Into yesibili, ngaphandle kokungekho muntu ongakwazi ukuphatha futhi ngokuqinisekile ngeke neze anqabe - lokhu kungokwemvelo ngokobulili. Ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi ubulili obuqinile bufuna njalo owesifazane omthandayo, bese eqonda izwe lakhe langaphakathi. Futhi wayengakwazanga ukumbona, ngoba uma engamthandi ngobulili, wayengafuni ukuba ngu-50% naye. Yini ongayenza ngakho. Sonke ngamapula ethu. Kodwa amadoda kule ndaba aqondile futhi ahloniphekile. Khona-ke, lapho sidinga imizwa, badinga izenzo ezibaluleke kakhulu kubo. Abanye abesilisa baphishekela ukulala ngokocansi ukuze bazinelise. Bacabanga ukuthi ngenxa yamasu abo futhi bakubonisa isigamu sezimo ezivela ku-Kamasutra, uzothola noma kunjalo, ngoba naye uyindoda futhi uyinkosi kuleli bhizinisi. Futhi abambalwa kuphela abafuna ngobuqotho ukunikeza umlingani wabo injabulo futhi bangenzi amacebo acrobatic naye, kodwa bamane bamnikezele. Amadoda anjalo ayazi ukuthi kusukela kobulili obunjalo bobabili bazothola imizwelo eminingi futhi basondelane kakhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi ucansi lomuntu lungasetshenziswa ngemuva kokucindezeleka ngokomzwelo, noma mhlawumbe ngokufanayo, ukumshayela ngamandla namandla. Ubulili kulesisisekelo kubanika ithemba lokuthi le ntombazane ingokwakhe ngokuphelele, ngoba bonke abanikazi besilisa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi banabo ubusuku obulodwa, inyanga noma iminyaka yokuphila okuhlangene nokujabulisayo. Ubuhlobo obuseduze buyingxenye yezingxenye zobuhlobo, ngaphandle kwazo zonke ezinye izici ezizoqala ukulahlekelwa impahla yazo. Ngisho noma ubumnandi nsuku zonke ngendoda yakho ethandekayo, uzoya ekamelweni lokuzivocavoca, udle kahle futhi uyondla ukudla, futhi ngobulili ngeke umhambisane naye, noma ngaphezulu, angeke abe khona, ubuhlobo buzophuka kancane kancane. Kancane kancane uzoqala ukuzihlukanisa, ukuxabana, ukuhlambalaza nokucaciswa kobudlelwane, noma okuhlangenwe nakho okuthula kodwa okubuhlungu kwalolu daba, kuzothatha isikhundla sezingubo nokuqabisa okuthakazelisayo. Khona-ke ukukhashelwa kungaqala futhi impilo izophendukela esihogweni. Kunoma yikuphi, lo mbhangqwana udinga ukufunda ukuthi ungakhulumisana kanjani. Futhi ungamlaleli nje othandekayo wakho, kodwa futhi uzwe, uqonde futhi uthembele.
Ngakho-ke, ngaphandle kwezintathu izinto amadoda angasoze azila, indawo yesithathu ihlala isikhathi esithile kusukela engxenyeni yesibili noma emndenini wonke. Kungabonakaliswa kokubili ukuhlala kwedwa, futhi ekubeni phakathi kwesiyingi sabangani. Indoda yakho kufanele ikwazi ukuphumula kuwe, kanye nawe kusuka kuye. Ngiyazi ukuthi lokhu akuzwakala kumnandi kakhulu, kodwa kuyiqiniso. Udinga isikhathi sokucabanga ngezinto eziningi, ukuphupha, ukucwilisa noma ukuyeka nje umusi. Ngokuvamile, yena, njenganoma yimuphi umuntu ovamile, udinga okungenani ngezinye izikhathi ukuxoshwa emndenini. Ngalesi sikhathi angenza into ayithandayo, isibonelo, athole isithombe, bhala ivesi, uthathe izithombe, uhlabelele, udansa, into eyinhloko ukuthi akekho obona noma ophazamisayo. Noma mhlawumbe umane nje unokwanele ukubuka i-TV ngokuziqhenya okuziqhenyayo, ukuze kungabikho muntu ophawula ifilimu yakhe oyintandokazi noma angafuni ukushintshela isiteshi kumakhathuni.
Abanye amadoda bafuna ukuchitha isikhathi sabo samahhala embuthanweni wabangani futhi baxoxe ngakho noma yini, kodwa kuzoba izingxoxo zamadoda. Buka nabo ngebhola noma ebhokisini, baphuze ubhiya ngenhlanzi. Hamba ukudoba noma ukuzingela. Ngokuvamile, phumula empilweni nasemkhatsini wakhe omuhle futhi othandekayo. Bese bebuya ekhaya ngemicabango ehlanzekile, enenhliziyo elula, futhi amanga umfazi wakhe kuphela, othanda futhi oqondayo.
Nakhu lezozinto ezintathu ezihlonishwa njalo ngumuntu futhi angalokothi akwenqaba. Bangakwazi ukuxhaswa ngabanye ngabanye babo. Isibonelo, i-whim, njengokuhlala endlini yangasese imizuzu engu-20-30 ngemva kokufunda incwadi ethakazelisayo. Noma ukulenga egalaji, lapho esevele ehlola izinga lamafutha enjini isikhathi esiyikhulu noma ehlala eqinisa okuthile phezulu lapho. Ngamafuphi, izinto ezincane ezinjalo zingaba yisisindo esikhulu, into eyinhloko ukuyiqonda lokhu futhi uthathe indoda yakho njengoba ikhona, kanye namaphuphu akhe.