Namuhla, abesifazane babhekana nokucwaswa okuningi, ama-stereotypes nokuhlolwa okungalungile endleleni yabo. Amafilosofi eziningi zezici zabo abonisa ukuthi owesifazane uhlasele, akulungile, angalungile. Iyini isizathu salokhu? Isisekelo, ukuthi iningi lefilosofi - isayensi yamadoda, kanye nezindinganiso eziphakeme zomphakathi? Noma ngeqiniso lokuthi abesifazane besakabonakali ngokugcwele emhlabeni, baye bakwazi ukuzibona bona kanye nemizwelo yabo? Kungani umlobi wesifazane noma umlobi emisebenzini yakhe evame ukuzama ukulingisa amadoda? Zingaki iziteketiso zamagama abesifazane abesithatha amadoda? Akukho lutho. Bangaki ama-pseudonyms abesilisa abesilisa? Kuningi kakhulu. Iyini isizathu salokhu? Ingabe kukhona ukungalingani phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, futhi uma kunjalo: kufanele kube njalo? Ingabe lokhu kulungile? Noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, ekuphishekeleni ukulingana, abesifazane bayakhohlwa isisekelo sabo, amalungelo abo, empeleni, nendlela abesifazane ababa nesibindi ngayo.
Ubuningi nobuningi bobukhona kuzo zonke ezisizungezile, ngisho nefilosofi yasehlane, lapho i-yin ne-yang ijwayele zonke izinto - nalokhu kuyisilisa nowesifazane. Ubuntombi nesibindi akuzona izincazelo ezimbili ngokuphelele, inhlayiyana eyodwa noma enye ikhona kulowo nalowo kithi, ngayinye, enikezwa lezi zakhiwo zomphefumulo, ngoba lezi zigaba ezimbili zingaphezu komqondo owodwa, lokhu kuyisistimu yonke yezici ezihambelanayo.
Sivame ukuhlulela ohlangothini lwendoda noma owesifazane ukuthi uyindoda, isibindi. Singawahlulela lokhu ngisho nangenhlawulo, ngokucabangela, ngaphandle kwefilosofi esihlokweni futhi singahlolisisi. Namuhla, sethula inqwaba yezinkolelo eziphathelene nalesi sihloko, kanye nokuthambekela kokungafani okubonakalayo phakathi kwalezi zigaba ezimbili. Imisebenzi eminingi yezenhlalakahle, ezengqondo kanye nefilosofi kulesi sihloko. Yini esikwaziyo namuhla? Kuyini lokhu: indoda nowesifazane?
Owesifazane
I-essence yamantombazane, ingqikithi yemvelo yayo, ukubaluleka kwayo okuyinhloko ezimweni eziningi ubuhle. Leli xabiso liyi-sex, generic. Ngokuba inani le-muzhchinakoy isimo sakhe sezenhlalo, ikhono lokuphila, liphila. Ozhenschine abaningi bahlulelwa ngokuqondene nokubukeka kwakhe. Ukubukeka okuhle kowesifazane kuyisipho nokuhlushwa ngesikhathi esifanayo. Ukuba owesifazane omuhle kakhulu kunzima kakhulu njengokungathi kubi kakhulu. Abesifazane abahle bangakuthola ukunakwa kwamadoda, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, umona nokukhathazeka kwabesifazane. Owesifazane omuhle uvame ukuwageza ngezinkolelo nokuhleba, ngoba konke lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu ibhizinisi labesifazane. Kodwa-ke, ubuhle buyinto ehlala njalo, iyashintsha kakhulu kaningi futhi ngokuvamile isendaweni encane - kusukela ekugula, izimo ezimbi zezulu, njll. Abanqikazi besifazane kaningi abaphuthelwa ithuba lokubuka esibukweni, balungiselele. Kubonakala sengathi bahlolisisa ukuze babone ukuthi ingcebo yabo ebaluleke kakhulu ikhona yini. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, uma kwenzeka umlilo noma enye inhlekelele, lo wesifazane ulahlekelwe ubuhle bakhe - cishe awukwazi ukuwubuyisela. Indoda ingakwazi ukufezekisa isimo sezenhlalakahle ngamandla akhe, uma inayo izici ezidingekayo kulokhu.
Bathi isimo somuntu sisasebenza, kanti abesifazane basuke bengabonakali. Inani lakhe elikhulu, ubuhle, linikezwa kusukela ekuzalweni. Ngothando, abesifazane bathatha okungaphezulu, bavumele ukuthanda kunalokho abathandayo. Owesifazane udinga ukuhlaziya, ukuhlela, ucabange ngomndeni wakhe wesikhathi esizayo, ukhethe umlingani ofanele. Ezimweni eziningi, ludlulisela ingqondo ngokubaluleka kwayo, umuntu uzwela, uthanda konke okusemqoka.
Kuyini ubuhle? Ubuhle yikhono lokuqhubeka nokuqhubeka kule nzalo. Ubuhle buyingxenye yazo zonke izinto eziphilayo, kodwa sibheka abesifazane ngokuhle kakhulu. Abesifazane banhle kunamadoda, ngoba banikeza impilo, banikezwa izimfanelo eziningi. Owesifazane angabizwa ngokuthi uyisiphukuphuku, engavamile, u-hysterical, ububi, kodwa awukwazi ukutshela owesifazane ukuthi uyingozi. Ukutshela lokhu kuzoba nodlame kakhulu. Lokhu kuhlambalaza kakhulu, okuphinde kuphinde kuqinisekise ukuthi okuyinhloko yowesifazane yi-ekrasota.
Kukhona izigaba zezimpahla kuphela zezinsikazi, kodwa azikho amadoda. Owesifazane angakwazi ukugqoka imibala yabantu-abamnyama, abomvu, abomvu, kepha indoda ayikwazi ukugqoka abesifazane - pink, purple, njll. Owesifazane ugqoke amabhulukwe, amahembe, kodwa indoda ayikwazi ukugqoka ingubo noma ingubo, kubonakala ngathi siyinto enengekayo futhi engalungile. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, lapho owesifazane egqoka izingubo zamadoda - sihle kakhulu noma sihle. Kukhona imisebenzi nje yabesifazane, engabandakanyeki emadodeni. Kodwa abesifazane baqhubeka beqaphela umsebenzi "wesilisa", kubonakala kuthakazelisayo, kudumile. Unjiniyela wesifazane uzwakala kangcono kunomhlengikazi womuntu. Uma sibona umdwebo wesifazane, khona-ke siyazi ngokushesha ukuthi lona ungowesifazane, hhayi "umuntu." Owesifazane angavezwa ngezindlela eziningana ezibushelelezi, ngenkathi ngesikhathi esifanayo njengomuntu athola okungenani ayishumi.
Le ndoda
Indoda ingaba yingozi, ingabi nesandla esisodwa, kodwa uma ingumdwebi jikelele noma umculi omkhulu - owesifazane uhamba ngendlela yakhe, uthandana nenani lakhe lomphakathi. Izigaba zamadoda zinomnotho nakwezenhlalo. Abaqondi kahle "ezombusazwe zangaphakathi nobudlelwane," ukuhleba nokukhohlisa akude kakhulu nezinto ezingabantu. Kodwa inqubomgomo "yangaphandle" ibhizinisi labo. Izepolitiki, ifilosofi yizinto ezikhethekile zesilisa. Umlingiswa womuntu yiloludwa oluzomsiza ekwenzeni okuthile ekuphileni. Okusemqoka nokuphila komuntu kusebenza, empini, kufinyelela, kuthatha ulwazi lwendawo noma ulwazi olungenamthetho. Ubuhle bakhe bungenziwa futhi ngezandla zakhe. Imisipha ingaphakanyiswa ehholo, kuyilapho ubuhle besifazane bubunikwa ngokwemvelo, uyisipho sezakhi zofuzo, owesifazane empilweni yakhe ukhululekile kakhulu. Amadoda ashada, abesifazane bashada. Indoda iyathanda ngalesi sikhathi, iyakwazi ukuhlala isikhashana, ukuthanda ngentshiseko nangomusa. Owesifazane ngokuvamile ubheka phambili, amapulani, amaphupho, ahamba emafwini. Kuyinto enembile - idinga ukuzizwa, ngabe lokhu noma lowo mlingani omuhle, okuzokwenzeka kuyo, kuzokukhathalela.
Namuhla
Sithini uhlobo lomfazi? Ukubheka kwethu kusiza ukuchaza ukuthi "owesifazane" uyabukeka kanjani. Uhle, unomusa, unomusa, unothando, unhle, unomomotheka, uphahla njengelanga, unomusa-inhliziyo, uzizwa, uqonda ... Sibona kanjani indoda? Unamandla, uphumelele, ubukeka, buqinile, buqotho, buvulekile, ngomuzwa wokuhlekisa, njll. Namuhla, amadoda aqhubeka "abe wesifazane" futhi ngokuphambene: abesifazane banesibindi. Wonke umuntu ubonakala efuna ukuya ngaphesheya komsebenzi wabo. Ingabe kuyadingeka? Udinga ukuzwa ukhululekile endimeni yakho futhi ungazami ukuhamba ngaphesheya ukuze ubonakale njengomunye umuntu. Ubuntfu nobuningi bayizipho kumuntu ngamunye kithi, okufanele siziqhenya ngaye.