Nokho, ayikho inkinga enkulu kule nkinga. Iqiniso liwukuthi kunezikhathi zokuthuthukiswa kwengane, lapho kunzima ukugwema ubudlelwano phakathi kwezingane nabazali. Ngakho lolu hlobo lwenkinga aluyona evamile, kuvamile, kungashiwo ukuthi kuyadingeka cishe yonke imindeni.
Izazi ze-psychologists ezahlukene zinikeza ngezigaba ezahlukene zezinkinga zezingane. Noma kunjalo, iningi labo lenza izinkinga ezilandelayo zokuthuthukiswa kwengane: inkinga yonyaka owodwa, inkinga yeminyaka emithathu, inkinga yeminyaka emihlanu, ubunzima bezingane zasenkulisa nabaseminyakeni yobudala (iminyaka engu-6-7), inkinga yobusha (iminyaka engu-12-15) kanye nenkinga yentsha Iminyaka engu-18-22).
Ukuvela kwenkinga ngayinye ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwezingane nabazali kuyedwa ngesikhathi esifanele, ukuze izinkomba zeminyaka zibe nemibandela. Kukhona izingane ezibhekana nenkinga yeminyaka emithathu eminyakeni engu-2.5. Futhi kwenzeke ukuthi inkinga yentsha isondela eduze neminyaka eyi-17.
Eqinisweni, izinkinga zezingane zingamaphuzu anjalo ekuthuthukiseni kwengane ephawula ukushintshela esiteji esisha sokuthuthukiswa. I-acuteness yalokho okuhlangenwe nakho kwalesi sikhathi sokuguquka incike ekuhlanganiseni jikelele phakathi kwezingane nabazali. Ngakho ezinye izingane zihamba ngezinyathelo ezibucayi zentuthuko ngezingxabano nezinkinga, kuyilapho kwezinye izingane lezi zigaba cishe zingabonakali. Inkinga ebuhlotsheni engeke iphakame uma abazali bezimisele ekuqaleni ukukhula kwengane yabo, noma okungenani bafundiswa kancane emkhakheni wezingqondo zezingane.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu abazali abayidingayo mayelana nezinkinga zezingane ukuze kuvinjelwe izingxabano nezinkinga ebuhlotsheni yizimbangela zezinkinga. Isizathu esiyinhloko, njengoba sibhala ngenhla, ukushintshela esiteji esisha sokuthuthukiswa. Ingane isuvele iqalile ukushintshela esiteji esisha, kodwa engakhuli ngokwanele ukuba abazali bamamukele emandleni amasha. Ngakho-ke, kukhona izingxabano eziningi ebuhlotsheni bomntwana nabazali.
Isibonelo, eminyakeni emithathu ubudala ingane iqala ukuzwa isidingo sokuzimela okokuqala. Ufuna ukucatshangwa ngombono wakhe lapho ekhetha izingubo noma ukudla, lapho ukhetha isikhathi sokuhamba nokuthenga amathoyizi esitolo. Le nkulumo: "Mina ngokwami" - iba yilapho isetshenziselwa ukukhulumisana kwengane. Abazali abaningi babonakala bengenangqondo izidingo ezinjalo zisengumntwana omncane, futhi ziphikisana nesinyathelo esisha somntwana. Ngenxa yalokho, bathola ama-hysterics aphelile, ukwenqaba ukuphuma, ukugqoka noma ukudla. Ukuphendula okunzima ngokomzwelo njengamahloni kanye nemizwelo akuyona into efiselekayo ngisho nangenkinga, ngakho abazali kufanele bafunde ukuthi bangasabela kanjani ngokuvumelana nezinguquko empilweni yengane.
Abazali bazisiza izeluleko eziningi nezincomo zengqondo. Ake sithi ingane yakho eneminyaka emithathu ifuna ukuzigqoka, kodwa azi ukuthi kanjani. Abaningi basiza uchungechunge lwemidwebo noma izinhlelo zokusebenza ezenziwa ngokubambisana nomntwana, futhi kuzo zonke izinhlelo zokugqoka. Yini ehlanganiswayo - izinto ezigqoke zokugqoka zixhunywe yimicibisholo, ingane ibuka lezi zithombe futhi lokhu kwenza kube lula ukuzigqoka. Lesi sithombe singaboshwa egumbini noma ekamelweni lokulala futhi ingane ingakwazi ukuzimisela kuyo. Okufanayo kuya kokudla. Ngisho noma umntwana engazi ukuthi adle kanjani, kodwa ufuna ukuzenza ngokwakhe, kunconywa ukuthi ube nesineke futhi umsize ngeseluleko noma ngezibonelo zakhe. Indlela yokukhipha iqanda elibilisiwe, ukuthi ungagcina kanjani i-spoon, ukuze isobho singadli, - konke lokhu ingane kufanele iqeqeshelwe ukuthi ingayichitha noma ingabe iyakhathazeka.
Indlela engcono kakhulu yokusabela ezinkingeni ezinjalo ukubekezela nokuphinde ube nesineke. Kuzokuvuza esikhathini esizayo. Phela, inkinga yeminyaka emithathu ivela esikhathini sokuzwela okukhethekile kwengane ekuthuthukiseni ukuzimela, umsebenzi, isimo sengqondo sokucabanga kanye nenhloso ekuphileni. Uma izimpikiswano zalo zicindezelwa, khona-ke kungenzeka ukuba sikhule umuntu obuthakathaka, ongekho emthethweni, evele ekhuluma - "i-rag". Futhi ukulungisa ngesikhathi somdala lezi zimfanelo ezingathandeki zomuntu nokuziphatha komuntu kuyoba nzima kakhulu.
Uma ucabanga ngesimiso esijwayelekile senkinga ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwabantwana nabazali, kulula ukuthola "ukungahambisani" okufanayo phakathi kwesifiso nokukwazi ngaso sonke isikhathi somonakalo wengane. Intsha isivele ifuna ukuzimela, kodwa ingakhuli ngokwanele futhi incike kubazali bayo ngokwezezimali. Lokhu kubangela izinkinga ebuhlotsheni nabazali. Izingane zasesikoleni samabanga asenkulisa nezinkondari sezifuna ukukwazi ukufunda nokubhala, zifuna ukukhombisa ulwazi lwesikole ekhaya. Noma kunjalo, ngokuvamile akakwazi ukwenza lokho, okuvusa ama-hysterics nama-moods. Into esemqoka ukubekezela futhi "ukukhuphuka" amathuba omntwana wezifiso zakhe ezintsha. Khona-ke akukho zimo eziyobe zimbi kuwe!