Yiqiniso, isehlukaniso yisenzakalo somqondo wengqondo ekuphileni kwanoma yimuphi owesifazane hhayi njalo, kuvela, ukuze kuleso simo esibuhlungu kungabi usizo lesazi sengqondo. Kodwa ungayeki futhi uzitshele ukuthi ukuphila kwakho sekumile lapha. Konke akunjalo futhi ungowesifazane omuhle futhi kuyohlale ukhona umuntu ofuna ukuchitha nawe konke ukuphila kwakhe. Mhlawumbe, ngenxa yalesi sihlukaniso, ungazibona wena futhi uthole okuthile okungcono ekuphileni.
Manje imishado kaningi ihlukana futhi awukude kule nkinga. Abantu abaningi baye babhekana nokuhlukanisa okungenani kanye empilweni yabo, kodwa abazange bajabule. Baqala ukwakha izimpilo zabo kabusha, futhi kubaningi, lokhu kuphumelela kakhulu.
Sizokusekela futhi sikusize ukukuxwayisa ngokumelene namaphutha ongawenza uma uqhafaza indoda yakho ethandekayo. Uzocabanga, yimaphi amaphutha angenziwa uma umndeni usuvele uqhekekile? Kodwa ungakwazi ukuhlukanisa ngokuhluke ngokuphelele. Ungenza isahlukaniso sakho sibe yidrama yangempela, futhi ungathola ulwazi, lapho uzobe uhlakaniphile kakhulu futhi ujabule esikhathini esizayo.
Yiqiniso, isihloko sethu asikwazi ukusekela ukusekelwa kwabantu abaseduze nawe noma ukubonisana nesazi sengqondo. Kodwa singakuvikela emaphutha ongawenza ngenxa yokudideka nokucindezeleka.
Iphutha lokuqala elivamile abesifazane abaningi abanalo umuzwa wabo wecala ngokuba bengakwazi ukusindisa umndeni nokuwuvikela ekuhlukanisweni. Kodwa kufanele wazi ukuthi akusibo kuphela wena kodwa umlingani wakho ongabekwa icala lokuzikhethela, ngoba uhlangene ngokubambisana nobuhlobo bakho. Futhi uma unqume ukuhlukanisa, khona-ke kungukubili kwakho.
Ungavumeli muntu akugxeke, zama ukugwema ukukhuluma. Kumele uqonde ukuthi ungumfazi omuhle. Kuphela nje lokho kuphila kuye kwashintsha futhi udinga ukuqeda lesi sihlukaniso ngokuthula ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngemuva kwakho konke, impilo yakho ayizange imise kulokhu futhi konke okuphambi kwakho.
Ngokuvamile, lapho ekugcineni siqaphela ukuthi sishiywe yedwa, siqala ukukhumbuza ubudlelwane obudlule. Siqala ukukhumbula ukuthi sihlangane kanjani, njengoba okokuqala sivuma omunye komunye othandweni. Siqala ukukhohlwa ngazo zonke izinto ezimbi ezisekuphileni futhi kulo mzuzu sifuna ukushaya futhi simeme umlingani wethu ukuze aqale.
Kodwa akukho cala lokhu kungenziwa. Impela ubuhlungu bakho nokwesaba kuyimizwa yemvelo, awukwazi ukuhlukanisa ngaphandle kobuhlungu enhliziyweni yakho. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi isinqumo osenzile ngesahlukaniso sasiphutha. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo, udinga ukukhumbula zonke izizathu zokuhlukanisa kwakho futhi uqonde ukuthi izinkinga azizange ziphele ngokuphelele. Uyakwazi ukuthi uma uphinde uhlangana ndawonye, konke okungahambisani nawe kumlingani wakho kuzophuluka ngamandla amakhulu futhi kuzoba nokucindezeleka nokucasuka kusuka empambanweni yakho yakamuva.
Yiqiniso, kunezimo zokuphila lapho lo mbhangqwana wehlukana futhi eminyakeni eminingi kamuva bahlangana futhi futhi baphila ngenjabulo njalo. Kodwa lokhu kwenzeka kaningi kakhulu empilweni futhi akudingeki ulinde kusukela empilweni, ukuthi nawe uzokwenza lokhu ngqo. Ngokuyinhloko abantu bahlangana ndawonye kuphela ngoba ngemva kwesikhathi bahluke ngokuphelele.
Ungasheshi uphendule ngokushesha. Linda izinsuku ezimbalwa, mhlawumbe, izinkumbulo zizodlula futhi wena, uzoqonda ukuthi impilo yakho iqala nje. Yeka isahlukaniso empilweni yakho akuyona ukuphela kwezwe.
Futhi kaningi abesifazane, ukuze basinde isahlukaniso, baqale ukungena ebuhlotsheni obusha. Baqala ukucabanga ukuthi, ngaleyo ndlela, bazokhipha isizungu futhi bathole ukusekelwa. Yiqiniso, mhlawumbe lokhu akukubi, kodwa ukulungele ukuqala ubuhlobo obusha ngokushesha? Phela, isikhathi asizange sidlulisele ukuthi ucabangele zonke izizathu zokuhlukanisa kwakho futhi ungafinyeleli iziphetho kulokhu okuhlukanisa wena. Asikho isiqinisekiso sokuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngeke uqale ukuqaphela kumlingani wakho omusha izici zobuntu ezifanayo ezikucasule kakhulu kumyeni wakho. Kungaba kuhle kakhulu ukuba uthintane nomcwaningi wezengqondo oyokusiza uqonde zonke amaphutha akho owenze ngesikhathi uhlala emshadweni nomyeni wakho.
Ungasondeli ngokwakho, uhambe ngesahlukaniso bese uya emsebenzini. Abesifazane abaningi benza, becabanga ukuthi ngale ndlela bayokwazi ukushayela yonke imicabango nemizwelo. Ukuhamba phambili emsebenzini, ungenza uzibi kakhulu kunalokho okuyikho ngempela. Kusukela ngesikhathi sesahlukaniso owesifazane ujwayele ukuphazamiseka nokucindezeleka.
Ukuze usinde isahlukaniso futhi uqonde ukuthi ukuphila akumi lapho, abantu abaseduze nawe nokusekela kwabo kuzokusiza. Ungesabi ukuthatha isihawu kubantu abakhelini lakho. Manje kunzima kuwe, kodwa ngalesi sikhathi okwamanje kufanele uzinakekele ngokwengeziwe. Nika isikhathi esengeziwe sokuphumula kwakho. Uma ungenayo i-hobby, kuwufanelekile ukuthola. Uphuma nabangani emaphakathini nakuzo zonke izinhlobo zokuhamba. Uma uzizinakekela, khona-ke uzosheshe ufike efomini uphinde uqonde ukuthi ukuphila akuzange kumile ngalokhu.
Kufanele, ngokuhlukana kwakho, ukhuthazelele ukuhlangenwe nakho kokuphila futhi uziqonde wena amaphutha okungafanele ukwenze empilweni yakho. Futhi uma ungaqonda futhi uqonde konke, ungaqala ukuphila kabusha. Ungesabi ukushintsha imikhuba yakho, izindinganiso zokuphila, ubuhlobo nabantu. Ngamaphutha ethu kuphela singaqaphela amaphutha ethu okuphila.
Sithemba ukuthi emva kokufunda isihloko sethu, uyazi ukuthi ungaphila kanjani isehlukaniso futhi uqonde ukuthi impilo ayizange imile lapho. Ukuphila kwakho kuqale nje!