Amadoda ayengesabi ukuba ngama-romantics. Abazange bacabange ukuthi lokhu kungamukeleki kumuntu wangempela. Banikeza izimbali, baxosha amantombazane kuma-movie, kumidanso. Ukuhamba nje nokuxoxa okungavamile emakethe, kwabajabulisa kakhulu.
Amantombazane ayezizwa ngempela futhi adingekayo. Babengesabi ukubonakala bebuthakathaka noma bebuthakathaka. Phela, kukhona njalo umuntu onamandla oseduze ongamlondoloza kunoma yikuphi ukuhlupheka.
Kwenzekeni kulawo madoda angakwazi ukujika izintaba ngenxa yowesifazane othandekayo? Kungani abafana beka ukuzama ukuthola amantombazane?
Kwenzekani manje? Amadoda anesiqiniseko sokuthi ayingqayizivele futhi, ngokoqobo, ayinhlobo engozini yokuphila kwezinhlobo zezilwane, abangeke abheke ukuthi kuyadingeka ukuthola amantombazane. Uma enqume ukuza kuwe, futhi uvumelane ukumnika inamba yocingo, khona-ke esiphezulu azokwenza ngokulandelayo ukushaya ucingo nokumema emhlanganweni. Futhi, kungenzeka ukuthi uma ngemuva kosuku lokuqala, ungazitholi embhedeni wakhe, khona-ke inzalo kuwe iyolahleka.
Umane nje akaboni ukuthi kuyadingeka ukuchitha amandla akhe ukukufeza. Futhi, ikakhulu njengoba eqiniseka ukuthi uma kungenjalo wena, khona-ke omunye uzovuma ngokushesha zonke izimo zakhe futhi ngeke kudingeke avule ohlangothini olungalungile ngenxa yowesifazane.
Yisiphi isizathu esenza abantu bayeke ukuzama ukuthola amantombazane, nje ungawutholi kahle. Isizathu kungenzeka ukuthi ngaphambi kokuba amadoda akhuliswe ngendlela ehlukile. Abafana kusukela ebuntwaneni babesazi ukuthi intombazane kumele ifunwe uma ufuna ukuba abe nawe. Ngaphambili, ukufuna owesifazane kwakubhekwa njengomsebenzi ojwayelekile, ngisho, omunye angase athi, isici nanoma yimuphi umfana.
Mhlawumbe thina ngokwethu, amantombazane nabesifazane, kufanele sigxeke ukuthi indoda ayifuni futhi ayikhathaleli intombazane. Akukona ukukhuliswa ngendlela efanele, njengesibonelo. Manje izindinganiso ezabahlonishwa nogogo nomkhulu zazikhohliwe. Manje indoda nowesifazane balingana namalungelo abo.
Iphutha likhona kithi, futhi esebenzayo eminyakeni yamuva nje yaba amantombazane. Kithina, akusasekho inkinga, hamba kumfana oyithandayo, mbuze inombolo yocingo, simemele ngosuku. Asinamandla, asilungele futhi sidla ukudla ekudleni uma umfana ethanda ngempela ngenhliziyo yakhe yonke. Sithumela imilayezo ye-SMS, lapho sizobe sichaza yonke imizwa yethu nolwandle lokuncoma. Thatha ngezandla zakho ikusasa elihlangene. Sihlela futhi siqaphele wonke amaphupho ethu namaphupho ethu.
Manje ngeke umangaze imindeni enjalo, lapho imali ikhishwa owesifazane, futhi indoda iyasebenza njengomama wendlu. Futhi, amadoda amaningi anelisekile ngalesi simo. Futhi kunzima ukungavumelani nabo, amadoda manje akudingeki azikhathaze ngokuthandana isikhathi eside. Okuhle, ngisho noma edala umndeni, izinso zikahulumeni zingashintshwa emahlombe owesifazane.
Sivumela la madoda ukuba aziphathe ngale ndlela, ngakho-ke singawalungisa emandleni ethu. Kuyinto nje uma kukhona okungahambisani nawe. Shintsha ukuqala ngokwakho. Indoda iziphatha nomfazi ngokufana nanjengowesifazane.
Ngenhlanhla, ngingasho ngokuqiniseka ukuthi kukhona namadoda anjalo esikhathini sethu, ngubani ngenxa yokuthandana isikhathi eside nentombazane. Kukhona namadoda lawo alungele ukuvikela nokusekelwa kwabathandekayo babo.
Amantombazane, uma ungafuni usuku olulodwa uthathe ikhanda lakho ngemicabango: "kungani abafana beka ukuzama ukuthola amantombazane?". Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, ungathathi okuningi kuze kube yilapho akudingeki ukhale futhi uhlupheke. Khumbula njalo ukuthi uyintombazane enesibindi ofanelwe uthando, ukunakekelwa nokunakekelwa. Futhi, ngisho nangaphezulu, ufanelwe umuntu wamaphupho akhe ukuwufeza.