Abesifazane abaningi bahlala benesizungu, naphezu kokuthi bafuna ukwakha ubuhlobo obuseduze nokudala umndeni. Nakuba kukhona abanye abathi ngokuqondile bathi abadingi umshado. Kunoma yikuphi, uma ungakabi naye umlingani, kusho - awufuni ukuthi ubonakale, ngokuqaphela noma ngokungaqapheli. Cabanga ngezizathu ezingu-11 ukuthi kungani abesifazane besala bodwa.
1. Umsebenzi nomsebenzi
Uhlobo luni lomfazi olungafuna ukuba naye njalo eduze kwendoda? Kuphela kuphela ongazi ukuthi kungakanani ukufeza ngokwayo. Kodwa-ke, lona wesifazane ophethe isikhundla sekhanda usuqaphele ukuthi angakwazi ukuzondla yena, futhi ukushada ubufebe bomlingani ocansini akudingekile futhi ukhetha ukuzinikela isikhathi sakhe sonke ukusebenza.
Yonke into elula futhi eqondakalayo emisebenzini: isebenza inyanga, ikhokhelwe umholo hhayi encane, futhi yanikezela imali eyinhloko, yilokho-owesifazane unikezwa konke okudingekayo kusuka kumikhiqizo kuya ezesekeli ezihlukahlukene. Uma ungenakho konke emsebenzini, ungasho ukuthi "ngoba ngingowesifazane," futhi ngeke ulahlwe njengendoda esesimweni esifanayo. Ukuwa ebhizinisini akuyona into eqinile njengengozi yomuntu wonke, ngoba kulula ukubalekela ukusebenza.
2. Bonke abantu bangama-alcoholic and idiots
Abanye besifazane bathi namuhla ayikho muzhchin evamile: bona noma izidakamizwa, noma izimbuzi, noma kakade banomndeni wabo futhi akukho nhlobo injongo yokubheka umuntu omuhle. Ngakho wathi ugogo nomama, lolu hlelo lufakwe ngokujulile ebuchosheni futhi lusebenza kulo lonke impilo. Uma nje ucabanga kanjalo, izwe elikuzungezile lizoba ngabantu abanjalo, futhi ngeke ube nokungabaza ngokufaneleka kwakho. Ukuze uhlale unesizungu, kufaneleka kuphela ukubheke ukuntuleka okukhulu kuwo wonke umuntu ohlangana naye, futhi ukhulume ngawo, khona-ke isizungu siyohlala isikhathi eside. Ufuna lokhu?
3. Isikhala somuntu siqu
Ebudlelwaneni bomndeni akukho sidingo, uma usetshenziselwa ukuhlala kwesikhala sakho nsuku zonke nangomuntu siqu. Ngempela, ukudala indawo evamile nendoda, kudingeke ukuba uguqule, ukwazi ukuxoxisana, ukufunda ukukhuluma ngezifiso zomuntu, nokuzinakekela, izifiso zayo. Kodwa-ke, lokhu kuyinkinga yonke, kungani umzamo omkhulu kangaka, uma wazi okuhlangenwe nakho kwabangane abashadile ukuthi konke lokhu ngeke kuzinzile. Amadoda angalungile, aphonsa amasokisi futhi angazihlanzeli, kunzima ngabo ukuwalungisa ukulungisa umpompi noma i-rosette, njll Cha, kungcono ukugcina induduzo yomuntu futhi ungabuyi futhi.
4. Ukwaneliseka kwezifiso
Owesifazane ulindele ukuthi ngokushesha nje lapho ehlangana nengxenye yakhe yesibili, uyoba nenjabulo eyengeziwe empilweni yakhe, ngoba umyeni wakhe kuyadingeka ukwanelisa izifiso ezahlukene. Kodwa ngesizathu esithile, kuhlale kukumangalisa, uma okufanayo kulindele wena nomuntu (naye ufuna ukuthandwa). Kulokhu, kunezimo ezimbili kuphela ezingenzeka. Okokuqala ngukuthi ngemuva kokuhamba kwesikhathi se-candy-flower kuvela ukuthi nonke ningama-egoist abafuna injabulo kumlingani (shi), engafuni ukunikeza noma yini ngokubuyisela. Owesibili yilapho owesifazane ekwazi kusengaphambili ukuthi kufanele aphe ubudlelwane bakhe futhi aqonde ukuthi akakulungele ukuxhumana okunjalo. Uthanda ukuhlala enesizungu futhi aphile yena kuphela, ngaphandle kokunakekela izindlebe zakhe.
Ukuzithoba okuphansi kuyimbangela yedwa
Esinye isizathu sokuhlala sisodwa ukuzicabangela ukuthi ungobubi, ukhululekile, njalonjalo. Lokhu kuyinto elula kakhulu, ngoba kungenzeka njalo ukuthola umculi (umama, ubaba, izakhi zofuzo, imisebe), okusho ukuthi akuxhomekile kowesifazane. Kuyinto elula kakhulu ukungajabuli, ngoba kuyohlale kube nomuntu onomusa ozozisola, afudumele ngokufudumele futhi mhlawumbe angene othandweni. Kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuthi labo abazisolayo, abathandi, bakhawuleza ukukhohlwa, ngoba beletha ukunganaki okuthile. Ngakho-ke, "ungaguquki okuthile futhi ube mnandi, okuthakazelisayo, ngoba ukuze uhlale ungumuntu oyedwa, kwanele ukuthi ube nesithunzi esiphansi, ungajabuli.
6. Induna emhlophe
Ngokuvamile owesifazane ulindele ukuthi uzohlangana nenduna efanayo yezinganekwane - okulungile nomkhawulo wazo zonke amaphupho akhe. Phela, wayenezinhlu eziningi zezimfanelo zakhe ezinhle nedatha yangaphandle. Kodwa ayiveli ekugcineni. Futhi iqiniso liwukuthi uzibheka njengelungile futhi unomuntu nawe kuphela ophelele. Ungamvumela kanjani umuntu empilweni yakho ohlala elandelayo, owazi ukushiyeka kwakho, owazi ukuthi angakusho kanjani ngabo ngomzuzu ongafanele? Yamukela, awufuni ukulahlekelwa umqhele wakho, akunjalo? Ngakho-ke linda isikhulu esihle kangaka, esinesimiso ngasinye esingama-10 sibukeka sithandana nesibuko, futhi umqhele wakhe unesilinganiso esifanayo nawe.
7. Ukuchitha isikhathi
Vala ubudlelwane badle isikhathi esiningi, usenesikhathi esengeziwe sokuthile okuthakazelisayo nokusha. Uma kunesigaba esicacile sobudlelwane, khona-ke kusekhona umsebenzi omningi ngokushiyeka komlingani othole. Futhi kuzomele siqale umsebenzi omusha ngaphandle kokubona injabulo. Ngalesi sikhathi, futhi izinsolo zomuntu ziqala ukuthi wonakalisa impilo yakho yonke. Kungcono ukubalekela konke lokhu ngesizungu, lapho kuhlale khona isikhathi.
9. Ubuhlobo bobulili
Abaningi bayazi ukuthi kunesidingo esingakanani samadoda okwenza ucansi, futhi nokuthi owesifazane ufuna ukuthandana nokuthanda kangakanani. Kuphela labo besifazane abafuna, bekulungele ingane, futhi nalabo abanokukhathazeka ngokobulili angeke babe yedwa. Uma uvikela konke okuhlotshaniswa nobuhlobo bobulili, abantu bazizwa futhi bazame ukuhambisana nawe. Ukwenqaba ubulili kuyisenzakalo esimnandi sokuba nesizungu!
8. "Imiyalo yokusetshenziswa"
Abanye besifazane (njengabanye amadoda) abazi "imiyalo yokusetshenziswa", bayaqiniseka ukuthi bayazi konke mayelana nomlingani wabo. Ngenxa yalokho, banikeza lo muntu lokho abazakhele yona, hhayi konke abakudingayo, emva kwalokho bayamangala: "Kungani engabongi ngalokho engikwenzela khona?" Kodwa uma beqonda ukuthi lo msebenzi ukhulu kangakanani, ukutadisha umfokazi ngokuphelele ulimi olukhulunywe ngalo la madoda, bakhetha ukuhlala bodwa.
10. Isidingo sokwenza lokho
Ubuhlobo obunjalo bufana nomdanso: ukuze udansa ndawonye, udinga ukuvumelanisa ukuthi yisiphi isigqi, ngaphansi komuphi umculo, ngoba kusuka kuzo zonke izinyathelo, ucabanga, isenzo sincike endleleni umuntu wakho akwenza ngayo futhi ngokuphambene nalokho - nawe uthembele kuye. Futhi lesi simo sezingxabano ebuhlotsheni bakho. Futhi ngoba omunye ulula kakhulu, ngoba awudingi ukuvumelanisa izenzo zakho nendoda, ungabiki, futhi uxoxisane.
11. Izihlobo zakhe
Uma uhlakulela ubuhlobo besikhathi eside, njalo, ekuqaleni noma ngasekupheleni, kuzodingeka ube noxhumana nezihlobo zakhe. Kodwa ukwazi ukuphatha nomndeni wakho, futhi lapha kukhona umthwalo owengeziwe. Cha, kungcono ukuhlala ungashadile, kunokuba ube nomlingani, umama (noma ubaba) ohlala ethola iphutha, ngakho konke uzama ukungena ebuhlotsheni bakho.
Manje uqala ukuqaphela ukuthi ubudlelwane akuyona nje uthando, uthando oluboniswa kumafilimu, kodwa nomsebenzi omkhulu? Abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi kulula ukuba munye - ungaxilisi ubuhlobo bakho nsuku zonke. Futhi uyaqiniseka ukuthi induduzo yedwa - yilokho okubaluleke kakhulu okumele kuphile khona?