Ake sithi nje owesifazane ohlala ekhononda ngokuphila kwakhe ungowesifazane ongenangqondo. Njengomthetho, yonke imigomo yethu yokuphila ihlose ukuzama ukuhleleka: sifuna ukubukeka kahle, sigqoke kahle, sithole kahle futhi siphumule kahle. Ngaphezu kwalokho, sifuna indoda enhle, ephelele. Kodwa, kusukela emhlabeni akukho lutho olungaphelele, ngisho nathi, neqiniso ebusweni, akuyona into enhle, ayikwazi ukuba ngumyeni ofanelekayo.
Okuhle kungumgomo othile, okufanele umuntu alwele. Kungaba yindinganiso yobuhle, izinga lokuziphatha okuhle futhi, yebo, izinga lomyeni. Umyeni ofanelekayo, odwetshwe ngombono wakho, yiloluhlobo lwezimfanelo zangaphakathi, idatha yangaphandle okumele umngane wakho abe nayo ekuphileni. Kumantombazane amaningi anamuhla, indoda enhle nendoda enomuntu ovikelekile ngokwezimali. Ngakho konke kuyedwa, ngoba wonke umuntu unezicelo zakhe ngamadoda "90-60-90".
Kodwa, emva kwakho konke, akufanele ukhiphe izinkolelo futhi ubheke isikhulu esiphezulu, nxazonke kukhona amadoda amaningi aneziphambeko ezinkulu nezincane nezintandokazi. Ukuthinta ngokweqile, ngisho nokuzikhethela, ungahlala lutho. Uma ufika esitolo, lapho okuzokwenzeka khona, futhi uzokhetha isikhathi eside kakhulu, ungahlala lutho. Kukhona njalo umthengi we-nimble owaziyo ukuthi ufuna, futhi esikhathini sokucabanga kwakho uyokujabulela ukuthenga kwakhe ngokuphepha. Futhi nabantu. Kukhona njalo okubonayo ekukhethweni kwakho okumele ukhethe iqembu elifanele futhi, nakanjani, aliphuthelwa.
Izimfanelo ezinhle zomyeni ofanelekayo
Futhi manje sizocabangela ukuthi yiliphi uhlobo lwezimfanelo indoda efanelekayo okufanele ibe nayo. Kodwa, ngifuna ukuqaphela ukuthi kuwo wonke owesifazane kukhona izinto eziza kuqala kanye nezimiso, kanti kwabanye ngisho nokuhle kungumuntu ozimele onelungelo lokuhlubuka. Ngokwemvelo, owesifazane ukhetha umyeni omjabulisayo, futhi uma edinga inkululeko yokuphila emkhayeni wakhe womndeni, naye ufuna umyeni wakhe nemigomo yokuphila efanayo nokuziphatha. Kodwa, njengomthetho, emva kwakho konke, owesifazane ufuna ukubona kumyeni wakhe indoda yomndeni oqotho, olula futhi ophetheyo.
Ngakho, indoda enhle yile:
- Indoda ekuthandayo futhi ikuthandayo. Ngicabanga ukuthi ukuphawula akudingeki lapha.
- Indoda engenazo imikhuba emibi, kuyifisa ukuthi akaphuzi noma aphume.
- Indoda yomndeni othembekile nonokwethenjelwa. Esinye isigamu, esabizwa ngokuthi umyeni noma umfazi. Bonke babonke. Indoda ekahle izohlala isisekela kumzuzwana onzima, thola amagama afanele, ukuhlambalaza - hhayi inkatho yomuntu ofanelekayo.
- Indoda enhle yilophupho lokugcina lamantombazane nabesifazane abaningi. Yebo, kuhle ukucabanga ngendoda enhle kakhulu, ikakhulu uma ilula futhi isakhiwe kahle. Kodwa lesi sici sokuzikhethela akufanele siholele. Ngezinye izikhathi ngemuva kobuhle awukwazi ukubona amaphutha amakhulu. Lapho umngane wami evuma ukuthi wayemthanda kakhulu umyeni wakhe, ukubukeka okukhangayo. Kodwa umshado wawushintsha yonke into, ukubukeka kwavela ngemuva, okubaluleke kakhulu kwakuyizimfanelo zangaphakathi zomuntu, ongazange azikhanyise.
- Ubulili ... Umyeni ofanelekayo kufanele abe kahle embhedeni, kuhle kuwe. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubani ongasho, kodwa ngaphandle kokwaneliseka okufanayo, akukwazi ukuba nobuhlobo obuhle. Futhi hhayi into esemqoka ngesamba sesithunzi sakhe sesilisa. Into eyinhloko ukuthi umyeni ufuna ukukunika injabulo, futhi uma efuna, khona-ke, konke kuzovela.
- Kungaba kuhle uma umyeni engumtholi oyinhloko emndenini. Kodwa umyeni akuyona i-ATM, futhi ungamcindezeli, uma namhlanje engakuvumeli konke okufunayo. Ukuhlambalazwa kungaba nomthelela ophazamisayo ebuhlotsheni bomndeni. Owesifazane umyeni wakhe uyimnori, futhi akaphuzanga, khumbula lokhu. Umshado ngokubala, cishe, "inkontileka" eyithandayo, kodwa hhayi uthando. Kodwa, njengoba ngishilo, wonke umuntu unayo eyakhe. Uma lokhu kuyilungele, bese ulwela ngesibindi.
Yebo, futhi ekugcineni. Owesifazane ofuna ukumbona umyeni wakhe ofanele kufanele acabange ngezimfanelo umfazi ofanelekayo okufanele abe nayo. Uma nje "uthatha" futhi unganiki, khona-ke umyeni ofanelekayo angaba ngumyeni ongaphelele futhi ngokufanayo.
Uma ufuna umyeni wesikhathi esizayo, funa futhi ulwele okusemandleni akho, kodwa ungalokothi uphuphe induna yenkosikazi, ngoba udinga indoda nayo yonke amandla akhe nobuthakathaka, hhayi ukukhohlisa okungamanga. Usuvele ungumfazi? Angicabangi ukuthi ungashada nomuntu ongeyena omuhle. Izingxabano, izingxabano, ukungaqondani - lokhu kuyisinyathelo kuphela eqinisweni, kodwa hhayi ukudumazeka. Bheka eduze, thola kuwo ama-pluses amaningi phakathi kwamaminithi amaningana, futhi, mhlawumbe, yenza isinyathelo sokuqala endleleni futhi uye kumangaze umyeni wakho. Yini okufanele ibe yindoda ekahle owaziyo kakade, ngakho-ke kukhona njalo okumele uzame. Futhi ungahlambalazi amadoda akho, noma ngabe akuyona into oyifunayo. Ukudumisa nokuvunywa kuyisisusa esiqinisekayo ekuphishekeleni impilo engcono.