Amaqiniso ambalwa amangazayo mayelana nobaba ozayo

Njengoba izazi ze-psychologists zisho, amadoda azwa ukukhulelwa kwentombazane engaphezu kwalokho esikucabanga. Ukucwaninga okwenziwe kuqinisekisa izinsolo zethu eziyingozi kakhulu: ngenxa yesakhiwo esithile sesakhiwo sobuchopho namahomoni, amadoda abona izwe elizungezile ngokunye ukukhanya, kunabesifazane. Zonke izigaba zomjikelezo wokuphila zihlangene namadoda ngendlela ehlukile.


Futhi njengoba kubonakala ukuthi phakathi nazo zonke izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye, lapho konke ukunakwa kuqondiswa kuphela kumama wesikhathi esizayo, le ndoda ayiphumuli nhlobo futhi ibhekana, mhlawumbe, engaphansi kwesifazane. Ukuguqulwa okuvela kumuntu owayengathwali umndeni kunikezwa ubaba ngokungathandeki kokubili ezingeni lomzwelo nangokwenyama. Idatha etholakele emisebenzini yobuchopho bokhokho besikhathi esizayo yasinika ithuba lokuthakazelisa kakhulu futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo iziphetho ezingalindelekile mayelana nokuthi umlingani wakho uzoziphatha kanjani ngesikhathi ulindele ukugcwaliswa komndeni.

Le ndoda iyazinyanya

Indoda yakho yayisezulwini lesikhombisa ngenjabulo, lapho izwa ukuthi uzoba ngubaba, kodwa kungekudala, intshiseko yakhe yaveza ukuthukuthela. Nokho, lokhu akusiyo isikhathi eside: Nokho, lokhu akukona isikhathi eside: ngokusho kokubheka okwenziwa ngabahlengikazi, ukukhungatheka nokukhathazeka kobaba ozayo kuzofinyelela e-apogee yayo ngesonto lesishiyagalombili kuya kweshumi lokukhulelwa izintombi zabo. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Kungenxa yokuthi owesifazane uyazi ngokukhulelwa kwakhe ngaphambi kokuqinisekisa ukuthi uyesaba. Kulokhu, unesikhathi esanele sokulungisa ngokwengqondo ngokuzalwa kwengane. Le ndoda ayinayo isikhathi esifanayo futhi idinga inyanga, noma ngisho eyodwa nengxenye, ukuba ilungiselele indima entsha - ukuba ngubaba. Abesifazane abaye bafinyelela eminyakeni yobudala, ikakhulukazi labo abakulungele ukukhulelwa engqondweni, bazwe ukubonakaliswa okuncane kakhulu kokukhulelwa, ngoba baqondana nokuzalwa komntwana. Bavame ukuhlola amabele abo ngenxa yokuzwela, zama ukudla ukudla okuwusizo kuphela, ukuze bangalimazi ingane yabo, bayeke ukusebenzisa utshwala, balahle ezinye imikhuba emibi. Ngakho-ke, ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kwakhe kuqinisekisiwe, lo wesifazane uzobe esilungele ngokwengqondo. Amadoda abuyele emuva kule ndaba.

Isimo sakhe sishintsha kaningi

Nakuba kumangalisa ukuthi kungenzeka kanjani, isizinda sangemuva salesi sikhathi asifani nabesifazane kuphela, kodwa nakwamadoda. Isayensi iye yazi ukuthi esikhathini sokukhulelwa, izinga lama-hormone we-progesterone ne-estrogen kwabesifazane landa cishe ama-3. Kodwa njengoba ucwaningo lwamuva luvezile, amazinga e-hormone aqala ukushintsha emadodeni. Ngama-gland ama-sweat wesifazane ohamba phambili, ama-pheromone akhululwa. Zithinta umzimba wesilisa, ngenxa yalokho izinga le-hormone e-testosterone elinciphile kakhulu. Esikhundleni salokho, ukuthuthukiswa kokubizwa ngokuthi i-hormone hormone prolactin eqalayo. Konke lokhu kwe-hormonal leapfrog kuqala ukugqugquzela izifiso zesilisa. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi emzimbeni womuntu kukhona izinguquko ezifanayo ezenzeka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, lapho ephendula ingane ibe yindoda. Lokhu kuhamba kahle futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo inqubo ebiza kakhulu ngokomzwelo, ngakho-ke kufanele ube nesineke.

Uthola isisindo

Kungenzeka ukuthi abantu abaningi sebezwile ukuthi amadoda aqala ukuthola isisindo ngesikhathi bekhulelwe izintombi zabo. Kodwa kwenzeka ukuthi indoda iqala ukuzwa izimpawu zokukhulelwa. I-Vmedicine, lesi simo sibizwa ngokuthi i-syndrome Kuvad, eshunyushwe ngesiFulentshi ngokuthi "ukuhlanza izinkukhu" noma okunye, isifo sozwela. Ngokuvamile izibonakaliso zokuqala zalesi sifo ziqala ukubonakala ku-trimester yokuqala, okungukuthi ekupheleni kwayo zingadlulela phakathi nokukhulelwa. Ngaphezu kokuthi obaba ozayo bayothola isisindo, banezinye izibonakaliso - isibonelo, isicasule noma ukuhlanza ekuseni.

Uhlomisa isidleke somndeni

Uma umuntu ethanda ukumbamba endlini ngisho nangaphambi kokukhulelwa, uma usukhulelwe, uzoba yi-hen yangempela. Njengomama wesikhathi esizayo, obaba nabo balungiselela ukulungisa ingane, bahlomise indlu yabo, njengesidleke. Kodwa, njengoba wazi, indoda ibhekene nomsebenzi womhlaba jikelele. Ngaphezu kokuthi udinga indodana, udinga ukutshala umuthi nokwakha indlu. Owesifazane, ingane iyidalwa enhle, okumelwe idliwe, igqoke izingubo ezinhle kunazo zonke futhi ilahlwe nayo. Ingane yindoda ingokuqala futhi eyinhloko umlandeli womndeni, okumele avikelwe futhi anikezwe lokho akudingayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungumqhubi omusha noma imoto evela ochungechungeni lokugcina.

Izindlebe zakhe zibukhali

Mhlawumbe umuntu uyakuzwa phansi phansi, kodwa ngokushesha nje lapho uqala ukukhuluma ngomntwana, konke okuzokwenza kuzokushintsha ngokushesha kuwe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amahemuhemu omuntu ulungiselela ushintsho lomhlaba wonke, njengokungathi ulungiselela ukukhala, ngoba umama akakwazi ukuhlala eseduze nomntwana, ngakho-ke uzodingeka ahlale naye yedwa. Enye inkohliso yemvelo yindoda yokunakekela ingane yakhe, kuthiwani ngokuqhubeka nomfazi. Nakuba omama abancane kuleli cala bathuthela phambili. Ukuzwa kwabo kuyinkimbinkimbi, ngoba umuntu uhlale ekulungele ukulalela ukukhala kwengane bese esabela kuyo ngokufanele.

Ukhombisa uthando lomntwana ozayo

Nakuba umuntu engenalo uxhumano olunjalo nengane njengowesifazane, kodwa uqala ukulungiselela uxhumano olungenakulinganiswa lwezinto eziphilayo oluzovela ngemuva kokuba ingane izalwe bese uzama ukubonisa konke uthando lwakhe. Le ndoda ayikhulisi nje kuphela ukuzwa, kodwa neminye imizwa eminingi. Kubonakala sengathi uqala ukuzwa uthando lokuqala, manje kuphela into yokudumisa ayiyona intombazane, kodwa indodakazi noma indodana. Lokhu kuzwela kubonakala ngaphambi kokuzalwa, kodwa uma indoda ithatha ingane okokuqala ezandleni zakhe, yonke imizwa, emgqeni onothando, idluliselwa kumntwana. Kuvela ukuthi ukubuka ingane ibamba, hhayi ngaphansi kwebhola.