I-NLP yothando: imithetho emihlanu eyinhloko yokuhlela kwabantu

Uhlelo lwe-Neuro-linguistic noma i-NLP yinkundla ekhulayo yokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo ehlinzeka ngezinqubo ezilula futhi ezifinyelelekayo zokuthonya izinqubo ezingenakuqonda. I-NLP isetshenziswa ngempumelelo emkhakheni wothando nobudlelwane. Amasu e-NLP asiza ukuthola uthando, ukwakha ubudlelwane obuvumelanako noma ukuvuselela imizwa yokufiphala. Uthando ngumdlalo, futhi yonke imidlalo inemithetho yayo. Uyazi - ungabe unqobile, cha - ulungiselele ukulahlekelwa kanye nemiphumela elandelayo. Ukulahlekelwa othandweni kuyabuhlungu kakhulu, ngakho-ke kungcono ukuqonda imithetho esemqoka ngokushesha futhi ufunde amasu alula azosiza ukugwema amaphutha angenakuxolelwa futhi ujabule othandweni.

Ikwazi ukulungisa. Isihluthulelo sokuzwelana phakathi kwabantu sifana. Kumelwe itholakale ukusungula indawo ye-interlocutor ngesikhathi sokuxhumana. Kuzodingeka ube isibuko, kubonisa ukuziphatha komlingani wakho, kuze kube yimigomo yokuphefumula. Ukuthinta kwakho, ukuma, ubuso obuso, inkulumo ye-tempo kufanele isondele kakhulu ngangokunokwenzeka. Isimo esiyinhloko sokwenza izibuko kungokwemvelo ngokweqile, ngaphandle kwalokho umuntu uzokucabanga ukuthi uyaphilika.

Yiba umholi ekukhulumisaneni. Kudingeka uzilungiselele imizwelo, kancane kancane uholele oxhumana nabo ngalezo zemizwa kanye nokuzwela okuyokwenza ithinte inhliziyo yakhe. Uma lo mlingani ephoqelekile futhi evinjiwe ngokomzwelo, smile, ukhulume ngobumnene nangaphandle kwengcindezi. Ngokushesha uzofuna ukukubukisa futhi akhanyise indlela ozibuza ngayo. Akukho ukusebenza okungcono kakhulu "ukulungiswa" kwamanani. Uma uthanda umuntu, cishe cishe, futhi uhlelo lwakho lokukholelwa olufanayo. Bonisa. Yiba nobungane obuhle. Ku-NLP, "ukuqinisa" kungenye yezindlela eziphumelela kakhulu zokubopha umuntu ngokwakho. Okuyisisekelo saso ukuthola noma ukubamba umzuzwana wenjabulo yomuntu futhi ukuxhuma naye. Umculo, uthanda, uphunga, uthinta ukuthi umngane wakho uzizwa kanye nawe, kufanele avuse imizwa emihle kuwo. Esikhathini esizayo, uzozihlanganisa nale mizwa nawe futhi azame ukuzitholela.

Khuthaza. Ochwepheshe be-NLP bathiwa enye yezindlela eziphumelelayo zokwenza ukuziphatha okudingekayo okubizwa ngokuthi "ukuqiniswa okuhle". Lokhu kuyisignali kumuntu okwenza kahle futhi ukuziphatha kwakhe kumnandi futhi kuhlangene nokulindela. Njengesikhuthazo, ungasebenzisa ukumomotheka, ukumanga, ukuncoma, ukunakekelwa, ukukhathazeka, njll. Ngokukhuthaza umlingani ngokuqiniswa okuhle, uyakha ukuphendula namakhono oyidingayo. Sebenzisa indlela yokudlulisa. Kuyisipho esihle kakhulu senkumbulo yabantu. Iqukethe isethi yezinkumbulo zabantu abasithonya futhi bashiya umkhondo kubo. Umbono wabantu abasha uhambisana nalezi zinkumbulo. Isibonelo, igama lomuntu omuhle futhi onenjongo kithi uzothola ngokuzenzakalelayo izimfanelo zabo bonke abanye abantu endleleni yethu ngegama elifanayo. Sebenzisa isenzakalo sokudlulisa futhi uphukise umlingani wakho kulezo zinkumbulo ezinhle azokudlulisela kuwe ngokungazi.

Izindlela ezintathu ze-NLP ezilula zothando

Umlobi wezindlela zokuqala ze-NLP u-Victoria Isaeva (Eva Berger) encwadini yakhe ethi "NLP ngenjabulo ejabulisayo: amasu angu-11 azosiza ekuthandeni, ukuklolodela, ukushada noma ubani" unikeza ngamasu amaningana asebenzayo azosiza ukuqala ubudlelwane obusha noma ukuthuthukisa labo asebevele bamukele .

I-Technique "Idethi yokuqala ephelele"

Ngaphambi komhlangano wokuqala othakazelisayo, zama ukuphindaphinda ube ngumgcini wesikrini, umqondisi nomdlali wefilimu yakho ebizwa ngokuthi "Usuku Lwami Oluhle." Uzothola uhambo oluthile lokuya emhlanganweni wesikhathi esizayo, umlobi kawe. Njengoba unquma, kuyodlula. Ukuze wenze lokhu, khumbula usuku lwakho oluphumelele kakhulu noma isimo lapho ujabule khona. Qinisekisa le mizwelo futhi, ukubuyisela imisindo, ukuhogela, izithombe nokuzwela kwimemori yakho. Yenza kube lula kakhulu, zama ukuzwa konke ngokoqobo ngokomzimba. Hlanganisa lezi zimzwelo futhi uzidlulisele engqondweni ngosuku oluzayo. Cabanga indlela umuzwa wenjabulo nenjabulo oqinisa ngayo lapho uhlangana nomlingani wakho, umbone, uzwe futhi uzizwe unesithakazelo esiqotho kuwe. Ngenisa ngokuningiliziwe indawo yomhlangano, ukuthi uhlala kuphi nokuthi uhlala kuphi, yiziphi umsindo ozwayo ngemuva, ukuhogela, ubone indawo ezungezile kanye nendawo yangaphakathi. Ukhuluma ngani? Yini oyidla noma oyiphuzayo? Ukuthuthukisa isimo, hlakulela emzimbeni wenjabulo. Vumela injabulo idlule kulo ngokufudumala okufudumayo, umphefumulo uzohlabelela, futhi ngaphakathi kwezimvemvane zesisu. Thatha "bona", futhi uhambe ngokuqiniseka ngosuku lwakho olujabulisayo.

I-Technique "Isimiso se-YEB ezintathu"

Umbhali wezinqubo ubizwa ngokuthi uSocrates. Isetshenziselwa ngokuphumelelayo ukuxhaphazwa kwengqondo ngenhloso yokuthola imvume yomuntu. Isimiso sobuchwepheshe sisekelwe ekutholeni izimpendulo eziqinisekisayo emithathu imibuzo mayelana nezinto ezicacile (isibonelo: isibhakabhaka siluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, utshani buhlaza, amanzi amanzi). Ngokwezinga eliphakeme lokungenzeka ukuthi umuntu uzothi "yebo" kuya kwesine, kodwa kakade udaba lomthetho (isibonelo: uyangithanda?). U-Victoria Isaeva uphakamisa ukusebenzisa le nqubo yasendulo nephumelelayo ukuze uthole imvume yomuntu ezindabeni eziphathelene nokuthuthukiswa kobudlelwane: ukuphola, ukuhlalisana, imishado, ukuhamba, ukuthenga, njll Umbuzo ofuna ukuwuzwa ngu "yebo" akufanele kubuzwe, bangaki ukufaka ithoni ezolile futhi ngezwi elizethembayo.

I-Technique "Ukuqeda amandla"

Ukuqeda amandla kuyinto isenzo sokuqala noma amagama owehlisa ngobuqili indlela yokubuyela emuva (ukwehluleka, isinqumo seqembu). Ku-NLP-uthando, le nqubo ingasiza, isibonelo, ukugwema izingxabano noma ngisho nokuhlukanisa. Uma lo mlingani ekhathele ukubekezelela ama-antics akho, unecala kakhulu futhi uphenduka ngobuqotho, kodwa uzizwe ulungiselela inkulumo ethukuthele noma amazwi okuhlukumezeka, uthi: "Ngiyazi ukuthi iphoyisa lami linamandla kangakanani. Akukho ukuthethelelwa kimi, futhi kunzima ukungavumelani nalokhu. Ngiyaqonda uma ungithukuthelela (ukuzonda, ukuphonsa), kodwa ake ngilungise amaphutha ami futhi ngibonise ukuthi ngingcono kunezenzo zami! "Isenzo sokulindela" isigwebo "sokuphazamiseka futhi ezimweni eziningi sinikeza ithuba lokuthola ukungavumelani.