Ngaphambili, lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi "ikamu lamaphayona," kodwa izikhathi zishintshile - futhi manje usho "ikamu lezempilo." Lona indawo yokuphumula ingane, lapho engenabazali, enkampanini yezinye izingane, ngaphansi kokuqondiswa koothisha abanolwazi.
Njengomthetho, kunezinto zokuzilibazisa ezithakazelisayo emakamu: ama-mugs ahlukene, ukuhamba ngezinyawo, izinqubo zokuthuthukisa impilo, izingane zifunda izilimi zangaphandle, zinikeza ukuqeqeshwa, ama-discos, ukubukela amabhayisikobho. Manje, ngenkathi yokuncintisana, ikamu ngalinye lizama ukuthola inhlanhla yalo ukwenza zonke izingane zibe ezithakazelisayo kakhulu, eziphephile futhi ezingakhohlwa,
Kumele kucatshangelwe ukuthi iminyaka encane lapho izingane zingeniswa ekamu lezempilo iminyaka engu-6. Hlala ekamu kudinga izinga elithile lokuzimela nokuvuthwa kwengqondo. Phela, ikamu lifana ne-kindergarten (kubalulekile ukulala phakathi nosuku), kodwa okuningi nakakhulu esikoleni nemithetho yalo eqinile yobuholi-ukuhambisa. Yini ingane, oza kuqala ekamu lezempilo, ezobhekana nayo?
Chaza indodana noma indodakazi yakho ukuthi:
kuzodingeka kube yisikhathi eside ngaphandle kwabazali;
isikhala sekamu akujwayele ngokuphelele, futhi khumbula ngokushesha ukuthi kuphi, akulula kakhulu;
imithetho yokuhlala ekamu aziwa ekuqaleni, kodwa ukugcwaliseka kwabo kuyadingeka;
kubalulekile ukuzinakekela, ngokwesibonelo, gcina izingubo, itafula lokulala, umbhede ngokuhle nokuhlanzeka; Qaphela izinto zakho, ukuze ungalahlekelwa izinto ongakwazi ukuzenza ngaphandle - inqwaba, i-toothbrush, njll;
Iqoqo labantwana liyinto entsha, futhi kuyadingeka ukuthola kulo ndawo;
umthwalo wabo ngokwabo kuzodingeka uthwalwe yedwa: kungcono kubo ukuthi banqume ukuthi yiziphi amaqembu okufanele abhalise, obani abangabangane, lapho imidlalo kanye nezokungcebeleka okufanele bahlanganyele khona.
Uma unquma ukuthi kuhamba kanjani uhambo, kuzomele ucabange ukuthi izingane zivumelanisa ekamu ngezindlela ezahlukene. Kuxhomeke ekutheni ubumnene, isimo somntwana, kanye nezinga lokuzimela abazali abazimisele ukumnika lona. Izingane ziyakwazi ukuzivumelanisa nezimo:
ukuxhumana, ukuthola kalula ulimi oluvamile nezinye izingane, kanye nabantu abadala;
babe nezinga elithile lokuvuthwa komphakathi, i.e. Ukwazi ukuthi kunemithetho yokuziphatha okumelwe ilandelwe;
Ukuphila ngendlela enhle;
ukuzethemba ngokwanele noma okuncane;
wayejwayele ukuzimela ngokuzimele.
Ukuze kulungiswe ngokuphumelelayo ekamu lezempilo lehlobo lehlobo, kubalulekile futhi ukuya ekamu, ukuba khona kwabangane lapho. Izimpendulo ezithandekayo ekuhlolweni kwethu okuthuthukisiwe, kancane ungakhathazeka ngokuthi "ungaphandle kwami." Kodwa kunezici ezicindezela ukujwayela ekuphileni ekamu.
ivaliwe, kunzima ukuxhumana;
bathambekele ezinkingeni ezihlukahlukene kanye nokwesaba;
Akulungele ukuhambisana nemithetho eqinile;
engavikelekile noma, ngokuphambene, ukuzethemba ngokweqile;
abonakalisiwe, abancike ekutheni bangaba namakhono okuzinakekela wona kanye nezinto zabo.
Uma izici ezinjalo ezimbi zingama-1-2, akufanele unqabe ukuya ekamu. Kodwa uma kunezintathu noma ngaphezulu, kungcono ukuyeka kabusha ukuphumula kokuphumula "kwekamu" iminyaka eminingana.
Ngaphansi kwanoma yiziphi izimo ungaya ekamu lezempilo elivamile lezingane ezibhekene nezifo ezinzima ezingapheli ezidinga ukulawulwa okukhethekile kwezokwelapha kanye nabazali. Zonke ezinye izingane ekamu zingaya futhi zidinga.
Ukulungela uhambo
Yiqiniso, kubalulekile ukucabangela umbono wengane uqobo. Uhlobo luni lwekamu ayifunayo: ezokuvakasha, ulimi, ukudansa?
Uma isinqumo senziwe, udinga ukulungiselela kahle uhambo. Okungenani inyanga ngaphambi kwalo, uma ungazange wenze lokhu ngaphambili, fundisa ingane ukuba izinakekele yona nezinto zazo. Kufanele akhumbule ukuthi yena ngokwakhe udinga ukubhoboza amazinyo, ugeze ikhanda, ugeze izinto ezincane (amasokisi, ama-panties, amathangi okubhukuda), akwazi ukukhetha izingubo sezulu. Kufanele afunde ngokunembile, engeza izingubo, khumbula ukuthi izinto kudingeka zifakwe ezindaweni zazo (ukulahlekelwa okungenani ngangokunokwenzeka ekamu). Fundisa ukuthunga izinkinobho bese ubamba izimbobo ezincane ezembatho.
Lungiselela izinto ezikhululekile zengane, zibeke kuwo birochki negama nesibongo. Bala isamba sezingubo "ezinkulu" ukuze umntwana ahlanze kuphela uma kunesidingo .Cabanga ukuthi yiziphi izingubo nezicathulo ozodinga ukuzinika, ucabange ukuthi isimo sezulu singase sihluke. Faka izinto ezihlanzekile .Hamba nomntwana ukuze azi ukuthi kuphi lokho kuyikho.
Bhala uhlu lwezinto okwenza kube lula ngaye ukuthi abuyele ekhaya ekupheleni kweshintsho ekamu lezempilo lehlobo lehlobo. Izingane eziningi zibhekana nokukhathazeka njengoba isikhathi sokuhamba sisondela ekamu. Ngakho-ke, abazali kufanele bakhulume ngokuthi ikamu linjani, yimiphi imithetho. Yebo, uma ukhumbuza futhi utshela ingane izintwana ezimbalwa ezithakazelisayo ekuphileni kwakho "ekamu," bonisa izithombe.
Kodwa-ke, akudingekile ukuthi uthembise ingane ukuthi ikamu limnandi kakhulu. Sitshele futhi ukuthi uzobhekana nezimo ezintsha kuye. Ungesabi ingane ngezincomo eziqinile noma umphathi wekamu. Yenza kucace ukuthi uma elandela imithetho eyisisekelo futhi ebonisa ukuthakazelelwa ekukhulumisaneni, ukuphumula kuzophumelela. Nika ingane ukuthi uqiniseka ukuthi angaba nesikhathi esihle ekhaya.
Izinsuku zokuqala ekamu
Ngokokuqala ngqá ekamu, ingane yakho ingabhekana nokushaqeka kwangempela ukumangala. Ngempela, konke kuyamangalisa futhi kungajwayelekile! Ukuzibophezela nokuzibophezela kwakhe kuwela kuye, futhi abazali, abajwayele ukuqondisa "endleleni efanele," akusikho ngemuva kwakhe, ukuqoqwa kwezingane ezintsha ngokuphelele nemithetho yayo eqinile. "Isonto lokuqala izingane zivumelane nezimo ezintsha, funda imithetho, wazi kangcono labo obani Yiqiniso, akulula izingane, futhi abazali, emva kokufika "ngosuku lomzali" ngesonto, bangabhekana neqiniso lokuthi umntwana uphelelwe amandla futhi ufuna ukumyisa ekhaya. Yiqiniso, lokhu akukwenzeka njalo, kodwa kudingeka ulungele. Kunganconywa ukuba ungayitholi kulokhu "ukucasula." Izinsuku ezimbalwa kuphela ezizodlula, futhi ingane izozizwa ithule, iqale ukuthola izinzuzo empilweni yekamu.
Okokuqala okwabangele i-alamu, kuzoba inzuzo. Isimo asijwayele, kodwa zingaki ezithakazelisayo! Ithimba alingajwayele, kodwa unganquma futhi ubonise wena ngendlela entsha, enesibindi nesithakazelisayo! Sidinga ukwenza izinqumo ezizimele, ngoba kuhle! Yebo, abazali abafaki, kepha akukho ukulawulwa okwandisiwe, noma ukugcinwa ngokweqile. Umntwana usejabule kakade ukuthi akahambanga ekhaya, kodwa wahlala ekuphumuleni.
Esinye isikhathi "esiyinkimbinkimbi", kodwa esifushane - uma ukuguqulwa kudlula phakathi, izinsuku ezimbalwa, ukugula ekhaya, abazali, ukhathala kokuxhumana ekubuyiseni okusha okuhlangene, ungaphinda uzwe izikhalazo zomntwana nezicelo zokumyisa ekhaya. izinsuku ezingu-2-3, ke "umoya wesibili" uvula: izingane ziyaqonda ukuthi ukushintsha kuyaphela, futhi bayashesha ukwenza lokho abakwazi ukukwenza ekhaya.
Eduze ekupheleni kweshintsho, izingane eziningi zithi zizwa ubuhlungu ngokushiya ikamu. Uma uzwa amagama anjalo kumntwana, uma ecela ukuthi umthumelele ekamu ngonyaka ozayo, wabe esethola ngokuphumula lokho akudingayo!
Ungakhathazeki!
Ngezinye izikhathi abazali bakhathazekile futhi banokuningi kunalokho okudingekayo. Futhi uma ngesikhathi esisodwa benethuba lokuxhumana nomntwana (isibonelo, ngomakhalekhukhwini), le alamu engavumelekile ingadluliselwa kuye futhi yenza ukuguquguquka kube nzima. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuba abazali baqede!
Mhlawumbe uye wayeka ibhizinisi, okwakungekho isikhathi? Noma ufuna ukulungiselela ingane yakho isimangalo: ukwenza ukulungiswa egumbini lakhe, uthenge ifenisha entsha noma umthungele ijazi elihle? Yehla ebhizinisini, akusikho isikhathi esiningi! Ungacabanga ukuthi ingane yakho iyojabula kanjani lapho ibona ukumangala kwakho? Ngaleso sikhathi, okukuhlala njalo, kuzoqala ukusheshisa ngokushesha.
Ngakho, ikamu lomntwana liyisikole sempilo yangempela. Futhi akusikwesabeki, uma ekuqaleni ulahlekile kancane. Okuhlangenwe nakho - kokubili okuhle nokubi, kuzohlala naye iminyaka eminingi, kuzokuvumela ukuba udwebe iziphetho mayelana nokuthi udinga kanjani nokuthi awukwazi kanjani ukuziphatha. Ukungaziwayo, noma ukuqeqeshwa kwekhaya "ukuzimela" akunikezi umphumela njengenguquko ekamu, kuyithuba lokutadisha umhlaba ngemuva kwemingcele ejwayelekile.
Futhi elinye iphuzu elibalulekile: isikhathi lapho ingane ekamu ingasetshenziswa ukuphumula (ngisho ngenkathi iqhubeka ukusebenza). Futhi kuhle kangakanani ukuhlangana futhi emva kokuhlukaniswa, kusetshenziswe okuhlangenwe nakho okusha kanye nokubonakala. Ngakho-ke, kufanelekile ukucabangela ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuya ekamu!
Ukuthula kuphela!
Ingabe ukhathazekile uma uthumela ingane ekamu? Thatha iphepha nopeni bese uphendula imibuzo:
1. Yini oyikhathazayo ngempela?
2. Ngingathanda / ngizimisele ukwenzani ukugwema lokhu? Khumbula ukuthi ingane kufanele ikwazi ukuthola isipiliyoni esibi futhi ifunde ukudweba iziphetho kuyo.
Uma isinqumo sakho ukuthumela ingane ekamu noma ukumshiya ekamu, lapho esivele khona (futhi sithemba ukuthi yilokho kunjalo), lokhu kuzodinga ukuba uzimisele futhi uqine.