Kungani indoda ingafuni ukukhula?

Ngokuqhubekayo, ezingxoxweni zamakhosikazi zanamuhla ungase uzwe ukuthi "abesilisa akuzona ukuthi babekuphi" noma okubi nakakhulu, "indoda ingumntwana omkhulu". Izizathu zezimpendulo ezinjalo ezingathandeki, ngokusho kwabesifazane, zilele ekungafuni kwabaningi abameleli bobulili obunamandla ukuze bathole imali yomndeni futhi benze izinqumo ezijulile ngokwabo. Khona-ke umbuzo uvela: kwenzekani ngempela namadoda anamuhla? Ngempela, izidakamizwa eziningi zesilisa (izimoto, abesifazane, ezemidlalo) nokuziphatha kwazo zilokhu zifana. Kungenzeka ukuthi impendulo isitatimende esilula - bangabantwana. Kungase kube nezizathu eziningana zalokhu. Ukungathandi ukukhula

Akudingekile ukuba ubhale ukunganeliseki ngobulili obuqinile kumuntu wesilisa omncane. Isibonelo, ukungathandi ukubhekana nezindaba zomndeni (ukugeza izitsha, ukuhlanza, njll) noma ukulungisa kungachazwa ubuvila obujwayelekile noma obunzima bokudlula. Kodwa-ke, ngokusho kocwaningi lwezenhlalo zezenhlalo kanye nezengqondo, izwe lomuntu liqala ukufana ne-kindergarten, lapho abesifazane behamba khona, futhi lapho engathandi khona futhi besaba ukukhula.

Indlela yokuphila yanamuhla iqukethe izithiyo kanye nokuwa, ukunqoba lapho umuntu eqina khona futhi eqhubekela phambili. Kodwa-ke, leli lungiselelo liyesaba amalungu amaningi obulili obuqinile ngobuqili bawo, ngenxa yalokho okulula kumuntu wanamuhla ukuba ahlale emsebenzini okhokha kancane futhi ngandlela-thile aphelelane, uma nje umhlaba ononya ungamcindezeli ukuba athathe izingozi futhi athwale izinqumo zezinqumo zakhe. Abantu abanjalo baphenduka ngokushesha baba abaphuphayo, ngokushesha bashintsha ukunakwa kwabo kanye nesifiso sabo kwesinye isiteshi, ngokushesha nje lapho lowo owayedlulile engahambisani nabo. Futhi ngalesi sikhathi, owesifazane othandekayo uthatha konke ezandleni zakhe, azi kahle ukuthi ngaphandle kwakhe, akekho omunye ongayethemba.

Abesifazane ngokwabo kufanele babekwe icala

Esikhathini sokuhlukumezeka kwenqubo yokukhululwa, abesifazane bathola lokho abalwa ngakho iminyaka eminingi kangaka. Isifiso sokwenza umsebenzi, ithuba lokukwakha impilo yakho ngendlela othanda ngayo nokuzimela kwezezimali kwaholela eqinisweni ukuthi azikho izindawo eziningi ezishiywe ngocansi oluqinile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukwehluleka komuntu ukukhombisa ubuholi emkhakheni wezobuchwepheshe kuye kwaholela eqinisweni lokuthi esimweni sobuthakathaka bakhe, abasasenzi ngokwenza izinto. Ngenxa yalokho, abesifazane bawamukela umyeni ongeke abe ngumsebenzi wesikhundla nasemsebenzini, esebenzisa wonke amandla akhe kanye nemali yakhe ezindlini zakhe zokuzilibazisa, lapho abonisa khona konke ukuzimela kwakhe okungenasipiliyoni.

Lokhu kube

Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi eziningi zezimfanelo zomlingiswa womuntu zinqunywe ngumyalelo owawubusa emndenini wakhe. Ikakhulukazi iyabonakala kuwo wonke umuntu owaziwayo "wendodana kamama" abesimame besimanje okufanele bahlasele ngaso sonke isikhathi. Inhlobo enjalo yabantu abasha ikhulela phakathi komama ongashadile futhi ekukhuleni babona owesifazane onamandla ozama ukuwavikela ezweni elizungezile. Ngenkathi kulesi sigaba sokuthuthukiswa komuntu, indoda kufanele ibe eceleni komuntu ozayo. Kodwa lokhu akusiyo kuphela isisombululo sokuthi u-infantilism wesilisa. Emindenini yanamuhla, ukubukeka kwengane kuya ngokuya kwesikhathi, kanti lapho ingane ithanda ingane, abazali bayathanda ukumzungezela ngokunakekelwa ngokweqile.

Ngenxa yalokho, lo wesifazane ubhekene nombuzo omdala - ukuthi benzeni? Uma umuntu onjalo engekho nhlobo okungafani nawe, impendulo iyodwa - ukufundisa. Akekho owakusho ukuthi kuzoba lula, kodwa kunezindlela eziningi lapho owesifazane ohlakaniphile angakwazi ukulungisa lesi simo. Kunoma yikuphi, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi akukho lutho oluhlala kuze kube phakade. Ngokushesha umuntu ngamunye uyakhula futhi isikhathi sizobeka konke endaweni yaso.