Kusho ukuthini ukwenza uthando ephusheni?
Ukuchazwa okubaluleke kakhulu kobulili obuphusayo ukuthi kungukubonakaliswa okucacile kokuntuleka kwemizwelo empilweni yangempela noma unento enesithakazelo esiqinile sobulili. Ukuze unqume ngokunembile ukuthi le nkulumo isho ukuthini, kubalulekile ukukhumbula izikhathi eziyisisekelo kakhulu ememori: ngubani owayengumlingani wakho (ongumfokazi, okhethiwe okwamanje, owaziwayo, owayekade ekhona), yiziphi imizwelo oye wazizwa lapho ulala (ujabule noma udele)?
Ngakho-ke, ngokusho kwezincwadi zephupho, ukulala ocansini kusho ukucabanga okufisa ukucabangela noma izifiso, okungazivumeli ukuba zifinyeleleke ngenxa yemigomo yakho yokuziphatha, okuyiyona ebusheni eyabekwa yindlela yokukhulisa kanye nemibono eyayizungezile. Uma ukholelwa umhumushi we-psychologist wase-Italy uRobert, ubuhlobo bobulili ephusheni bubonakalisa ukufihlwa, izifiso ezikhukhumezayo zokucindezela. Kwabesifazane, leli phupho lisho okuthile okuhle futhi okubaluleke kakhulu.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuzwa injabulo, kusho ukuthi empilweni yangempela uzobe usukwazi umuntu othakazelisayo kakhulu wobulili obuhlukile. Ukuvuswa ngesikhathi socansi ephusheni kungabonisa ukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo noma imfundo yezocansi engalungile.
Uma uphupha ucansi nomfokazi, khona-ke ukhuluma ngokusheshisa ukuthola ubuhlobo nabakhethi bakho bangempela. Kungenzeka ukuthi lo muntu akahambisani nawe ngokuseduze, noma awuhambisani nemvelo. Futhi emva kwalokhu iphupho, ungalindela ukuncoma kusuka kumuntu omuhle. Kungenzeka ukuthi maduzane uzothola isipho esivela kumbukiso wemfihlo.
Kungani uthanda ukulala nobulili nendoda enomuntu?
Kumfana, leli phupho alisho ukuthi liyingxenye yobuncane bezocansi, kodwa kubonisa ngokucacile ukubukeka kwemilayezo engalindelekile nokuhamba maduzane. Ukuthola injabulo ephusheni nomunye umuntu kuhunyushwa ngokuthi unomphikisi empilweni yangempela. Akumangalisi ukuthi uhlanga oluqhubekayo lokuphakama luthatha amandla okuphuza kakhulu nemali. Dlulisa amandla akho kwisiteshi esisebenzisekayo.
Ngokuba isigamu sowesifazane ephusheni ukwenza uthando nentombazane, kufanekisela ubunzima obuseduze obuhambisana nomsebenzi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngemva kwendaba enjalo, ungalindela ukuthuthela kwelinye idolobha. Kungenzeka ukuthi ushintsho lendawo yokuhlala luzoxhunyaniswa nokudluliswa komsebenzi noma ukunganeliseki ngokwezifiso.
Njengoba ubona, ukwenza ucansi ephusheni akufaneli ukukhombisa noma yikuphi ukuguqulwa ekupheleni. Ngokuvamile lokhu kukhuluma ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwangaphakathi, ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nokuphikisana nokuziphatha komuntu kwangempela nokuziphatha komphakathi. Inhlanhla namaphupho amnandi!