Ingane ehlakaniphile, ethandana naye, othembekile yiphupho lomndeni. Kodwa ngokuphishekela impumelelo yezifundo, abazali ngezinye izikhathi bakhohlwa mayelana ne-fragility yengqondo yengane. Amazwi akhulunywa ngokushesha angamlimaza kakhulu umntwana, amphoqe ukuba alahlekelwe ukholo ngamandla akhe. Okokuqala, kuyadingeka ukuba unqunyelwe unomphela emabintana anesihluku futhi ahlukumezayo - ingane akufanele izwe ingadingekile, ayifanele. Ama-oda ahlakaniphile ashintshwe kakhulu ngezicelo ezithambile ezihambisana nokumomotheka.
Amazwi ahlabayo ayingozi nakakhulu - abhubhisa ukwethemba komuntu omncane kubantu abasondelene kakhulu, futhi ngenxa yalokho, emhlabeni jikelele. Ukubuyiselwa kwengqondo elahlekile yokuphepha kungathatha iminyaka.
Ukuqhathanisa kungenye ukungalungi kokutholwa okungalungile. Ingane iyeke ukuqaphela ukubaluleka kwayo, ukuzethemba kwakhe kunciphisa kakhulu. Akunakucatshangwa ukuveza ukungabaza ngamakhono omntwana ngokuzwakalayo - imishwana enjalo iyasebenza "ngokuphambene", ukuvala uchungechunge lwe "circle of failures".
Futhi, ekugcineni - musa ukugcina ingane njalo: ehlala ekhokhweni lomzali oqinile, uzolahlekelwa ngamakhono okuqala nokucabanga okungeyona ejwayelekile.