Kuyaziwa ukuthi izingane ziyizimbali zokuphila. Noma kunjalo, ngeshwa, akubona wonke umuntu obelana ngale mbono. Amadoda ikakhulukazi. Lesi simo sengqondo sabantwana singabangela igebe. Yingakho abesifazane abaningi bezama ukuqonda ukuthi kungani amadoda engathandi izingane.
Eqinisweni, kunezimpendulo eziningi kulo mbuzo: kungani indoda engathandi izingane. Okokuqala, kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi umuntu ngamunye uthinteka emoyeni wengqondo lapho akhula khona. Mhlawumbe, lo muntu washiya izinkumbulo ezingathandeki kusukela ebuntwaneni bakhe, okuyizona ezibangelwa isimo sengqondo esinjalo. Ngokwesibonelo, lapho insizwa isencane, wayenomfowenu noma udadewabo osemncane, ababelethi abanike bonke uthando nokukhathalela, beyeka ukunakekela ingane endala. Ngakho-ke, wayenomuzwa wokuthi wayengathandwa. Futhi naphezu kokuthi usekhulile isikhathi eside, enganakwa, uhlehlise iqiniso lokuthi izingane ezincane zizohlala zithanda ngaphezu kwakhe. Kungenzeka ukuthi yena ngokwakhe akaqapheli nje ukuba nomona ngowesifazane othandekayo wakhe, ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthi ngeke anakekele, njengoba kwenzeka kwabazali bakhe.
Ukwesaba kwamadoda
Kuphinde kwenzeke ukuthi abameleli bobulili obunamandla abathandi abancane, ngoba bavele bezwa ukuthi abakwazi ukuthatha imithwalo yempilo yabo, ukuthuthukiswa nokunye okuningi. Ngokuvamile, lokhu kwenzeka lapho abantu abasha bekhulela emindeni engumzali oyedwa noma eduze kobaba abangasebenzi. Yiqiniso, akuzona amadoda aqala ngaso sonke isikhathi ukwesaba izingane. Kubuye kwenzeke ukuthi umfana oye wajwayela kusukela ebuntwaneni ukuba abe nesibopho sabathandekayo bakhe ngisho nokuwavikela, usheshe ukulungele ukuthatha umthwalo wengane yakhe. Kodwa amacala abuye avame lapho abantu abasha bebona obaba babo ngokwabo futhi bakholelwa ukuthi nabo ngeke bakwazi ukunikeza izingane zabo okuhle. Kulesi simo, ukungathandi kwabo izingane kuqondiswa kuphela ukwesaba kwabo kanye nomqondo wokungazi kahle. Noma kunjalo, kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi ukwesaba okunjalo akuveli kuphela kulabo abakhulela emindenini engasebenzi. Kunezimo eziningi lapho abantu abasha bengakakulungeli ukuthatha noma yimuphi umthwalo wemfanelo. Ngakho-ke noma yikuphi ukukhulunywa ngezingane kubenza bathukuthele futhi bacasuke. Amadoda anjalo acabanga nje ukuthi intombazane izama ukumphoqa ingane, ithathe inkululeko yakhe, isikhala sakhe kanye nokwazi ukwenza lokho akufunayo. Kulesi simo, indoda nje akufanele nje kuphela ngokomzimba, kodwa futhi ngokwengqondo ikhulile. Ngokuvamile, abantu badinga isikhathi esengeziwe sokujabulela inkululeko kunoma yiziphi izibopho futhi bafunde ukuyeka izifiso ezithile. Kulaba besifazane, umama unemvelo, ngakho kulula ukuba benze "imihlatshelo" efanayo ngenxa yengane.
Ukuhlolwa kokulinganisela
Kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi umuntu onesimo sengqondo evamile kanye nombono ofanele wezwe angacasulwa ngumntwana, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo angabangeli ukuhlaselwa inzondo nokuhlukunyezwa. Uma ubona ukubonakaliswa okunjalo komlingiswa kumuntu omusha, khona-ke udinga ukucabanga ukuthi uwanele kangakanani. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma uqaphele ukuthi umfana akasho nje izinto ezingathandeki ngezingane, kodwa futhi usongela ngodlame lomzimba. Ukuziphatha okunjalo akuvunyelwanga ngokuphelele kumuntu ojwayelekile, ngoba ngokucophelela noma ngokungazi kahle ngokwengqondo eyaneleyo kunesifiso sokuvikela ababuthakathaka noma okungenani abaphatha ngokungathathi hlangothi, kunokuba babangele ubuhlungu nokuhleka usulu. Ngakho-ke, uma uqonda ukuthi umuntu osemncane ubona ezinganeni izitha eziyinhloko nezicasula, cabanga ukuthi uzokwazi yini ukuba ubaba ojwayelekile kumntanakho.
Ngenhlanhla, labo abameleli bobulili obunamandla abakwanele. Ngokuyinhloko, wonke amadoda abhekana nokungazithandi izingane lapho bekhula futhi belahla isifiso esingaqondakali sokuhlala izingane ezingadingeki zibe nesibopho nganoma yini. Ngokuvamile, lokhu kwenzeka lapho umfana enendodana noma indodakazi yakhe, lapho azibona khona. Khona-ke ukuthukuthela kwakhe kuyashintsha ngokuphambene, kuphenduka umuzwa wokuthandana okungenamkhawulo nothando.