Izingane zishaya futhi zihlambalaza

Izingane empilweni yabazali bazo zithatha i-niche ebaluleke kakhulu, wonke umzali uzama ukunikeza ingane yakhe ethandekayo engcono kakhulu, engayitholanga ebuntwaneni bakhe. Sithanda, siyabonga, sivikela izingane zethu, sizama ukuzijabulisa kuzo zonke izinto. Kodwa-ke, ngezinye izikhathi, ngokuphambene nezifiso zethu, imizwa yezingane kanye nezidlova ezenzekayo, lapho abazali belahlekile, ezimweni eziningi, ngezikhathi zokuzizwa, abazali bazama ukujabulisa, ukukhuluma ngokuphambene, ukuphikisana nezingane.

Ngokweziphetho zososayensi nodokotela bezinzwa ze-neuropathologists, ukukhathazeka kwengane akuyona into kodwa ukubonakaliswa kobudlova obuqinile, intukuthelo, ukucasuka ngisho nokuphelelwa ithemba. Lokhu kudabuka ngokomzwelo kuhambisana nokukhala, ukumemeza, ukunyakaza okukhathazayo komzimba (izingalo, imilenze, ikhanda, isiqu). Ngesinye isikhathi ngesikhathi izinga lokushisa lomntwana elikhukhulayo likhuphuka, ubuso buphenduka obomvu bese buba khona. Izimbangela zokungabikho kwengane zingase zihluleke ukuhlangabezana nezidingo nezifiso, izingane eziningi ziyingozi ezindaweni ezijwayelekile, isibonelo, izitolo, izimakethe, izibhedlela, izinkulisa. Ngaphansi kwezimo ezinjalo, ukuvela kwamakhohlisi (izindawo zomphakathi), abazali bazama ukuzolahla ingane emncenga kukho konke, kepha lokhu kuyindlela engafanele yokuziphatha kwabazali, ngoba izingane zisebenzisa ama-hysteric kuphela ngenhloso yokuthola lokho abafunayo kuphela phambi kwababukeli.

Ngokuyinhloko izingane ezihlambalaza nabangabonikazi azivame ukuziphatha kwengane, kodwa-ke, kunamaphesenti amancane ezingane abonisa lokho okubizwa ngokuthi ama-hysterics angapheliyo, angabangelwa yindlala, eqiniswe yisimiso sezinzwa, ukungalali, ukulala ngokweqile, isimo esingenampilo kumzali endlini. Khumbula, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ingane yakho inelisekile ngokwenyama.

Uma kunengqondo yengane ekhaya, abazali abaningi basebenzisa indlela yokucindezela ingane, abantu abadala bakhulisa izwi, bahlambalaza, basongela ukulimala ngokomzimba, futhi kwezinye izimo baze batshaya izingane zabo ezincane. Ungakugwema kanjani ukubeletha okungalungile, ukuziphatha kwabazali kulesi simo? Impendulo ilula, okokuqala umzali kufanele ahlale phansi, angene ekamelweni elithile, ngokucophelela alinde isivunguvungu, enze itiye nokuthile okumnandi kuye, abize ingane noma afike yodwa, anikele ukugeza nokushaya impumulo yakho, uthathe incwadi yezinganekwane zakho ozithandayo futhi ufunde ingane, futhi uma ipholile itiye, yenza itiye nengane. Lapha uzobona ingane ngokwayo iyolahla, kodwa hhayi nganoma iyiphi indlela ungamlaleli, ungaceli intethelelo.

Kulo mkhuba odokotela kukhona iqiniso eliqinisekisiwe lokuthi izingane ezineminyaka elilodwa kuya kweyesihlanu zivame kakhulu ukuhambisana nezilwane ezihlambalaza. Izingane ezineminyaka yobudala zikhululekile kakhulu ngokuzikhandla, kuyilapho ziqonda ukuthi abazali bangacasulwa, bajeziswe noma banqatshelwe amaswidi. Uma ukhulisa ingane, udinga ukuchaza nokugqugquzela ukuziphatha kwakho kaningi kulokhu noma kuleso simo, chaza ingane ukuthi ungakwazi ukufeza umgomo wakho ngezindlela ezehlukene, isibonelo, kufanelekile, futhi kungabi yizinto ezingenangqondo futhi zenze amahlaya, ngoba ukuziphatha okunjalo okungalungile ngeke kwenziwe okuhle. Futhi, uma ukhulisa ingane yakho, kubalulekile ukuyiqonda futhi uyamthanda, uma ungakwazi ukuvimbela nokuzolalisa ingane yakho, sicela uxhumane nochwepheshe abaqeqeshiwe abazosiza ingane yakho futhi baqonde phakathi kwesikhathi. Phela, ukungahloniphi isimo nokuchasiswa kwesimo esichazwe kungaholela emiphumeleni emibi kakhulu eyozibonakalisa ngesikhathi sokukhula kwengane.