Ngezinye izikhathi ezimpilweni zethu kukhona izinhlekelele. Sonke siyafa, futhi lokhu akukwazi ukugwema. Njengoba elahlekelwe ingane, abazali ngamunye kufanele bazi ukuthi ukuphila ngemva kokufa kwengane akuzange kumise. Kodwa indlela yokusinda ekufeni kwengane?
Kuleli phuzu, uzodinga ukusekelwa, amandla namandla omoya. Ukufa kwengane ukulahlekelwa okukhulu komunye wethu, kodwa kunzima kakhulu uma uqaphela ukuthi ulahlekelwe yingxenye yokuphila kwakho.
Kubalulekile ukuzama ukuphazamiseka kulokhu usizi nokuqaphela ukulahlekelwa kokulahlekelwa kubhekwa ngokubaluleka kokuphila. Ukuze wenze lokhu, udinga ukusabalalisa izinto zezingane ezisekelweni zokuhlala. Futhi ekukhunjweni yena nezihlobo zakhe badinga ukushiya abathandekayo abathandekayo ezinhliziyweni ze-trinkets. Kumele uyenze nezithombe.
Shintsha futhi unakekele enye ingane emndenini noma kubazukulu, uma unayo. Ukududuzeka okuningi kungatholakala ngokwenza okuthile. Zama ukuzibamba into enjalo, kunokuba awuzange uzimisele ukwenza ngaphambili, okwakungekho isikhathi esanele. Ungalisebenzisi kabi isonto eliya noma uziphonsa enkolweni entsha, kungaba yisiphetho esibuhlungu. Uma uzizwa uqinile, thatha ingane entandane. Khona-ke endlini kuyofika iholidi kanye naleso sane, futhi kuwe, ungabuyisa uthando olungenasiphelo futhi esikhathini esizayo uzobe esekela wena.
Umuntu osinda ekufeni kwengane uhlala yedwa nalesi usizi. Abazungezile bayoba khona futhi bamsize, kodwa bayakugwema ukukhuluma ngokufa. Futhi umqondo wokusekela abanakho uzokwehliselwa ku-2-nkulumo ethi "Ukuphila kuyaqhubeka," "Yiba namandla".
Ukuze ulawule isimo sakho sengqondo, udinga ukwazi izigaba zosizi. Lokho kuzokusiza ukuqonda, ngabe ngabe uhlezi kwelinye lazo futhi kuzodingeka uphendukele kubachwepheshe.
Isigaba sokuqala sisabisa futhi sinzima
Kuyo awukwazi ukwamukela ukulahlekelwa futhi ungakholelwa kuwo. Abantu baziphathe ngendlela ehlukile, beqhwaba ngenxa yesimiso, bazame ukuzikhohlwa ekuhleleni imingcwabo. Umuntu akaqondi ukuthi ungubani futhi kungani, ungubani. Khona-ke izinqubo zokusikhipha, ukugcoba okunomsoco kuzosiza. Ungahlali wodwa, uma kungenzeka, ukhale. Lesi sigaba sigcina izinsuku ezingu-9.
Isiteleka sokunganaki
Ihlala ezinsukwini ezingaba ngu-40, usuvele uqonde ukulahlekelwa kwakho, kodwa ukwazi akukwazi ukwamukela. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, abantu bezwa izwi nezinyathelo zomntwana oshiywe. Uma ephupha, cela ukuba eze kuwe, ukhulume naye ephusheni. Khumbula, khuluma ngaye nabangani nezihlobo. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, izinyembezi eziningi zibhekwa njengezivamile, kodwa akufanele zihlale izinsuku. Uma lesi simo singadluli, udinga ukuphendukela kwesazi sengqondo.
Isikhathi esilandelayo siphelela ezinyangeni ezingu-6 emva kokufa. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi kufika ukuqwashisa ngobuhlungu nokwamukelwa kokulahlekelwa. Kanjalo buthakathaka, bese kuqiniswa. Ngemuva kwezinyanga ezingu-3 kuzoba nobudlova "Wangishiya" nomzwelo wecala "Angikwazi ukukusindisa", ukuhlukunyezwa kungadluliselwa emphakathini, kubangani bendodana, kubodokotela, lokhu kuyinto evamile, kodwa kubalulekile ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa akudonseli futhi le mizwa akazange abe mkhulu kakhulu.
Okunye ukukhululeka kuzokwenzeka ngonyaka ngemuva kokufa kwengane. Futhi uma ungakwazi ukuphatha usizi lwakho, khona-ke le mizwa ngeke ikhungatheke kakhulu njengalolu suku losizi.
Uma uhlangabezane nazo zonke izigaba, ekupheleni konyaka wesibili inqubo yokulila iphelile. Ngeke ukhohlwe ingane efile, kodwa ufunde ukuhlala ngaphandle kwayo, ukudabuka ngeke kuhambisane nezinyembezi njalo. Uzothola izikhuthazo zokuphila, imigomo emisha kanye nezinhlelo ezintsha. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubuhlungu futhi ngingathanda ukwenza okuthile nami, khumbula ukuthi kukhona abantu obathandayo. Udinga ukuzizinakekela wena. Kumele siphile, ngoba kulula ukufa.