Indoda nowesifazane besahlukana. Bangaki abesifazane abakhona, kunabantu abaningi kakhulu, futhi ngokufanayo ... Ngikhumbula i-anecdote endala: "Wonke owesifazane kufanele abe namadoda amahlanu: umuntu wokuqala ungumngani okutshelwa ngakho konke, kodwa angabonisi lutho; umuntu wesibili ungumthandi oboniswa konke, kodwa akatsheli lutho; Indoda yesithathu ngumyeni oboniswa kancane futhi utshele kancane; Indoda yesine ingumfazi wezifo zogciwane, okubonakala kuye konke futhi konke kukhulunywa; Indoda yesihlanu ngu-boss, ngubani, njengoba esho, uzokwenza. " Futhi njengoba wonke amahlaya enesabelo sehlaya, konke okuyiqiniso, ake sikhulume ngamadoda, ngokucophelela mayelana namadoda empilo yomfazi ngokuningiliziwe.
Bangaki amadoda okufanele abe?
Ngakho-ke, bangaki kula madoda okufanele abe sempilo yomfazi, uma kunzima? Ake sithi, lo mqondo ungumuntu ngamunye. Enye - lena yodwa futhi eyingqayizivele kukho konke ukuphila kwakhe, enye - lokhu kukhishwa okungapheli kwesikhulu akuyona ihhashi elimhlophe, ngoba owesithathu nguye onqobile, kodwa wafika kude nokuba ngowokuqala empilweni yakhe. Ubani onenhlanhla, noma, ngokunembile, ubani onemfuneko yokuthi "ukhetho" lokuthunyelwe "kweyakhe."
Futhi manje emashalofini
Lokhu ngikutshela ngokungathí sina mayelana nokuziqhenya, ngokuqondile ngamadoda amahlanu empilweni yowesifazane.
Umngane
Ingabe kukhona ubungane phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane? Ngisho noma uzoboniswa ukuthi ubungane obunjalo bukhona, khona-ke buba nemishayo yayo. Ngokuvamile ubungane obunjalo busekelwe othandweni lwe-platonic, luseduze futhi alufinyeleleki ngesikhathi esisodwa. Abantu bangabangani, ngoba bethandana kahle, kunokuthile okumele bakhulume ngakho. Ngokuvamile, akukho isibindi ngokwanele noma isibindi sobudlelwane obuseduze, noma izimo azivumeli: intombazane, isoka, indoda noma umfazi.
Esinye isimo yisifiso sokuba nendoda noma owesifazane eceleni, okungenani njengomngane. Khona-ke isimo siphenduka: oyedwa bangabangani, kanti omunye uyabuthwa yi-platonic. Kunoma yikuphi, ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane bulawulwa ubulili obuyisisekelo obungokwemvelo, ngisho ne-platonic. Ngokuvamile abantu bafuna umngane ngomphefumulo, ngoba abatholi ukwesekwa okufanele empilweni yabo siqu, futhi ukuhlubuka ngokomoya kuqale, okuyinto, ngendlela, abantu abaningi abazi noma bamane abafuni ukuvuma, ukulungisa ubuhlobo babo. Ngakho isimo siphenduka: umngane angatshela konke futhi athole imizwa eminingi emihle evela kuye. Kuphela asikho isiqinisekiso sokuthi lobu buhlobo obuhle ngeke bukhule bube yinto engaphezu kobungane. Ngakho-ke, ubungane bungumqondo ohlobene. Kungenziwa kuqhathaniswa nezikali - okunye okuningi, konke kuzofika kulokho.
Umthandi
Ingabe kukhona umthandi kuwo wonke owesifazane? Kungani lokhu kushiwo njalo? Mhlawumbe, ngoba ubuhlobo bomndeni buvame ukuphenduka impilo eyomile, kodwa ukuze sikwazi ukuhlukanisa, kufanele sibheke uthando, noma kunalokho, ucansi, eceleni. Kuyindlela yokuzizwa ngothando lokuqala, uthando, ekugcineni, indlela yokuzwa futhi owesifazane - efiselekayo, enhle, enhle.
Kuphela lapha ebuhlotsheni obunjalo kunemifula yabo engaphansi kwamanzi, ikakhulukazi uma ubudlelwane bomndeni bengathandi kakhulu ukubhujiswa. Ngemva kokufunda ukuzwa okusha, owesifazane akanakwenzeka ukuba afane naye, ngaphandle uma umthandi elele embhedeni kunomyeni wakhe.
"Umthandi omuhle, njengomuthi. Zama it once, uqala ukugijima kuyo njalo, ukukhohlwa ngemisebenzi yakho, ukhathalela kanye namalungu omndeni, "kusho u-Oksana. Owesifazane uzimisele kakhulu ukuba mnandi kunomuntu. Uthatha ubudlelwano obubaluleke nakakhulu futhi unamathele kubo, ngisho noma ubuhlobo obufanayo busekelwe kuphela ocansini.
Kuhle ukuba uqale umthandi kuphela uma kungenalo ukuvinjelwa emndenini ezindabeni 'zokuphila komuntu siqu,' noma kunjalo, khona-ke, umbuzo ohluke ngokuphelele uvela: "Ingabe lokhu kakade umndeni?"
Umyeni
Indoda iyinhloko yomndeni. Kodwa kuphela uma amadoda ecabanga ukuthi wonke umuntu uyazi ngomkawo, aphutha kakhulu kulokhu. Ngakho isimo siqala: Ngibonisa kancane, ngitshela kancane. Ukulala kuyindawo lapho konke kwenzeka khona ngokuvumelana nesilinganiso: beka phansi - nocansi. Futhi ukukhuluma kakade, njengaye, futhi akukho lutho ... Omunye uyajabulisa ukuthi lokhu akuwona wonke umuntu kanjalo, kodwa, ngeshwa, kuvame ukutholakala.
Izinkinga zokuphila nezomndeni zenza indoda ibe yindlalifa, owesifazane abe ngumama womndeni. Ukuthandana nokuthandana kufihliwe esifubeni esijulile, futhi owesifazane uvame ukulala embhedeni "umthwalo wakhe womshado."
Ngenhlanhla, isimo esinjalo asiyona isizathu sokubeka isiphambano ebuhlotsheni, kepha isenzakalo sokushintsha okuthile. Isibonelo, ngezinye izikhathi ungase uzizwe umyeni wakho njengomngane ozolalela futhi aqonde konke, futhi ngezinye izikhathi - njengomthandi, ukuthumela izingane kunogogo wakhe nokuya ocansini ngendlela ejwayelekile.
I-gynecologist
O! Izazi zegazi - lo muntu ofanele! Uzosiza futhi ngeseluleko, futhi "bheka" ... Ngiyabonga isazi sezinsikazi zesilisa, izingane zizalwa. Indoda enjalo idinga ukubaluleka nokwaziswa. Kodwa akuwona wonke owesifazane ozoya emtshela umuntu, noma ngabe udokotela, konke nakho konke. Noma kunjalo, esikhathini sethu umjozi wezifo zezinzwa, uma engumchwepheshe omuhle, uyabiza kakhulu kunomjozi wezifo zogciwane.
Inhloko yomnyango
Ngokusho kocwaningo, abesifazane abaningi basathanda ukubona indima yomphathi wabo yilo muntu. Kunzima ukusho ukuthi kungani, mhlawumbe indoda ingakhathazeki kakhulu ngokobulili besifazane, mhlawumbe kunesici esingokomlando lapha: ekuqaleni, empeleni, indoda yodwa yenze izinqumo kuzo zonke izindaba. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, abafuni ukubona owesifazane oneminyaka ephakathi nendima ephakeme, ubonakala njengomuntu onobungozi futhi ongenelisekile.
Abanye babona indima yomphathi wesilisa hhayi nje njengomphathi, kodwa futhi njengengqondo noma engumthandi wangempela. Abesifazane abanjalo basheshe baqhubeke phambili emkhakheni wezemisebenzi, ngoba banayo yonke "amakhadi abanjwe." Okubi kakhulu isimo lapho umphathi ethi unobungane obungaphezu kwebhizinisi, futhi owesifazane wenqaba. Amadoda anjalo avame ukuziphindiselela. Ngakho-ke, umphathi wesilisa, uma ekhona empilweni yowesifazane, kungcono ukuthi uhlale nje njengomphathi nomngane omuhle.
Qaphela ukuthi isitatimende esithi "wonke owesifazane kufanele abe namadoda amahlanu" afanele kuphela owesifazane oshadile: angaba nomyeni nomthandi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lo mbuzo uphakama: "Kungani kuningi kangaka?" Akukuhle yini ukuba nelinye elihle, ngubani ozoba ngumyeni nomngane, umthandi ohlakaniphile, ngisho noma mhlawumbe, umjozi wesifazane nomphathi. Kodwa lokhu kufanele kubhekwe kakade ... "Uphi futhi kanjani?" - ubuza. Kodwa-ke, ngizosho ukuthi amadoda anjalo akhona, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunzima kanjani ukukholelwa, kodwa lena yindaba ...