Amadoda ... izidalwa eziyinqaba! Kubonakala sengathi sonke siseplanethi efanayo, nabantu ngabanye bohlobo olufanayo (umuntu), futhi ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala sengathi bahluke ngokuphelele. Futhi akusikho ngocansi: okuyisisekelo noma eyesibili. Kuqondene nemicabango, izenzo, izifiso. Okubonakala kuyinqaba kwabesifazane, ngezinye izikhathi okungenakwenzeka, okumangalisayo, okungaqondakaliyo, kumadoda kungokwemvelo futhi evamile. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Kungani sihluke kakhulu ekubonisweni kwethu?
Hhayi, njengoba singathanda, mhlawumbe, abesifazane, okungenani bafunde imicabango yabantu, baveze ngalokho abakucabangayo, ukuthi yini abayifunayo ngempela enhliziyweni. Mhlawumbe, funda lolu lwazi kulabo besifazane, lokhu kuzocacisa okuningi ebuhlotsheni obungathandeki bobulili. Futhi, mhlawumbe, ngokuphambene nalokho, kwakungenza amadoda abe mfihlakalo nakakhulu kubo. Kodwa, njengoba kungenakwenzeka ukuba ungene ebuchosheni bomuntu, kuzodingeka ukuthi ubonise kancane.
Yini umuntu ayifunayo ngempela? Yini abaphupha ngayo? Ucabanga ukuthi ungumngane onjani futhi impilo yakho nayo? Kuzo zonke lezi zinto nezinye izinto okumelwe sibhekane nazo.
Vele bafune ukuxwayisa abantu abahlala phansi: lokhu akusiyo umzamo wokuhlambalaza amadoda kusukela ekubukeni kobulili bawo, kuyisifiso sokusiza abesifazane okungenani kancane ukuthi baqonde izisusa nezifiso zethu.
Ngakho-ke, ake siqale ngokuhleleka.
1. Njengoba siyazi, bonke abantu banezidingo zezinga lokuqala (ukudla, ukulala, ukuqhubeka komndeni) kanye nezidingo zesigaba sesibili (ukuzibona, uthando, ubungane). Amadoda avela kulo mthetho akenzi okwehlukile, ngakho-ke kuqala kokukhona okuvamile, amadoda adinga ukudla, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukuzwakala kunjani. Uma umuntu ebuya ekhaya evela emsebenzini esekhathele futhi elambile, into kuphela lapho yonke imicabango yakhe ewela khona kuyisidlo esiphundu esiphundu. Futhi kungcono ukubanikeza othandekayo, ngoba uma izidingo zesigaba sokuqala zaneliseka, ungaqhubeka nokufezekisa okwesibili, futhi lapho imizwa yendoda yakho izosetshenziswa ngokugcwele.
2. Amadoda ngokwemvelo awo angabantu abaphephile, abazingcweti, ama-getters. Bahola imali, bathathe umthwalo wokuxazulula izinkinga eziyinkimbinkimbi, ukulawula izimo ezinhlobonhlobo zokuphila. Ukuphila kwabo kudlula ngesigqi esinomsindo. Kodwa, naphezu kwakho konke lokhu okubonakalayo okubonakalayo, bafuna babe nomuzi lapho bengakwazi khona ukubuyela njalo, nokuthi bazohlala balinde. Endlini yakhe, indoda ifuna ukuphunyuka ebusweni bezwe futhi ijabulele ukuthula komndeni. Yingakho isibalo samadoda eplanethi sibazisa kakhulu abesifazane abakwazi ukugcina isimo esihle endlini.
3. Esinye isifiso esiyinhloko, kodwa abesifazane abanobuqili bayakuqonda, isifiso sokushiya umkhondo ngemuva. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lezi zinsizwa zinamandla kangakanani, zisayifuna (ngisho noma zingaboni lokhu ku-akhawunti yabo kuze kube iminyaka ethile) ukuthi zinezingane. Futhi, kwakuyi-WILL, impikiswano yemfundo ayifanele.
4. Ukuze babe nezingane, badinga ukuthi ngandlela-thile baqale, ngakho-ke esinye sezifiso eziyinhloko-izifiso zamadoda yisidingo socansi (emehlweni abesifazane besifiso sibonakala sodwa kuphela). Futhi isidingo esiyimpumputhe, eziphilayo. Ubulili kuyadingeka kumuntu, njengomoya, amanzi noma ukudla. Uma umuntu engazange ahlale ocansini isikhathi eside, uyathukuthela, athukuthele, ulaka, ngakho-ke kungcono ukuthi akukho ukusweleka.
5. Indoda yindoda evamile engesiyena yonke impilo. Yena, kanye nowesifazane, ufuna ukufanisa indima yakhe kuleli zwe, i E. ufuna ukubukeka enamandla futhi emangalisa. Ngokuyinhloko, abantu besilisa bazama ukulandela isibalo sabo ngokukhula komzimba. Abanye bahlanganyela ezinhlotsheni ezahlukene zomzabalazo. Konke lokhu kuvela kusifiso sokuzibiza.
6. Kubantu abadala, ngokusobala kusukela ezikhathini zokuqala, umkhuba womzabalazo wabekwa kulo muntu. Ekuqaleni kwakungumzabalazo wendawo, ngakho-ke kwabesifazane, kamuva emandleni nokunye. Ngamafomu amancane, lokhu kubonakala ngezimpini ezivamile, ezinhlelweni ezinkulu nezinengqondo naseziphethweni eziyinkimbinkimbi. Kodwa isisekelo salokhu asishintshi: isifiso sokulwa, ngokuvamile ngesizo lobudlova.
7. Impi, kuhle, njengenqubo, kepha umphumela ubalulekile kumuntu. Udinga ukuphuma kunoma imuphi umzabalazo njengomnqobi, uzizwe njengeqhawe, umsindisi wemiphefumulo nezinhloso. Ngakho-ke, kaningi ake umthandi wakho abe nomuzwa wokuthi ungumkhululi wakho ovela kuzo zonke izinkinga nezinkinga. Uyozizwa ekwazi ukuguqula izintaba, futhi ukuba nomuntu onjalo eduze kwakho kuyoba injabulo yangempela ngawe, besifazane.
8. Iphuzu elihlukile ngifuna ukuqaphela isifiso somuntu sokudlula ingqondo yowesifazane. Yingakho othandekayo wakho ehlala enesidingo sokuqonda ubuchwepheshe obuphambili, ukuqhubeka nenqubekela phambili, ukuze akwazi ukuqonda nje enye into enhle, kodwa futhi nokuyichaza ... kumfazi.
9. Olunye ubuthakathaka obuthakathaka besilisa yisifiso, ngandlela-thile, ukuthonya inkambo yezenzakalo, kube yimbangela ecacile yezinguquko ezihlukahlukene. Noma yikuphi: umndeni, uthando, abasebenzi, ezombusazwe ngisho ... zomlando. Wonke umuntu uzizwa eyisikhungo esincane, kodwa esibaluleke kakhulu sendawo yonke. Ngakho bazizwa indima yabo eyinhloko kukho konke.
10. Ukuba emphakathini noma emphakathini. Kwabesilisa, udaba lobuholi luyinkimbinkimbi kusukela ebuntwaneni. Uma lo mfana engamukelwa yizontanga zakhe, akeke ahlukunyezwe yibo, unenhlanhla engajabuli. Ebusheni babo bafuna ukuba ngumphefumulo wenkampani, ebusheni - umphathi, nokunye okuqhubekayo kwe-ad infinitum. Abambalwa babo bayazi lokhu, kodwa okushiwo lokhu akuguquki. Uma umuntu enomqondo ofanayo, uzizwa eyingxenye yomphakathi owodwa, futhi lokhu kumtshela ukuthi ngezifiso zakhe akayedwa.
11. Isidingo sabathandani besifazane, isisa, ukunakekela. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi indoda ingase ibonakale ibukeka kanjani, ngaphakathi ingumfana omncane ofuna ukugoqa esifubeni sowesifazane bese uzizwa edingekayo futhi ethandwa. Amadoda ngisho nabesifazane abaningi badinga ukunakekelwa nokukhathazeka. Uma kungenjalo, yini abazobuyela emuva emva kwezimpi zabo eziphazamisayo zaphakade nokungazelelwe kwaphakade emhlabeni?
12. Ukukhuluma ngothando lomama / wesifazane, umuntu akanakunaki igunya likababa. Umfana kumele avele ebuntwaneni abone phambi kwakhe ukuthi unamandla kababa wakhe, isikhundla sakhe esiqinile, amandla okungaqondakali, ukuze acabange ukuthi indoda yangempela kufanele ibe yini, ukulingana naye, ukuzama ukulinganisa. Ngokuvamile, ukutholakala kwegunya kubaluleke kakhulu kumuntu, nakuba lokhu kungavamile ukubonakala kithi.
13. Njengokuphila kwanoma yimuphi umuntu, inhlalakahle yezezimali ibaluleke kakhulu kumuntu. Futhi hhayi ngokwemigomo yokuphila okungenani, kepha ngaphezulu, ngcono. Lokhu kuyaqondakala, ngoba uma umuntu enemali enhle, azitholela yona, uzibheka njengomuntu ophethwe ngokugcwele.
14. Isifiso sokuzijabulisa singesinye sezifiso ezivamile zamadoda. Akukhathaleki ukuthi yikuphi uhlobo lokuzijabulisa - wonke umuntu unemibono yakhe ngalokhu, okubaluleke kakhulu, ukudlala igazi, okweqile i-adrenaline.
15. Ngokusekelwe kwesifiso sangaphambilini, umuntu angakwazi futhi ukufisa isifiso sokushintsha, ukutholakala, nezinye izenzakalo ezifanayo. Ngokuvamile, bona, ngenhlanhla, ungaphazamisi ngendlela evamile yokuphila.
Eminyakeni Ephakathi, ama-knights ayenesidingo sokusebenza kahle. Ezweni lanamuhla, lokhu kwenzeka futhi kwenzeka. Indoda ngayinye inomgomo othile ophezulu, lapho ehlaba khona ngameva okuphila.
17. Naphezu kwemibono ephakeme nomzabalazo ongunaphakade, indoda ngezinye izikhathi ifuna ukuphila okuthula, okuhlelekile: ukuze kungabikho izinkinga eziphazamisayo, kwakungekho izinkinga ukuze umuntu aphile njengepharadesi ngaphandle kokusebenzisa imizamo ekhethekile.
18. Ukukhuluma ngokuphila okungenakukhathazeka, ungangezela ukuthi wonke umuntu amaphupho omshini we-chic. Chic - ekuqondeni kwakhe, yebo. Ukuze ugibele kuwo wonke ama-expanses omhlaba wonke futhi ngokuzumayo uguquke abaphikisanayo, ukhwele: "Yeka, imoto enamandla kangakanani, inhlanhla ngoba othile!"
19. Futhi, ekugcineni, okugcina ohlwini, kodwa hhayi okungenani ukubaluleka - isifiso sokuthandwa! Amadoda, angaphansi kwabesifazane, afuna ukuthandwa, alindelwe futhi adingekayo. Futhi ngubani, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bangabesifazane, angabasiza ekufezeni isifiso sabo esiyisisekelo?