Esikhathini sethu amaphesenti amakhulu emindeni afika ekuphuleni ebuhlotsheni. Ukwahlukanisa ngumthombo oqinile wokucindezeleka. Ngemuva kwesahlukaniso, abantu abaningi banenkinga engokomoya nangokomzwelo, ngakho-ke udinga ukwesekwa kwengqondo ngokuhlukana.
Kwenzekani kumuntu ngesikhathi sokucindezeleka?
Ngemuva kwesahlukaniso esingathandeki, ukucindezeleka kunzima kakhulu. Umuntu uwela ekucindezelekeni okujulile futhi kubonakala sengathi zonke izinto ezinhle ziphelile ngalokhu. Ukudla kuyanyamalala, kuza ukungazweli okuphelele. Angifuni ukuxhumana nanoma ubani, kubonakala sengathi kungcono ukufihla kuwo wonke umuntu ukuze kungakhathazeki muntu. Umuntu, evaliwe kuwo wonke umuntu, angachitha isikhathi eside ekucindezelekeni. Ngakho-ke, ngisho noma umuntu engafuni ukubona noma ubani, izihlobo nabangane kudingeka baqale "ngokucophelela" ukuxhumana naye, ukusekelwa kwengqondo kuyadingeka. Phela, awukwazi ukuhudula ukucindezeleka futhi udinga ukuqala isigaba esisha empilweni yakho. Thintana nodokotela ukuze uthole ukunakekelwa okuphuthumayo. Uzokunikeza iseluleko esiwusizo ngecala lakho.
Indlela yokusiza ngokwengqondo kusinda isahlukaniso somuntu othandekayo
Kubalulekile ukuletha kancane kancane umuntu ukuthi isehlukaniso siyingxenye engathandeki empilweni yakhe. Yilungiselele impilo engcono, unikeza izincomo zendlela ongathatha ngayo izinyathelo zokuqala. Lokhu kunzima kakhulu kumuntu ohluphekayo, kodwa kumkhombise ukuthi kufanele akwenze.
Ungashiyi othandekayo wakho wedwa ngemicabango yakho. Xoxa, iya kumabhayisikobho, ematheyithini, ezindaweni zokudla, izivakashi nezinye izikhungo. Chaza ukuthi ukugwema abantu bobulili obuhlukile akufanele, ukuthi ngokuqinisekile uzobhekana nesiphetho sakhe. Ungamvumeli ukuthi afihle, ngoba okwanele kakade ukukhathazeka. Kuwusizo kakhulu ezimweni ezinjalo ukuphuma emaphandleni: ukudoba, emahlathini noma e-dacha, ngoba umoya omusha uvuselela njalo. Buka imibukiso ye-TV ejabulisayo ndawonye, funda ama-anecdotes. Zama ukuthola ukuzilibazisa okusha: ukutadisha ukubopha noma ukugqoka, ukudweba noma ukugcoba kusuka ensizeni, njll Ekuqaleni, akafuni ukwenza lokhu nhlobo, kodwa ekugcineni isithakazelo sizozikhulisa.
Msize enze ukubonakala kwakhe. Hamba ukuthenga, ukuthenga izinto ezintsha ezinhle. Phakamisa ikhanda elisha, ubhalisele ukusikhipha. Lokhu kuzomnika ukuzethemba, futhi ukuzethemba kuyisihluthulelo sempumelelo empilweni.
Ukufaneleka, ukuvivinya umzimba, ukuvocavoca, njll kuzosiza ukuqeda amandla amabi. Phela, ngokuzikhandla ngokomzimba, amandla amabi aphuma, ngokufanayo, umthwalo wokucindezeleka uphinde usethe kabusha. Uma ungathandi ukuqhuba ehholo, ubhalise ndawonye esigabeni basketball, ibhola, noma ukudansa. Uma wena futhi engesabi, khona-ke ungakwazi ukunikela ukugxuma kusuka ku-parachute.
Uma umuntu ehlala eyedwa, mkhombise ukuba agweme izinkumbulo ezingathandeki, kodwa kunalokho umcebise ukuba akhe isimo esimnandi, ulungise okuthile okuthakazelisayo, vula i-TV, ukugoqa uphinde ujabulele ukubuka okuhle. Lokhu kuzomsiza aphumule.
Kwenzekani ngemva kwesikhashana ngemuva kokuhlukanisa
Ngemva kwesahlukaniso, owesifazane uqala isimo esicindezelayo ngokushesha, futhi kamuva indoda. Ngemuva kweminyaka embalwa, amadoda ngokuvamile awela ekucindezelekeni. Abesifazane sebevele bahamba ngalokhu futhi kuyathakazelisa ukuthi emva kokucwaninga, abesifazane abasinda ngesehlukaniso bathola impilo engcono yengqondo nengokwengqondo. Abaningi bayathokoza ngokuthi baye balahla ukucindezelwa kwabantu, abanye bathole injabulo entsha. Ngeshwa, kukhona labo abaye bachitha ukuphila kwabo ngaphandle kokubhekana nalokhu kucindezeleka, ngoba abazange bathole ukusekelwa kubantu abahlukanisile. Laba yibo abalwa nosizi lwabo ngosizo lophuza, izidakamizwa nezinye izindlela ezingekho.
Khumbula ukuthi into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuphuma ngokushesha ekucindezelekeni futhi uqale impilo entsha, noma ngabe kunzima kakhulu. Udinga ukusekelwa kwengqondo ngesikhathi sehlukaniso. Kulesi sikhathi kubalulekile ukuxhumana nabantu abaseduze nawe, ngakho ungaphazamisi. Kodwa njengoba usinde ekucindezelekeni kwesahlukaniso, kufanele udwebe iziphetho ezifanele, usebenzise umlingisi wakho futhi uqobo lwakho. Lokhu kuzosiza esikhathini esizayo ukwakha umndeni omusha oqinile.