Izimbangela zesahlukaniso sokuqala kwabashadile

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyadabukisa kanjani, kodwa amaphesenti amakhulu okuhlukanisa kwenzeka esikhathini sokuqala somshado. Kodwa kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Kufanelekile ukubhekana nezimbangela zesehlukaniso, ngoba ukwazi izizathu ongashintsha ngazo imiphumela.

1. Isizathu sokuqala - ukuba khona kwezinhloso ezikhohlisayo lapho udala umndeni. Inkulumo kulokhu akuyona impela ngomshado ongamanga, ongahlali wangempela. Inhloso yokukhohlisa ayilungile, ekuqaleni iphutha. Ngamanye amazwi, abantu abasha banquma ukudala umndeni. Yiziphi izizathu ezithile kanye nezinhloso eziqondiswa yizo: ukubalekela kubazali babo - izidakamizwa ezithuthumayo? Noma ingabe befuna ukuxuba abangane babo nabangane babo? Noma uhambe ngezinsuku ezimbalwa ngengubo ye-chic? Ngokwemvelo, lokho okungenangqondo kungabizwa okuningi. Ngokumangalisa, kodwa lezi zizathu zisetshenziselwa imibhangqwana eminingi ukwakha umndeni. Kuyadabukisa ukuthi emini yomshado ababuzi umbuzo oyinhloko: "Kungani kufanele ushade noma ushade?" Izimpendulo zalo mbuzo zinganciphisa kakhulu inani lemishado engaqiniseki.
2. Isizathu sesibili - izinkinga zasendlini. Lapho udala umndeni, abantu abasha ngokuvamile bavele bacabange ngalokho abakulindele emva kweholide elihle nobusuku bokuqala bomshado. Ngempela, umndeni uyinkinga enkulu, lapho bobabili indoda nomfazi kufanele bahlanganyele. Umndeni uthatha ukupheka nsuku zonke, ukugeza, ukuhlanza, ukusabalalisa imisebenzi, kanye nesabelomali somndeni. Cishe akekho oye wagwema izinkinga zasekhaya. Okokuqala kuhlale kunzima, ngoba kubalulekile ukwazi hhayi kuphela ukuthokozisa umnotho, kodwa futhi uqale inqubo yokubambisana. Kudingeka sithole ukubekezela okuningi ngalesi sigaba sempilo yomndeni kanye nezinkinga zansuku zonke ngeke kube yisizathu sokuhlukanisa.
3. Isizathu sesithathu "usizo" lomzali. Njengengqinamba enkulu emndenini ojabulayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuzwakala kanjani ngokuzwakalayo, ngabazali bentsha. Ngokuvamile, abazali abanothando bafuna ukusiza kuphela, ngoba banolwazi oluningi nolwazi emkhayeni womndeni. Kodwa ikakhulukazi abacabangi ngisho nohlobo lwezilwandle nezinkanuko ezingabangela usizo olunjalo.
4. Isizathu sesine ukuntuleka kwezindlu zomuntu siqu. Inkinga yokutholakala kwezindlu zomuntu okwamanje iyingozi kakhulu. Bambalwa abantu abamomotheka isiphetho ngokushesha ngemva komshado ukuba bathuthele endlini yabo noma ezindlini zabo. Ngokuyinhloko, kufanele uphile ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa nabazali bakho noma ukuqasha indlu. Kule nkinga, inkinga ilawulwa kwengqondo, hhayi kwenye into, njengoba umndeni udalwa njengeyunithi yomphakathi. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, ngingazi kahle futhi ngiyazi, ngifuna ukuyibuyisela ngokuzimela nokuzinza, okuyinto engikwazi ukuyinika yona.
5. Isizathu sesihlanu ukuzalwa kwengane. Ukuvela kwengane evela kwabazali abangakalungiseleli lokhu, kubangele ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka. Iphuzu lapha akukhona nje kuphela ubunzima obubonakalayo obuvela ekuzalweni kwengane, kodwa futhi ekukhathala, ukuntuleka kokulala, ukungabi nesekelo lomlingani.
6. Isizathu sesithupha ukungabi nemali, ukukhokhelwa okungazinzile. Izinkinga ezivela esimweni sezimali zivela nhlobo futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kodwa-ke, emndenini omncane ubuhlungu kakhulu, ngoba izifiso eziningi azikwazi ukuhlangabezana ngaphandle kwemali.
7. Isizathu sesishiyagalombili - ukungalingani ngocansi, ukunganeliseki. Inkinga yokungafani kocansi ayiyitholakali emibhangqwaneni engayisebenzisi imithetho ehlanzekile - ungalali ngaphambi komshado. Abashadile abanjalo bangaba nomuzwa wokunganeliseki ngokocansi emva komshado ngesisekelo sezinhlamba noma ukukhulelwa, njll. Le nkinga iphelele futhi iyadlula isikhathi.
8. Isizathu sesishiyagalombili ukungahambisani nokuziphatha, ukungqubuzana. Uhlobo luhlobo lwe-lever oluguqula imicimbi ibe yindlela yokuphila evamile noma isusa amehlo aphuzi emehlweni. Ngezinye izikhathi abantu abasha bathi konke kwakumangalisa ngaphambi komshado wabo: caress, romance, izimbali, ukuqonda okufanayo, futhi emva komshado, ukuphila komndeni waba yinto eyodwa. Iqiniso lokuthi abalingani ngaphambi komshado bazama ukuzithoba njengenzuzo njengezinto ezithile, okuyinto ngokuyisisekelo akuyona ukuthi iyini ngempela.
9. Isizathu sesishiyagalolunye - amaqembu nemikhosi nabangani. Eqinisweni, imifudu ayiyona inkinga, futhi imiphumela abayibangela ingaba yingozi kumbhangqwana. Ngakho-ke, ukusetshenziswa kweziphuzo ezidakayo kuyinto eqhubekayo yokuthembela, futhi ukukhulumisana njalo nama-comrades ekugcineni kufaka ingxoxo ye-conjugal futhi ngenxa yalokho, ukungaqondi phakathi kwalabo abashadile kuyanda.
10. Isizathu seshumi kubumpofu obungokomoya, ukuntuleka kwezidingo ezivamile. Ukungabi khona kwezithakazelo ezihlangene kunganqunywa ngisho nangaphambi komshado, kodwa imindeni idalwe noma kunjalo, ngokusekelwe enkolelweni yokuthi yonke into izolungiswa futhi ishintshwe. Kodwa izibalo zabonisa ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukwakha into engekho ekuqaleni komshado. Kuphoqelekile ukuthi abashadile babe nezithakazelo ezihlangene, izinto zokuzilibazisa, izinkanuko nokubukwa.

Njengamanje kunzima ukudala umndeni, kodwa kunzima nakakhulu ukulondoloza. Futhi ukwazi iziphambeko ezivame kakhulu eziholela ekuhlukaniseni, umndeni ungasindiswa.