Ubunqunu, kuyini?
Ubunqunu bungumhlangano wezenhlalo nezombangazwe, isimiso saso esisekelwe ekulinganeni kwezesilisa. Kwakukhona ukunyakaza ngekhulu le-18. Umvuthwandaba wokuqala wesifazane uwela ngo-19 nengxenye yokuqala yekhulu lama-20. Ngalesi sikhathi kwakukhona umzabalazo osebenzayo wokulingana ngokomthetho kwamadoda nabesifazane. Kusukela engxenyeni yesibili yekhulu lama-20 isondo elilandelayo liqala. Abasebenzi abathintekayo abadingi kuphela umthetho wezomthetho, kodwa futhi nokulingana kwangempela. Ngasekupheleni kweminyaka engamashumi ayisikhombisa, ukunyakaza kuyaba mkhulu. Abesifazane abaningi baqala ukusekela umbono wesifazane, imibuthano ejwayelekile kanye nemihlangano, izinhlangano namaqembu ezidalwa. Phakathi neminyaka engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye, injabulo ezungeze ukunyakaza ishiya kancane.
Mhlawumbe, ayikho into ehlala emphakathini eyabangela ukungavumelani okukhulu, njengobesifazane. Iyini ukunyakaza futhi kuyini injongo yayo? Ngokwezishoshovu, umgomo ukuthuthukisa ingokomoya labesifazane.
Uma ngaphambili umqondo wobukazi nakho konke okuhlobene nawo kubonakala sengathi izakhamizi zethu zizinto ezikude futhi ezingenakufinyeleleka, emva kokuthi "i-Iron Curtain" iphakanyisiwe lokhu kwenzeka kwezenhlalakahle empilweni yethu.
Owesifazane, ngubani lo?
Umbono wabanikazi besifazane abanjalo, sekuyisikhathi eside behlukaniswe. Yiqiniso, kunengqondo ukuthi owesifazane ungowesifazane osekela umqondo wokulingana okuphelele phakathi kobulili obuthakathaka nobunamandla.
Abafazi besifazane abafuni ukuthembela emadodeni. Omunye uzilahla ngalokhu. Futhi amadoda amaningi futhi abasiqondi incazelo yalokhu ukunyakaza nhlobo, futhi bayesaba yizingxabano zezingqungquthela.
Kusukela emininingweni yocwaningo oluqhutshwa ngesigamu esinamandla sabantu mayelana nokuthi kusho ukuthini abesifazane, iningi laphendula ukuthi izici ezivamile zabesifazane abanjalo zihlukumezeka kumalungu obulili obuhlukile. Amantombazane ngokuqondile aya empini, ngibonisa ukuthi ngilungile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abesifazane bazama ukuhola kukho konke, kokubili emsebenzini nasemakhaya. Ngokucophelela babeka umbono wabo kubo bonke abakuzungezile, bebaqinisekisa ukuthi baqinisile. Behave ngokungenangqondo. Uma uzama ukuveza ukugxeka ekhelini labo, ungaba nesiphepho semizwelo. Abesifazane bayabona noma yikuphi ukugxekwa njengokuthuka komuntu siqu. Kuzo zonke izinhluleka zokuphila, nazo zilahla amadoda.
Isici esilandelayo esihlukanisa abesifazane nabesifazane besifazane ukuziphatha komzimba. Amantombazane ngezindlela eziningi alingisa abantu besilisa. Kungatholakala emigqokweni, ngendlela yokuziphatha, futhi ngisho nekhono kubo liba "yindoda".
Umkhakha wesithakazelo kubantu besifazane ubukhulu kakhulu "owesilisa". Abesifazane bazama ukuzifakazela futhi babonise ubulili obuhlukile ukuthi ababi nakakhulu, noma ngisho nangcono, abakwazi ukubhekana nemisebenzi ethathwa njengabantu besilisa.
Okuthandayo amantombazane ajwayelekile (umndeni, indlela yokuphila, ukusekela izinwele, ukubeletha), abanesithakazelo, futhi ngisho nokubangela ukudelelwa.
Esinye sezici zabasebenzi abaningi abashisekeli bezinguquko. Amantombazane akafuni ukushada, abe nezingane futhi ngokuvamile ahlale eyedwa.
Ubunqunu - ukuthi kusho ukuthini, nokuthi ngabe kuhle noma kubi, kunzima ukuphendula. Umqondo walokho ukunyakaza kwakuhle futhi, masingabi icala lomphefumulo, abesifazane basebenze okuningi. Kodwa-ke, nakuba abalandeli abaningi balo mhlangano baphika lokhu, indima yabesifazane kufanele ibe ngumama nomlondolozi wendawo. Lokhu kuhambelana nemvelo. Kungani ulwa namadoda futhi uzama ukufakazela kubo abangcono? Masiphathane ngokuhlonipha, bese ukuphila kwethu kuyothokoza kakhulu.