"Hhayi namuhla, othandekayo ..." Ukuqhubeka kwale nkulumo kuyaziwa abaningi bethu: "... Ngimatasa kakhulu" (ngikhathele kakhulu, nginekhanda, nginamahloni, kwakungosuku olulukhuni ...) Futhi siyazi intengo yezizathu ezinjalo. Kodwa ngobuqotho? Iyini isizathu ngempela? Futhi kuthiwani uma isifiso sobulili selahlekile futhi engafuni ukubuya?
I-CANDLES IKHAYA ...
Khumbula ukuthi konke kuhle kuqale kanjani? Bobabili nishisa ukubekezela, nihamba ngezinsuku zonke ezinamaphiko othando, nibanga njengabasha emgqeni wokugcina futhi, nishuthele, nishaya wonke amarekhodi womhlaba emkhakheni wezocansi. Kodwa, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, awusephuzi ubusuku obumnyama "base-Afrika" futhi, ngemva kokubuya ekhaya ngemuva kosuku olukhuni, ungasheshi ukuklebhula izingubo futhi uhlangane nothando oluhle. Esikhundleni salokho, uhlala esihlalweni sezintambo ezikhululekile ngencwadi (ukubopha, ikati ethandekayo) futhi uzwe ukuthi isithandwa sakho esinesikhathi sinye sithinta kanjani endaweni eseduze.
Futhi into emangalisa kakhulu ukuthi uyathandana ngempela futhi ufuna ukuhlangana ndawonye. Awudonseli ama-adventures amnandi esihlangothini. Uyaneliswa yizinto zonke ngaphandle ... into ebaluleke kakhulu ubulili. Kodwa-ke, ubani othi lokhu kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu? Indoda nowesifazane baxhunywe yizintshisekelo ezivamile, izingane, umuzwa wokuqonda okufanayo, isisa, ekugcineni. Yebo, izinto eziningi! Cabanga, ubulili ...
Khona-ke kungani ucasuliwe ukuthola ukuthi awusatshiswa ngesifiso sangaphambili socansi, ungabe usithinta ukuthinta komuntu wakho othandekayo? Kungani wakhathazeka lapho ecela ukuba wenze uthando, waphinde waphendula ngokuthi usuvele unalo "izolo"?
IWARRANTY OF LOVE
Imibhangqwana eminingi inaka iqiniso lokuthi esiteshini esithile sobudlelwane obuseduze uthando lokuthanda uthando luqala kancane kancane. Futhi, uma ungathathi izinyathelo ezifika ngesikhathi, kungase kuvele ukuhlukaniswa okuphelele noma ngisho nokuhlukana kobudlelwane. Nasi isibonelo esibumbene esivela ekuphileni.
Umyeni nomkakhe (asibize ngokuthi amaRoma no-Svetlana) bashadile iminyaka emihlanu. Muva nje banesondo "ngendlela yokuxoxa". Iveliveli isikisela ukuthi i-Sveta, ngaphansi kwesinye noma esinye isizathu esicacile, sinqabe. IRoma ibeka phambili ukuphikisana okunamandla. USvetlana uphendula. Futhi njalonjalo, kuze kube yilapho umuntu engakhombisi umuntu. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, bobabili bayavuma ukuthi ukwaneliseka kulokho, masithi, uthando alupheli.
USvetlana ukholelwa ukuthi ubuhlobo obuseduze bobudlelwane babo buphelile ngokuphelele, isifiso sobulili sesiphelile, kodwa usikisela ukuthi singabambeli izinkolelo ngothando olungapheli nolusathane, kodwa ukubhekana neqiniso. Okuwukuthi, ukuqaphela ukuthi indoda nowesifazane abakwazi ukugcoba ngokungapheli esigxotsheni sesifiso, ngoba ngokuhamba kwesikhathi imizwa yabo iguqulwa ibe yinto ehlukile - uthando olujulile, inhlonipho, ubungane, ububele. Futhi ubulili ... Kuhle, ngezinye izikhathi, uma lokhu kuthanda ngempela, uma kukhona amandla, isikhathi nesimo sengqondo, kungani kungenjalo?
URoma uzibheka njengesisulu futhi, ngokuvamile, ngaphandle kwesizathu. Uthi eminyakeni emihlanu eyedlule akakwazi ngisho nokucabanga ukuthi zonke lezi zinkinga ngokungajwayelekile futhi "ngokuzithandela-ukuphoqeleka" ucansi kungathinta ubuhlobo babo. Ngokusho kwakhe, uSvetlana wayesehluke kakhulu - ekhohlisa, edlala ngothando, ethandekayo ... Yebo, uhlala engumfazi ofanelekayo, umnakekeli onakekelayo nomngane omnene. Kodwa ngaphambi kokulala, esikhundleni sokucindezela umyeni wakhe, uSveta ukhetha ukwenza lutho ngaphandle kokusondelana kakhulu. Uzofunda incwadi noma abuke uchungechunge futhi uma engaboni ukuthi umyeni wakhe uzizwa elahliwe futhi enesizungu. "Kungani engashada ne-TV?" Amahlaya aseRoma.
Iphutha elikhulu lenziwa yilabo abashadile ababheka ukulahlekelwa isifiso sobulili njengengozi yabo siqu, eyingqayizivele neyingqayizivele, engenazo ezinye "ezihlazo" zomlando zomhlaba. Mhlawumbe kungaba lula kubo uma bethola ukuthi lena yinkinga evamile kakhulu, iningi "izisulu" ezikhetha ukuthula. Kodwa esikhundleni sokuthi, njengezintshe, zifihle ikhanda lakho esihlabathini, kungcono ukuzama ukwenza okuthile. Isibonelo, ukuqonda izimbangela zesimo bese uzama ukuvuselela ubudlelwano bocansi.
UMSEBENZI WOKUSEBENZISWA KWE-SEXUAL COEFFICENT
Ukungaqondani okuningi esiteshini esiseduze kwakuyogwetshwa uma ekuqaleni safunda ukuhlola ngendlela efanele ubulili bethu nokuphatha ngokuqonda nokuhlonipha izidingo zomzimba nezifiso zomuntu othandekayo.
Ngamunye wethu unezinto ezithile zobulili. Zibangelwa izakhi zofuzo, isimo sempilo, isimo sengqondo, izinga lemasiko, ukuthuthukiswa ngokomzimba kanye nabanye abaningi. Ukuze unqume amandla amakhono azo ezocansi, kwanele ukukhumbula amanoveli wakho omthandayo kakhulu. Njengomthetho, kule nkathi sifinyelela ukuphakama kwengqondo futhi sithandelwe ukwenza "izifiso" zocansi. Kodwa-ke, uma uzama ukudlulisela lesi simodeli empilweni yansuku zonke, uzothola esicupheni esifanayo njengoRoman noSvetlana. Ngesikhathi sokuthanda ubudlova, babonisana nomunye nomunye umsebenzi omkhulu wezocansi futhi bazivumelanisa nokuthi lelo zinga lokusondelana ngokomzimba lizogcinwa kulo lonke impilo ndawonye. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, isifiso socansi sikaSvetlana sehlile kancane futhi sabuyela esimweni esijwayelekile. Mhlawumbe, uma umsebenzi wezocansi womyeni wakhe uphinde wafa kancane ekusebenzisaneni, lo mbhangqwana ngeke ube nokungavumelani. Kodwa amandla okubaRoma ayephakeme kakhulu kunokhethiweyo wakhe. Kodwa-ke, izinga elihlukile lokuziphatha akuyona isizathu sokuhlukanisa.
Ama-sexologists athi imibhangqwana evumelana kahle kuyo yonke imingcele yezocansi, efuna ukwenza uthando ngokulingana okufanayo, ubude, ngesikhathi esifanayo futhi ngendlela efanayo, bambalwa kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuba khona kokuvumelana okunjalo akuqinisekisi injabulo. Okubaluleke nakakhulu ukutholakala kweminye imfanelo ebalulekile - ikhono, isifiso namandla okuba "balinganise" amakhono abo okucansi.
UKUSEBENZA EZIPHUMA
Ukuze kuvumelwane ubudlelwano bocansi, umlingani ngamunye uzodinga umzamo othile. Kuvela kumuntu ngamunye, ngoba uma umlingani osebenza kancane angenza sengathi uzithande kakhulu noma uzosebenza ngokugcwele futhi uzolinda ngesineke imvume yokuthola ucansi - akukho okuhle okuyovela kuwo.
• Qala ngengxoxo enobungane neyiqiniso. Ungabeki icala ngamanye amaphutha kanye namaphutha, ukuveza izikhalo, ubeke yonke imithwalo yemfanelo yokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili komunye wabalingani. Kungcono ukukhuluma ngesihloko: "Indlela yokwenza ubuhlobo bethu bube nempilo futhi bujabulise."
• Ungazama ukuphetha "isivumelwano esisodwa". Chaza ukuthi yiziphi izimo ongazigxila ekusondeleni futhi lapho-kungathandeki ukudelela kulo. Isibonelo, isizathu esihle sokwenqaba kungaba impilo engafanele, ukugula kwengane, ukucindezeleka, ukucindezeleka, ukukhathala okukhulu ngokomzimba. Kodwa uma omunye wenu edinga ukuzwa uthando nokusekelwa komunye - ngaphambi kwesinyathelo esithwala isinyathelo, ngemuva kwesimo sokuphikisana, njll, isisombululo esiseduze namanje sinesifiso sokwamukela. Vumela labo abangashisi ngesifiso sokulala ocansini okwamanje, nokho vumela umlingani wokuqala ukuba azikhathaze futhi "kancane kancane ahlanganyele kulolu hlelo."
• Kodwa kuthiwani uma ukunyamalala kwesifiso sobulili kubonakala kungenakunqotshwa? Ngezinye izikhathi izifo zesifo sobulili ezimweni ezifanayo zivimbela abashadile isikhathi esithile (bathi, amaviki amathathu) ukuba bangene ebuhlotsheni obuseduze. Kuvunyelwe kuphela ukubonisana izibonakaliso zokunakekelwa, ukuthintana, ukucindezela, ukumanga - yilokho konke! Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa, njengomthetho, imicabango yabalingani abazitholela ekudleni ngokocansi kuthatha isimo sengqondo sokudlala. Khona-ke bavunyelwe ukuhlola ngobumnene imizimba engcolile yomunye nomunye (ukugwema indawo yobulili). Yilapho isimiso esidumile sesithelo esenqatshelwe sisebenza! Futhi okufakiwe, kwakuwukuthi, kwabanye abathandi abanenjabulo bayaphula ukuvinjelwa, bemangalisa ekuveleni nasekukhanyeni kokuzwa kwabo kwemizwelo.
Lezi zimbalwa kuphela kuzo zonke izinketho zokuphefumula umfudlana omusha empilweni esondelene nayo futhi wenze kube nokugcwele futhi ujabule. Mhlawumbe, uthando nesifiso sokulondoloza imizwa nezimo zengqondo ezithandekayo enhliziyweni yakho kuzokukuholela endleleni yakho, okuzokwenza ukuba uphinde uhlangane!