Uzibonele wena? Noma enye yezintombi zakho? Futhi, mhlawumbe, ingabe usuke ungenakudliwa ngokungafanele? Bese uchitha imizuzu embalwa futhi ufunde le ndaba kuze kube sekugcineni - ngizokutshela indlela yokubhekana nezifo eziningi zabesifazane nendlela yokuphatha ngayo ikhanda lakho!
Ngakho-ke, uma omunye wakho azibonele ngempela noma okungenani uvale lokhu - lokhu kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuthola. Kodwa lokhu kuyisinyathelo sokuqala. Ngakho-into esemqoka ezayo. Uzoqala kuphi? Okokuqala, udinga ukuqonda ukuthi awudingi ukuphuthuma ngokushesha abangane bakho ngokumesaba kwakho futhi akudingeki ukuba ugijimele ehhovisi likadokotela.
Into yokuqala okudingeka ukwenze ukuqonda, ukukholelwa ukuthi noma yikuphi kwezifo zakho kungumngani noma intombi evele ikuxwayise ngenkinga yangaphakathi yesimo sengqondo. Isibonelo, uxabana nomunye umuntu noma into engahlanganyeli emsebenzini, futhi ngokujwayelekile - kunezimo eziningi empilweni, futhi lo muntu ufana "nasemgodleni wakho", empeleni kungabonakala ngesimo somqala. Kubalulekile ukuxazulula le nkinga kumhlukumezi kanti lesi sifo sizodlula ngokwayo. Ngokwemvelo, angizikhohlisi, futhi ngempela ungabamba ubanda, kodwa ngikholelwa - lezi zimo ezingenhla zingenzeka kaningi kunalokho ocabanga. Ngakho-ke, awukwazi ukuwukulahla lesi sifo, ngaphandle kwalokho kungaba nemiphumela emihle ngokomzimba. Kodwa awukwazi ukucindezela umzimba wakho nganoma iyiphi indlela, noma-izokwenza buthakathaka isimiso somzimba sokuzivikela komzimba futhi sizobhekana nesifo esivamile, kunzima nakakhulu.
Ngakho-ke, udinga ukuqonda lokho okushiwo umngane wakho kuwe - akulona nzima, vala amehlo akho futhi ucabange ukuthi iyiphi ingxenye yomzimba okuyiyona ndawo phakathi nobuhlungu bakho. Thumela ukunakwa kwakho lapho, futhi uzoqonda konke. Ochwepheshe batusa ukuzindla, ngoba lokhu kuzokunika umbono wesayizi nombala wezinhlungu zakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukubona ngeso lengqondo ubuhlungu bakho bubukeke. Kukuzindla ukuthi kulula ukuqonda ukuthi yini ekuphileni okudingayo ukuze uguqule ukuze ubuhlungu budlule.
Ngisho noma ungomunye walabo besifazane abaqonda ukuthi ukwelashwa kudinga ukuqala ngokuqonda imbangela yalesi sifo, kodwa ukwesaba ukukholelwa ukuthi kuzothela izithelo, funda izifo ezincanekazi kanye nendlela yokuphatha ngayo ngosizo lwekhanda. Ungakholwa kuphela kuwe futhi uphulukise umzimba wakho - wonke umuntu okufanele azame ukwenza, othanda futhi ozihlonipha yena.
Ukungezwani komzimba.
Njengoba wazi, ukungezwani komzimba kuyindlela yokusabela ngayo amasosha omzimba wakho ngaphandle kwezinto noma izinto ezingekho ingozi. Kufana nomuntu othabatha konke - amazwi angenacala noma noma yimiphi imibono eyamvakashela emini. Qaphela - ukungezwani komzimba kuvame ukuvela ngesisekelo sokwesaba okuthile, izimo zokuphila ezingathandeki, ama-phobias, ukwesaba, ukucindezeleka, njll. Futhi emva kwakho konke - ukudlula okuningi kokungezwani komzimba, lapho bephazamiseka, balele noma basesimweni esamukelekayo nomtholampilo. Ungashintsha futhi ekudleni okulinganiselayo.
Indlela yokuphatha?
Ku-NLP kunamasu amaningana avumela ukwedlula wonke ukwelashwa kwemithi. Okuyisisekelo sezinto ezivamile - fundisa isimiso sakho somzimba sokuzivikela sokungayinaki i-allergen lapho umzimba wakho uzwela khona. Lokhu kudinga ukuhambisana nemibandela ethile: uyazi izifo zabo, inombolo yabo ayidluli emihlanu, unesizathu esibi kakhulu sokususa futhi ukhumbule kahle uma kuqala. Uma ngabe yiyiphi yalezi zimo azitholakali - hhayi okubi, kodwa ukwelashwa kungabambezeleka isikhathi eside kakhulu. Into eyinhloko okufanele uyikhumbule ukuthi ungakwazi futhi kufanele uthembele ngaphakathi kwakho, ngisho noma kuphazamiseka inkinga enjalo yezokwelapha. Thembela imizwa yakho.
Ukungalali.
Ngokuvamile, lokhu kungumphumela wezingxabano ezithile zangaphakathi. Ukuxazulula le mpikiswano kusho ukususa ukulala. Noma uvele uphelelwe amandla futhi umzimba uthumela isignali ukuthi idinga ukuphumula. Ngokufanayo, ezimweni ezingavamile, kodwa kungenzeka ukuthi lokhu kuyinkinga yakho kuphela - uyaqaphela kuphela umbuzo owaziyo, futhi ungazi lutho - uyayenqaba, futhi ungazi lutho nje ubusuku. Mhlawumbe ungacabangi, uyesaba ukufa.
Indlela yokuphatha?
Awukwazi ukusiza amaphilisi okulala, udinga ukuqonda lokhu. Into esemqoka ukuthola imbangela yezifo zalesi sifo. Isibonelo, uma uhlupheka ngenxa yokwesaba ukufa - thatha uhlangothi oluthile lwezinto ezikhona ukuze ube khona eduze kwenhliziyo yakho - futhi uzokwenza abangane naye. Uma uhlushwa yinoma yikuphi ukungqubuzana kwengqondo, kwanele ukuxoxa nomuntu oseduze noma isazi sengqondo. Zonke lezi zinyathelo zizosiza ukucacisa imbangela yokulala kwakho ngokusobala ngokucacile. Kodwa isiphetho sokugcina sizoba nzima kakhulu - lokhu kuzosiza ukuzindla.
I-Herpes.
Okumangalisa ukuthi cishe bonke abathwali begciwane, kanti abanye bangaguli nhlobo, kuyilapho ezinye izifo zihlala zihlaselwa. Lokhu kuphela kubonisa ukuthi igciwane akuyona imbangela yangempela yalesi sifo, kungumphumela kuphela. I-Herpes ibonakala ngenxa yokunciphisa amandla omzimba, futhi lokhu kwenzeka ngesikhathi noma ngemva kokucindezeleka. Qaphela uma kubonakala - uma kuboniswa kwezinye izifo zesikhumba, mhlawumbe, ukwesaba ukukhulumisana, umphakathi futhi ufuna ukushiywa wedwa uma igciwane lizibonakalisa phakathi kwengxoxo ethile engathandeki kuwe - mhlawumbe uma uhlushwa ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi nokuqhuma kubonakala uma kuziwa ekuphileni kocansi.
Indlela yokuphatha?
Lapha into ebaluleke kunazo zonke ukuqonda ukuthi yiziphi izimo nokuthi nini i-herpes. Ekuqaleni uyaqonda lokhu - ngokushesha kuzocaca ukuthi kuwe okubangela ukuzonda nokungawuthandi. Wena, kulesi simo, udinga ukuvumelana nemicabango yakho, imizwa nezifiso zakho. Futhi zinikeze ukwaneliseka kwazo zonke izifiso zakho zobulili! Akukho lutho olungcolile kulokhu.
Izinwele.
Njengomthetho, konke kulula lapha - insizwa iyisibonakaliso sokuthi uzama njalo ukuzihlukanisa nemicabango engadingekile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokwanda ngokweqile kwemicabango phezu kwemizwa. Ngakho-ke, into yokuqala okudingeka uyenze iphumula. Vumela ukukhulula ukucindezeleka.
Indlela yokuphatha?
Kukhona inqubo eyodwa ephumelelayo kakhulu - ukubona ngeso lengqondo ukuthi ingxenye yekhanda elilimazayo nokuthi uzama ukuyiphefumula kanjani. Futhi uphefumula u-10 ngalesi sikhala kanye nokuphelelwa isikhathi okungu-10 ngekhaleni, khona-ke ukuphuma kwezingu-10 ngokusebenzisa i-stain no-10 ukuphefumula emakhaleni. Okumangalisayo, kodwa kakhulu lo msebenzi usiza ukuqeda ubuhlungu.
Isizungu.
Lesi yisifo sesifo esiyingozi kakhulu. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ulahlekelwa ukulinganisela nokuma kwesikhala. Futhi awunawo amandla nokuqonda ukucacisa indlela yokuxazulula le nkinga noma leyo nkinga nokuthi uzohamba kuphi mayelana nesisombululo sale nkinga. Umhlaba uphuma ngaphansi kwezinyawo zakho, futhi ulahlekelwa iziqephu eziqinile.
Indlela yokuphatha?
Ukuphulukisa lokhu, kubonakala sengathi ukugula okunzima, ngezinye izikhathi kulula kakhulu - kholelwa kuwe! Ungavumeli isimo silawulwe imicabango yakho nemizwelo yakho. Awufuni nje ukuvuka ngezinyawo zakho futhi akukho abacebisi nodokotela abazokusiza. Khumbula - ayikho inkinga engakwazi ukuxazululwa.
Ukucindezeleka.
Kujwayele ukugula okuningi nokuningi kakhulu. Inhliziyo yayo ayineliseki ngempilo yakho, ukuhlelwa kwezinto ezisungulwe, izenzakalo ezizungezile. Ukucindezeleka kuphela kuqinisa lo mzwa - awunabangane abanethemba futhi konke kuqale kancane ukwesaba konke. Ngokuvamile, konke lokhu kubangelwa ukungabi nokwethembela kuwe, usuke uthatha umthwalo wemfanelo kukho konke ukubhekana nezimo zangaphandle zokuphila, ngakho-ke, njengokungathi ungashiywanga kulokho okwenzekile.
Indlela yokuphatha?
Ukuthola ukholo kuwe kuyisisombululo kuphela. Ungakwenza kanjani lokhu? Cabanga ukuthi yini oyifunayo ngempela empilweni, bese ubuza - yini engivimbela ukuba ngifeze lokho engikufunayo? Khumbula ukuthi ukuhlala nomzwelo wokuthi awusoze uthole lokho okufunayo yindlela eya ekucindezelekeni okukhulu nokwesabekayo okungaphumelela kakhulu empilweni yakho. Indlela elandelayo iyabonakala kuma-psychotherapists - ukubona ngeso lengqondo zonke izimo zokuphila ezenzeke kuwe empilweni yakho nokuthi ngubani okulimazile ngandlela-thile. Futhi ucabange ukuthi uzokuziphatha kanjani kulezi zimo, kodwa manje, uhlomile nge-audacity nesibindi. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi kushintsha umlando womuntu siqu.
Ukuqokwa.
Ekuqaleni komntwana, umuntu ngamunye uhlakulela izici zobuntu bakhe, amaphethini wokuziphatha, abese ehamba emgqeni ngokusebenzisa impilo yakhe yonke. Yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu nezingane zisencane ukuphatha kahle. Isibonelo, uma ingane ijwayele ukuhlanzeka ngokuhlanza, imphoqa ukuba ahlambe, khona-ke angakha uhlobo oluthile lomlingiswa, olunezici ezilandelayo: ukuhamba ngezinyawo, ukuhlukumeza, ukunemba, inkani eningi ngokweqile nokucophelela ngemininingwane encane kakhulu. Zilawula wena nabanye, ngezinye izikhathi abawela zonke izici. Yilolu hlobo olungahle lubangele ukuvela kokujwayelekile kumuntu.
Indlela yokuphatha?
Ukuze ubhekane nokuqothulwa, kufanele uphenduke ekuboneni okubonakalayo kokudala. Kodwa-ke, oyisiphukuphuku kanye nokuvinjelwa kungase kuzwakale, kuzodingeka ucabange inqubo yokuhlukunyezwa, ukuthi isisu sakho sihlanza kanjani, indlela inqubo yokukhipha iyahamba ngayo. Kubalulekile ukuphindaphinda njalo imishwana ethize ezosiza ekuthuthukiseni ukusebenza kwamathumbu: "Isisu sami nesistimu ye-excretory isebenza ngokuphelele. Akukho lutho oluhluphayo kimi. Ngithanda le nqubo. Ngivame ukuya endlini yangasese. " Ngenxa yalolu hlobo lokuziqeqesha, maduzane uzokwazi ukukhohlwa ngalezi zinkinga, mayelana nokuthi uma ngabe kukubangele izinkinga nezinkinga.
Isisindo esiningi.
Yini ongayisho ngenkinga yesisindo esiningi? Ngokuvamile, izinkinga ezinesisindo esiningi zivela ekubukeleni komuntu ukunganeliseki ngokocansi. Uma umuntu engenawo ocansini okwanele, uma unezicansi ezingathandeki ezithandanayo ezingenalo ukwaneliseka nokwaneliseka, cishe, lokhu kuyoholela ekutheni umuntu uzoba nezinkinga ngokuzicabangela ngokweqile. Iqiniso liwukuthi ngosizo lokudla umuntu uqala ukukhokhela ukungabi nokuthokozisa ngokobulili, engayithola. Esinye isizathu sezinkinga ngokuqhathanisa ngokweqile kungase kube okulandelayo. Ngosizo lokudla, amakhilogremu engeziwe, umuntu uzama ukufihla ezweni langaphandle, ukufihla ngaphakathi kwakhe. Futhi, ukuba khona komuntu we-mazahist kuholela ekukhulupheni. Uma umuntu ethatha umthwalo owengeziwe ngezenzo zabanye, ngokuphila kwabo, ngezinkinga zabo. Ngenxa yalokhu kudingeka abuyele emuva futhi ahlale ngokuqiniseka ngokwanele ezinyaweni zakhe.
Indlela yokuphatha?
Akukhathaleki ukuthi yisiphi isizathu sokuba into eyinhloko ngokuthi unamapounds engeziwe, hhayi nje okungadingekile, kodwa okuningi okuningi. Yebo, akukho ukudla, ukunamathela esimisweni sokunikezwa kwamandla lapha angeke kusize, namanje amaphilisi angeke abuye futhi maduzane, uma isimo sengqondo somuntu, ukucabanga kwakhe kanye nokucabanga kwengqondo kuyohlala kungashintshi. Okuhle kulokhu kuzokwenza lokhu okulandelayo: ukuqhuba ukuhlaziywa futhi uzithole ukuthi yiziphi izimo othola isisindo, nokuthi yini - ukulahlekelwa isisindo. Ngokuqinisekile, kunesimiso, uma ukhetha, ngeke ukwazi ukulahlekelwa yiziphi amaphilisi engeziwe.
Coryza.
UCoryza uvame ukuvela kubantu abaphila ngokucindezeleka njalo. Bahlale begijima ngandlela-thile, kodwa bahlale bephuzile, bahlale bekhathazekile ngento ethile, baxakekile, bephuthuma njalo, bephikisana ngakho. Iphutha le-Runny liwuphawu lokungqubuzana komzimba, ubuchopho, ikhanda. Lapho umcucu uqhubeka ugeleza emgodini wakho wezintambo, amahlumela akhululwa, lokhu, okwamanje, akumnandi ngokwanele. Iqiniso liwukuthi impumulo ibonisa ukuxhumana kwakho nezwe langaphandle. Ukuba khona komkhuhlane ovamile kubonisa ngokucacile ukuba khona kwezinkinga kumuntu ongaphandle kwezwe. Kuzwakala kanje: "Angikwazi ukuma umoya wakho", okuqinisekisiwe ngekhala eliphakade.
Indlela yokuphatha?
Iphutha le-Runny luhlobo lokuvikelwa komzimba womuntu kusuka ekungeneni kwangaphandle. Misa, uthathe ikhefu, cabanga ngalokho okubaluleke kakhulu kuwe, okubaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Yehla ijubane lokunyakaza kwakho, bheka nxazonke, ucabange, ungaziphakamisi wena ngokwakho ngokusebenzisa i-chur ngokuqinile? Mhlawumbe kufanele siphumule futhi sivumele izinto zihambe zodwa. Bheka ngaphakathi kwakho bese uzama ukuthola izidingo zakho zangempela, noma ngabe azihambisani nemibono yakho ozidalile yona. Nansi esinye sezifo zabesifazane nendlela yokuphatha ngazo ngosizo lwekhanda.
I-Anorexia.
Omagazini bamanje, imibukiso yemidlalo, ithelevishini ibeka amantombazane amantombazane amancane isithombe sokubukeka okubuhlungu nokubuhlungu. Njalo intombazane yesibili emhlabeni uqiniseke ukuthi unamafutha futhi ufuna ukulahlekelwa isisindo emibonweni yesimodeli sakhe esimthandayo, esicishe sishaye umoya. Ukwehlisa ngokweqile, njengokusindisa ngokweqile, kuyingozi kakhulu empilweni, i-anorexia ingabangela imiphumela engaphenduki emzimbeni. Iqiniso liwukuthi i-anorexia ivame ukuthinteka kakhulu abafundi besifazane abahle kakhulu ekuphileni, abazama ukuphumelela kuzo zonke izindawo zokuphila kwabo. Ngokuvamile izimbangela zesifo ziba nesifiso esinamandla sokuhlukana nabazali bazo, ukubonisa wonke umuntu nakho konke okuyiyona inkosikazi yomzimba wakho, impilo yakho, ukuthi ungenza noma yini. Futhi isizathu sokuba i-anorexia isifiso samantombazane amancane ukufakazela kubo bonke ukuthi bangcono kakhulu, ukuze baphumelele. Ngandlela-thile, i-anorexia ingabangela ukuthi kufanele upheleleke njalo ngenyanga, umsebenzi ophazamisayo neminye eminye imiphumela. Ngeshwa, i-anorexia yisifo sesifazane. Indlela yokuphatha ngayo ngosizo lwekhanda?
Indlela yokuphatha?
I-Anorexia inezigaba zayo, kodwa uma intombazane ifinyelela esiteji sesithathu, lapho esesilahle khona kakade u-30% wesisindo sayo, khona-ke kuyodingeka ukuthi abe esibhedlela, ngoba akakwazi ukubhekana naye ngalokhu. Esimweni esinjalo, kungcono ukungabi, nakanjani. Uma uqonda ukuthi uhlushwa yi-anorexia, kungcono ukuthi ungangeni esiteji esiphezulu, uye ku-psychologist ochwepheshe. Kuzokusiza ukuba uqonde izizathu zokuthi uhlaselwe i-anorexia, isazi sokudla okunomsoco sizosiza ukuthi wenze uhlelo olufanele lokudla oluzosiza ekuqedeni izinkinga ngokuntuleka kwesisindo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi inqubo yokulungisa ayenzeki ngokushesha kakhulu.
Ukuhlukana okuvamile.
Njengoba ukucwaninga kososayensi kubonisa, ukuhlukunyezwa kuvame ukuvela kubantu abajwayele ukuzijezisa ngokuziphatha okubi okungavumelani nemibono yabo. Uma ngokuzumayo unomuzwa wecala phambi komunye umuntu, khona-ke ungazama ukuzijezisa ngokwakho ngengalo ephukile noma umlenze.
Indlela yokuphatha?
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukukhomba imbangela yemicabango yakho yecala kumuntu. Zama ukuthola ukuthi kungani uzizwa unecala. Ngokuvamile inkohlakalo isishushisa kusukela ebuntwaneni. Zama ukukhumbula, ungaphinda usebenzise usizo lomuntu onguchwepheshe we-hypnotist, ozokwenza ube ngumbono futhi uzokwazi ukuthola imbangela yomqondo wakho wecala. Kubalulekile ukulalela izwi lakho elingaphakathi, ukuqonda ukuthi yini okudingeka ukwenze ukuze ususe icala ekhanda lakho. Esinye sezifo zesifazane. Indlela yokuphatha ngayo ngosizo lwekhanda.
Uhudo.
Ngenkinga yokudla okunjalo njengesifo sohudo, okulandelayo kwenzeka: ukudla akugcini ngokugcwele. Phakathi nenqubo yokugaya ukudla, ukudla akugcini ngokugcwele, umzimba awutholi izakhi ezidingekayo kanye nezici zokulandelela. I-diarrhea iyinkomba ecacile yokuthi umuntu unesifiso sokubhekana nezinto ezithile kuphela. Umuntu unokwesaba okuzibophezela ngokuba engakwazi ukubhekana nanoma yini, ukholelwa ukuthi akakwazi ukubhekana nesimo, ukuthi angaphezu kwamandla akhe, ngakho-ke ufuna enye indlela yokuphuma. Ukuba khona kwesifo sohudo kanye nezinkinga zokugaya kungenxa yokuthi umuntu unenkinga yokuzethemba.
Indlela yokuphatha?
Ukuze ususe inkinga ebizwa ngokuthi "isifo sohudo", kuzodingeka usebenze ngokwakho. Okokuqala, kufanelekile ukusebenza ngenkinga yokuzethemba. Qala ukwenza okuthile, ungesabi, yonke impumelelo yakho, yonke impumelelo yomsebenzi wakho izokusiza ukuba ubhekane nenkinga yokungalondeki. Ngokuvamile uzitshele umsizakalo, ukwandise ukuzethemba kwakho ngezindlela eziningi. Zithokozise njalo, thola izikhathi ezimnandi ekuziphatheni kwakho. Zama ukuqinisa ukuzethemba nganoma yiziphi izindlela, lokhu kuzokusiza ukuqeda inkinga ngehudo.
Emuva.
Ukuba khona kwezinkinga emuva kubantu kubonisa nokuba khona kwezinkinga ngokuxubana. Futhi lokhu ukuhlanganisana kungazibonakalisa kunoma iyiphi indawo yokuphila kwakho, kodwa, okokuqala, lokhu kubonisa ukuthi unezingqinamba zangaphakathi ezibalulekile ukususa. Iqiniso liwukuthi ungakwazi ukuzibamba izinkathazo ezingadingekile, izinkinga ezingadingekile ezihlobene nokuphila kwakho. Ukuzidinga ngokweqile wena kanye nabasondelene nabo kuholela ezinkingeni ngemuva kwakho. Abantu abanjalo baqondiswa ubuhle, kepha umthwalo onjalo uba nzima kakhulu kubo.
Indlela yokuphatha?
Ukuze ususe izinkinga emuva, kufanele ulahle umqondo wakho wokuqonda ukuthi ungakanani uhlobo lokuphila okumele ube nakho, ngalezo zimfundiso ezingamanga ezibeka umthwalo ongenakuqhathaniswa kuwe. Ingabe kuwufanelekile ukuthatha umthwalo ongenakubekezelela okukudonsa phansi, obangela izinkinga ngomhlane wakho. Zibekele kuphela lezozinto ozokwazi ukusingatha, isinqumo esikuthokozisa injabulo nokwaneliseka kwangempela, futhi akukwenzi kukunganeliseki kwakho.
Nausea, ukuhlanza.
Inkinga yezinyosi, eholela ekusizeni isisulu noma ukuhlanza, ibonisa ukungabikho kobuchopho bakho ukuthi kwenzeke imicimbi, lokhu kuboniswa ngesifiso esinamandla sokungavumelani nokugaya isimo. Ngokuvamile umuntu angakwazi ukuthuthukisa ukuhlanza noma ukucabangela ukuhlanza lapho efika kunoma yisiphi isimo noma uzama ukubhekana nezinkinga ezivela kuzo. Ngokuvamile izinkinga ezinjalo zenzeka kubesifazane abakhulelwe.
Indlela yokuphatha?
Okokuqala kudingekile ukuthi kuchazwe noma kunqunywe inkinga ovela kuyo kakhulu, ukuthi yisiphi isinqumo esibangela ukuba unqabe kakhulu. Zama ukuqeda le nkinga ngokudlulisela inkinga komunye umuntu. Mhlawumbe isizathu siwukuthi awuziguzi, thola isizathu futhi usilahle, khona-ke uzolahlekelwa yisicashu nokuhlanza.
I-acne.
I-acne, njengezinye izifo zesikhumba, isibonakaliso sokuthi unenkinga yokuxhumana, izinkinga zokuxhumana kwangaphandle nezwe langaphandle, isifiso sokuzivikela ekukhulumisaneni, ukufihla ngemuva kwesikhumba senkinga. Izinkinga ezinjalo zifanekisela ukuzihlukanisa, ukufihlwa, ukuyeka. Ukuba khona kwamathambo kusikisela ukuthi umuntu unelungelo lokunciphisa okungaqondakali kwezifiso zakhe, ukungabi nokwaneliseka ngempilo yakhe. Kodwa, yini ecindezelwe kakhulu umuntu ophuma. Ngokuvamile, imbangela yezinyosi iwukucindezeleka, ukucindezela kwayo, ukungafuni ukuphuma kuyo.
Indlela yokuphatha ngayo.
Ukuze ususe ama-acne nezinye izinkinga zesikhumba, kufanele wenze umsebenzi onzima kakhulu ngaphakathi kwakho. Qala ukuzijwayeza ukuzitshela ukuthi unesiqiniseko sokuthi unamandla okubhekana nazo zonke izinkinga, ukuthi uyazijabulisa futhi uvulekile, ukuthi awusabi abantu ababajwayele. Ngokuvamile iya ezindaweni ezintsha, qala abantu abajwayele ukuxhumana nabo, baxoxe. Ungesabi ukwenza ngokuvumelana nezifiso zakho, ungesabi ukuveza imizwa yakho, yiba nesibindi. Izifo zesifazane, indlela yokuphatha ngazo ngosizo lwekhanda.
Ukufiphaza.
Kunezizathu eziningana zokuphelelwa kwesifazane. Njengoba le ntombazane esemncane ingakhuthaza intombazane ukuthi ubulili bubuhlungu, bubi futhi bubi, kuphelile ngokuthi ukuxhumana kocansi okokuqala akuphumelelanga, ukuthi kubuhlungu noma lo mlingani wayengaqondi. Umlingani ongenayo, ukubanda kwawo, izinkinga zangaphakathi, ukutholakala kwezinkimbinkimbi zokungabaza, nokunye okuningi kungabangela ukuqina.
Indlela yokuphatha?
Ukuze ususe ukuphelela, kufanele uthole ukuthi kungani kubonakala, ukuhlaziya, ukudalula isikhathi esivela kuso, zama ukuchaza izisusa zokuziphatha kwakho, uma ungakwazi ukuphatha ngokwakho, cela usizo lochwepheshe wezocansi. Ukunqoba ukwesaba nokungavikeleki, futhi uzothola izwe elisha elithakazelisayo lobuhlobo bobulili.
Ulcer.
Isilonda sibonisa ukuhlukunyezwa okuqondiswe kuwe. I-ulcer ngokuvamile iyenzeka kulabo bantu abafuna ukuzibhubhisa kusuka ngaphakathi kwabo. Ukuhlukunyezwa kwabo akutholakali indlela yokuphuma, kungena ngaphakathi. Umuntu obhekene nesilonda, cishe, akakwazi ukuveza intukuthelo yakhe.
Indlela yokuphatha?
Ukuze ususe isilonda, kufanele ubheke isimo ngokuhlukile. Thola izizathu zokuhlukunyezwa kwakho nokuthi kungani ungenakukuthululela ngaphandle, kodwa ziqondise ngaphakathi. Kungani une-flash of anger? Ngimaphi amathuba okuphila kwakho ozama ukuwacindezela futhi uwafake ngaphakathi kwakho? Thola imbangela yenkinga yangaphakathi, zama ukuxazulula izinkinga ngokuhlukile. Ukuzindla kuzokusiza kulokhu.