Manje izinto eziningi zishintshile, kodwa isiko lokunikeza izingane ukukhulisana nogogo nomkhulu emindenini eminingi kusinde, futhi futhi sekuphelelwe yithemba. Lapho okungenani uhulumeni akhokhela omama, kungenzeka ukuthi uthenge izinwele, kodwa ukuthi ungaphila uma oshade naye enomsebenzi okhokhelwayo ophansi? Ngomholo owodwa awunakudla okungenani ukondla abantu abathathu, futhi emva kwakho konke, othile unabantwana ababili nabantathu, uma kungenjalo. Lokho kuzobeka ingqinamba yokunikeza ingane engadini noma ugogo nomkhulu baphume umhlalaphansi.
Kodwa lesi simo asiqhubeki kuwo wonke umuntu, kunemindeni lapho umyeni akwazi ukunikeza wonke umndeni isikhathi sokuphumula kokubeletha. Kodwa eqinisweni, abanye abantu baze bashiye izintambo zokukhulisa ingane egodini likagogo, ngenxa yokungafuni kwabo ukuba babe ngumama womuzi-uDunka Kulakov-unina wezingane eziyisikhombisa. Futhi kukhona isigaba sesithathu - sikhulisa izingane zabo ngokwazo, singavumeli ugogo nomkhulu ukuba baphazamise kule nqubo yokudala. Yikuphi okukhethayo kakhulu ingane yakho, umama ngamunye uyakwazi ukuzimisela yena ngokwakhe, ebuka umntwana ngokwayo. Ngakho-ke, ake sihlaziye zonke izinzuzo nezindleko zazo zonke izikhundla ezintathu.
Masinyane wenze ukubhuka, ngisondelene nokukhetha lapho abazali bekhulisa izingane zabo, kodwa kukhona futhi okuhlukile. Ucabanga ukuthi yini ebaluleke kakhulu ekuthuthukiseni ingane ngenkathi isencane? Yiqiniso, ukuzola kwakhe kwengqondo nomqondo wokuphepha. Akuyona imisebenzi emisha yokuthuthukiswa, okuyizwe elingaphakathi lomuntu omncane. Zonke izinkinga zethu kanye ne-psychoses zisekelwe ebuntwaneni, kuyisihlobo sesisekelo, ukuthi sibeka kanjani kahle futhi sinokwethenjelwa, kuzoxhomeka ekuphileni komntwana wethu. Umama onothando futhi uyakwazi kuphela ukunika ingane yonke imfudumalo nethando akudingayo ngalesi sikhathi. Kodwa kukhona nemindeni engasebenziyo ephuza omama nezinye izigaba ezingakhathazeki kakhulu ngezwe langaphakathi nokuthuthukiswa kwengane yabo, yilokho, uma-ke ugogo ehamba kancane, ingane izoba ngcono futhi ikhululeke kakhulu nomdala isizukulwane, kunokuba abazali abahlulekile.
Uma umndeni ungenayo imali eyanele, kungcono ukulinda ingane ukuba ibe yizimele ngaphezulu (ingakwazi ukuhamba ebhodweni, idle yona, ingasho ukuthi yini eyidingayo), bese unembeza onokuthula unikeze enkulisa. Yiqiniso, zonke izingane zihlakulela ngokuhlukile, umuntu uzothola le nkathi ngaphambili, omunye umuntu kamuva, isibalo esiphezulu sikhona eminyakeni engu-1.5-2.
Ngokuqondene nemibono evamile evunyelwe ukuthi owesifazane wesifazane uyakudla isikhathi futhi abe engathandeki kumyeni wakhe, khona-ke lokhu kuyize. Othandekayo besifazane, baqonde, konke kuncike kuwe. Uma ubungenakukhanya ngokuhlakanipha nokuhlakanipha ngaphambi komshado, qala ukuhlakulela manje, azikho izindlela zokwenza, kahle, uma unayo yonke idatha yendalo yokudala nokuthakazelisayo, kholwa mina, ngeke ikude nawe noma ikuphi.
Ogogo, omkhulu, bahle, kodwa nokho laba bangabantwana bethu futhi abazikhokheli imisebenzi yabo. Sebevele bakhulisa izingane zabo, nabo, bebambe umhlalaphansi, bafuna ukubamba umoya wabo kancane kancane kusukela ekuphileni kwabo, baphile okungenani iminyaka edlule ngokwabo nangenxa yokuzijabulisa kwabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, odokotela sebevele befakazele ukuthi izingane ezihlala nesizukulwane esidala zijwayele ukugula. Njengoba uneminyaka yobudala, izimfanelo ezinjalo zobuntu njengesixwayiso ziphenduka ukukhathazeka, ukungabi nandaba, ukungabi nandaba nokuzimela - ukungena ekuhlanganyeleni, njll. Lokhu yisizathu sokunakekelwa okukhudlwana, okukhumbuza ukukhungatheka, ngenxa yalokho ingane ikhula kancane futhi iqonde izinto ezibalulekile. Ukulondoloza okungapheli, ngakho kwakushushu, ngenxa yalokho ingane izithuthukisa kanye nezikhukhula, ungahambi lapho, ungenzi, ungadli, njll. kuya okungapheliyo.
Ugogo nomkhulu bahlakaniphe kakhulu kunathi, futhi banolwazi oluthe xaxa empilweni, ngakho bacabanga ukuthi yibo kuphela abakwazi ukufundisa kahle isizukulwane esincane, ngezinye izikhathi bakhohlwa ukuthi izikhathi azifani. Yiqiniso, asikwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kweseluleko sabo, kodwa, njengoba besho, i-spoon enhle ikulungele ukudla kwasekuseni!
Ngakho-ke, uma ingane yakho isebenzisa isikhathi esiningi nogogo nomkhulu, zama ukuthola ukuyekethana ebuhlotsheni bakho ukuze kungadingeki ukuba uphikisana kamuva lapho kukhona khona umntwana, okukhulunywa ngaye kubaluleke kakhulu.