Ngaphezu kwalokho, akulula ukususa ohlelweni lobuhlobo, oluhlanganisa nabangane, izingane, abazali bomlingani ngamunye.
Izinkinga zengqondo zomndeni ngemuva kokuhlukanisa zihluke kakhulu. Baxhomeke ezimweni ezihlukahlukene: ezivela ezibangela ukuhlukanisa, kusukela ekuphenduleni kuya kwesahlukaniso ezungezile, kusukela eminyakeni yobudala bomshado, kusukela ebusweni bezingane. Ingxenye yezinkinga zomlingani owaziyo, futhi iyafinyeleleka ekuboneni abantu bangaphandle. Futhi ezinye zezinkinga zigeleza ngokungaqondakali futhi ngokuphindaphindiwe emigqeni efihliwe kusukela ekuhloleni amehlo. Sibala ezinye zazo.
Enye yezinkinga eziyinhloko nezibuhlungu kakhulu zomndeni emva kokuhlukanisa kuyinkinga yobuhlobo phakathi kwabashade nabantwana bokuqala. Akumangalisi ukuthi abantu abaningi bazama ukugcina umndeni owohloka ngenxa yezingane. Ngoba ukwahlukanisa ngokujulile kunzima kakhulu ekukhuliseni nasekuthuthukiseni ingane. Abazali abaningi bakuthola lokhu kubuhlungu kakhulu. Izinkinga ezingokwengqondo zomntwana nomndeni wonke zingabhebhethekiswa izingxabano ezingaphezu kwezingane, kodwa ngisho noma abashadile behlanganyela ngokuthula, izingane ziyingxenye yengozi. Okokuqala, bangadumala emndenini, futhi esikhathini esizayo ngeke bakwazi ukwakha ubuhlobo obuthembekile emshadweni. Okwesibili, isimo somzimba esibi nakakhulu sengqondo somama, esivame ukushiywa yizingane, sinethonya elibi ekuthuthukiseni kwabo, ekusebenzeni kwesikole. Ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile ngemva kokuhlukanisa, kunezixazululo ezengeziwe ezihlobene nobuhlobo "nobaba" omusha nomama. Ngakho inkinga enkulu kanye eyinhloko yokwahlukanisa umshado yinkinga yokwakha ubuhlobo nezingane ngemuva kokuhlukana komndeni.
Izinkinga ezingokwengqondo zomndeni ngemuva kokuhlukanisa zingase zikhungatheke ngokunciphisa ukukhiqizwa komsebenzi. Abanye abashadikazi abahlukanisile bazama ukuhamba phambili emsebenzini ukuze bazikhohlwe. Noma kunjalo, akunakwenzeka njalo ukugxila kulolu daba. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukucindezeleka kokuthunyelwa kwe-post-partum kunganciphisa impilo nomzwelo womuntu, futhi lokhu kungabangela ukungqubuzana emsebenzini, izabelo ezingasebenzi noma ngisho nokuxoshwa.
Abantu abaningi esikhathini sokudlula isikhathi sokufa bahlushwa izifo zomzimba. Izifo ezingapheli ziba zimbi nakakhulu, kuvela okusha. Umkhuba wokungena emtholampilo ukwandisa okwesithathu kokubili amadoda nabesifazane. Abantu abahlukanisile asebekhulile basengozini enkulu yokuhlasela kwenhliziyo noma isifo sohlangothi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, phakathi nalesi sikhathi, iningi labantu linyusa ukugula kwengqondo. Abantu abanjalo abangenayo, bangase bavuse kancane izimfanelo ezingathandeki zomlingiswa. Abantu abaningi abasolisayo baze basolise ngisho. Ezinye zifaka izimfanelo ezimbi zomlingani kwabanye abantu. Futhi abantu abaningi banezinga eliphakeme lokuphikisana nabantu.
Inkinga ebalulekile yengqondo yomndeni emva kokuhlukanisa ingaba ukuphuza ngokweqile komunye womlingani. Abanye abantu bazama ukuthola ukungaboni kahle kwezinkinga ewayini, futhi bona abaqapheli ukuthi umgwaqo onobungozi udlula kanjani, emva kwalokho isifo siqala, hhayi nje ukucwiliswa kwesikhashana emithonjeni yotshwala. Esimo esinjalo sigcina ukunakwa kwabanye. Uma kungekho muntu ozokhuluma, kungcono ukuya esithangamini noma kubhulogi futhi ukhulume nomuntu lapho kunokuzama ukuthola izidakamizwa zokuphuza utshwala.
Phakathi kwezinye izinto, abantu abahlukanisile abanenkinga enkulu kanye nokungafuni ukuvela kwenzalo. Izinkinga zomndeni wangaphambili zicindezela kakhulu ukuthi ziyesaba ukuba nezingane, ukuze zingatholi ithuluzi elengeziwe lokuxhaphaza. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi kubantu. Zingakwazi ukuthi zonke izimpilo zabo zihlushwa ukuphikisana nomfazi wabo wangaphambili bese zikhokha. Kulokhu, lapho beqala ubudlelwane obusha, abazimisele kakhulu ukuba nabantwana. Kungashiwo ukuthi ukuhlukaniswa njengomuntu wonke kunciphisa izinga lokuzalwa ezweni.
Imiphumela yesehlukaniso ayiyona yabashade ngokwabo, kepha izihlobo zabo, izingane nabangane nabo kunzima. Uhlelo lonke lokuzalwa kwamasiko omndeni, amahlaya, izindlela zokuchitha ukuzilibazisa zibhujiswa. Lokhu kwenza abantu bazizwe belahlekile okwesikhashana, futhi abanye bakuthole lokhu ngokuhlupha okukhulu nezinkinga.
Akunzima ukuqonda izizathu zalezi zinkinga. Ukucindezeleka akuhlanganisi nje kuphela ngesikhathi sokwenza isinqumo ngesehlukaniso, kodwa zonke izenzakalo ezalandela azihambisani nomuntu othakazelisayo. Ngokuvamile, isimo sokukhulula ngemuva kwesahlukaniso siza ngemva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa, futhi ekuqaleni izinkinga zomqondo zengqondo zomndeni ezaba khona ngaphambi kokuba isehlukaniso sibi kakhulu. Isibonelo, uma abashadile bephikisana nefulethi noma imali, futhi emva kokuhlukanisa baqhubeka behlanganyela impahla. Uma umndeni ube nobuhlobo obunzima nabazali bomuntu, ngisho nangemva kokuhlukanisa, le mpi ayipheli. Ngokuvamile, singasho ukuthi inqubo yesehlukaniso kanye nesikhathi sokuqala ngemuva kokuba abantu abaningi bahlangane nakho kunzima kakhulu.