunye ubusuku wakuyisa ekhaya futhi, emi emnyango, izindebe zakho zivaliwe ndawonye ngaphansi "kokumanga". Futhi yilapho - okokuqala, ukwamukeleka okungenacala okungenacala, emva kwalokho ikhanda liyahamba, futhi imizwelo igeleza. Futhi konke kungaba kuhle, kunenkinga eyodwa kuphela - ukuhlazeka kwengane, lapho wonke umuntu adlula khona. Uqala ukufihla amehlo akho, imicabango ekhanda lakho iqale kancane? kodwa ngokuzethemba udidekile futhi umbuzo uqobo uvuthwe: "Indlela yokuziphatha okwamanje?" Ake sizame ndawonye sinqume ukuthi kufanele siziphathe kanjani kahle nomfana emva kokuqala kokumanga?
Amantombazane amaningi ngoba aqala ukwesaba ngempela akakwazi ngisho nokuqonda "kodwa lokhu kwakungabanga." Ngokuvamile, lokhu kungenxa yokwesaba inqubo ngokwayo nemiphumela yayo. Ukwesaba kobusuku bokuqala kungachazwa ngokuqhathanisa nokwesaba okuthile okuzoshintsha, ukufunda okuthile okusha, engaziwa ngaphambili. Kodwa isimo ngemuva kokumanga kufaniswa nomzwelo ongenakuqonda wokuthi wenze okuthile okungalungile, into engavamile kuwe, ngezinga elithile ngisho nehlazo, engalungile. Ukwesaba iqiniso lokuthi umlingani wakho uzokusola. Lokhu-ke, ukwesaba okujwayelekile cishe konke lokhu kwesaba. Futhi ngenxa yalokhu ekhanda uqala ukuhamba ngokungahleliwe imicabango ehlukile, okwenza kube namahloni okusobala nokwesaba ebusweni.
Okokuqala, yeka ukwesaba, nhlobo, awukwenzi lutho olugebengu, konke kuyinkqubo yemvelo okufanele kwenzeke, ngoba kuhle kakhulu kumama wethu (ake sithi sibonga kuye ngalesi sikhathi esingenakulibaleka). Uma ususondeza ndawonye bese uhambisa izinzwa zakho kude, uzoqala ngokushesha ukuqonda nokucacile ukucabanga. Uvele ukhululekile futhi uwanele ukuqonda isimo. Bukela ngakolunye uhlangothi - manje unento okumele uyibonise izintombi zakho, kodwa nokho, ekugcineni, wamanga okokuqala, ngisho noma yena (isoka lakho), njengoba wacabanga futhi akwazi ukukwenza (ngendlela, wena mayelana nayo khona-ke uzokhumbula ngokuhleka okungaphezu kwesisodwa), kodwa kwenzeka. Ngakho-ke, "izinzwa eziphuma ngaphandle!" Ziyoba yisimiso sethu sokuqala ukuze sigweme "ngemva kokusinda kwe-syndrome."
Ihlazo - kahle, njengoba ngishilo ngenhla, lokhu kuyinkqubo yemvelo, ngendlela, ubusuku ngokwayo seluvele emuva, okuyinto esamahloni, konke kwenziwa futhi wonke umuntu uyaphila. Into eyimbi kunazo zonke owake wahlangabezana nayo kumfana, kungani ukhathazekile lapha. Ngakho-ke, yeka ukufihla njalo amehlo akho, uwaphonsa emhlabathini, umfana wakho akekho - ukhona phambi kwakho. Wena, ekugcineni, unamahloni, noma yini? Yeka, kholwa nami, unamahloni, umsekele ngamehlo akhe.
Bazihlukanisa nabo, futhi manje ngokuqondene nomfana. Masinyane emva kokumangazama kuzama ukuvimbela ukuhleka. Linda kuze kube umzuzwana lapho uthola khona ekhaya lapho kakade, futhi uzoveza imizwelo yakho, wena, ngenxa yalendlela, ubusuku bonke (ukholelwa ukuthi awukwazi ukulala). Ngakho ukuhleka - shiya, thola lokho okuzoba yintsana yakho, uma uqala ukuhleka ngokuhlekisa, ngicabanga ukuthi ngeke abe nomona. Zibeke endaweni yakhe. Kungcono ukuhleka usulu, ukukhulula isimo nokumomotheka, ngakho-ke ndawonye - phumula isimo sakho esibucayi. Futhi, kungaba kuhle ukusho amagama amnandi othandana nofana "lokhu kukuqala kokuqala - ngizoyikhumbula" noma enye into enjalo, uyintombazane, futhi uyinkumbulo, njengoba siyazi, sihlakaniphile kuzo zonke izimo. Ngikhohliwe ukuthi ngithi, kodwa misa, ekugcineni, usheshe usuke ekhaya, uzocabanga ukuthi ubalekela kuye, hhayi ngokumanga. Abafana, naphezu kokuqala kokuqala noma okwesibili, bekhululekile kakhulu ngalokhu futhi ngenxa yentshiseko yakho yokufihla ngaphandle kwezindonga zendlu yakho, angase acabange kakhulu (ukuthi ubalekela kuye, isibonelo, ukuthi yena, kahle, nje, kisses kabi).
Ngendlela, uma, uma isoka lakho selivele linolwazi lokuthi ungamanga kanjani ngendlela efanele futhi ngokushesha ngemuva kokumanga kwakho kukutshengise ukuthi uyenze kabi. Ungabi namahloni, abantu bahlale bethanda ukukhombisa ukuthi bangcono kunamantombazane kukho konke. Ngakho ngesibindi futhi ngesibindi umphendule into enjengale: "Ayikho into, nginomfundisi onjengawe, ngisenesikhathi sokufunda ... ngakho konke kusengaphambili." Umfana uzothatha njengokubonga okuhle futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo nasihlaya ngawe. Uma lo mfana engakusho lutho, ungazitshele ukuthi akazange kahle (kahle, ngaphandle uma uthanda ukuthi uyakwenza kanjani). Ngiyethemba ukuthi okungenani wazi ukuthi kufanele uziphathe kanjani nomfana emva kokumanga kokuqala. Khumbula, ukuqala kokuqala kuyisimanga esingcono kakhulu. Uyenzeka empilweni kanye futhi ungaphazamisi lo mzuzwana, ngezinhlobo zonke zobandlululo nokuphuka ikhanda lakhe, uma wenza kahle, futhi uma engathandi, cishe angakwazi ukumanga. Njengoba bekusho, iMoscow isakhiwe izinsuku ezimbalwa. Awazi ukuthi manje - uzofunda kanjani ngaleso sikhathi.
Ngelinye igama, emva kokumanga, ziphathe ngokuthula, ngokulinganisa. Ungalokothi ube nesaba. Okokuqala, ngicabanga ukuthi ngeke kube ngukuqakatheka ukukhumbula ukuthi akukho lutho olungalungile ngalokhu. Khohlwa ihlazo, qhubeka wenza konke okwenzile amaminithi amahlanu adlule, kuze kube yilapho uwanga. Memezela kumlingani wakho, zama ukukhuluma ngenye isihloko, ngaleyo ndlela uphumule kokubili futhi ususe ukungezwani. Ukuziqhenya ngokugcwele kulokho okwenzekile, "ungaxhasi" ngalesi sikhathi ngalokhu. Yeka ukucabanga ngesoka lakho ngombono wokuthi akayithandi into ethile noma ukukulahla into ethile, futhi waguqula umbono wakhe ngawe nakakhulu nakakhulu. Ngemuva kwalokho kwenzeke ukuthi ube nesithakazelo nakakhulu kuwe, ngoba usondelene kakhulu nomunye nomunye, futhi ubuhlobo bakho bube nombala ohluke ngokuphelele, kungena esigabeni esibi. Ngakho-ke ungakhathazeki ikhanda lakho ngemicabango yobuwula, kodwa kunalokho, ngaphambi kokuba uhambe ekhaya, ubambe futhi, ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi konke kuhle futhi akukho lutho oluphawulekayo olushintshile empilweni yakho. Phuma, vumela konke kuhambe, njengoba kuhamba ngokwakho.