1. Ukulungiselela.
Uma owesifazane engenawo umuntu ohlala njalo ahlala naye, khona-ke angase abe nezifo ezehlukene zobulili. Khumbula, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kukhona yini kuwe futhi ukutheleleka okungenzeka, kuzodluliselwa kumntanakho. Futhi isikhathi sokwelashwa sisinde kakhulu. Ngaphambi kokuba uzitholele umntwana udinga ukubhekana nokuhlolwa okuningi, nakuba kuyabiza, kodwa impilo yakho izokwazi ngokugcwele. Okulandelayo, udinga ukukhetha indoda ongathanda ukuba nengane yakho yesikhathi esizayo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi le ndoda yayiphilile ngokuphelele. Futhi hhayi okokuqala, kuvela, noma cha, uma kungenjalo umuntu ongathanda ukuzala.
Ukuze umphumela ube ngu-100% kubalulekile ukuthi bobabili abalingani bafuna lokhu. Yiqiniso, kukhona okukhethwa kukho okwesibili - umnikezeli ... i-sperm bank, uma ubhekisela kulo mtholampilo osebenzisana nezinsizakalo ezifanayo - udinga ukucabangela ukuthi le nkonzo ebiza kakhulu futhi kungenzeka ukuthi inqubo ephumelelayo ayikho enkulu kakhulu.
2. Ukukhulelwa.
Phakathi nenkathi yokukhulelwa, udinga ukuba ngaphansi kokuqondiswa kukadokotela futhi uthathe izivivinyo njalo ukuze ukwazi ukuthola ukuthi yini isiguli isiguli. Yiqiniso, kuhlale kukuhle ukuzwa ukuthi unompilo omusha esiswini sakho. Ingane isivele inendlela yokukhuluma-ukuqhuma.
3. Ukuzalwa nokugcinwa kwengane.
Futhi lapha, ekugcineni - ukulungiselela ukubeletha. Abanye besifazane bayesaba, futhi kubalulekile ukuthi umuntu onothando abe nawe futhi asekele ngesikhathi esibucayi. Futhi uma unesizungu, khona-ke udinga ukuqina kakhulu, ngokwengqondo. Lapho umntwana ebonakala, udinga ukuzinikezela ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kumelwe ulungele ukuthi uzosondla ingane yakho njalo ngamahora angu-3-4 futhi uchitha ubuthongo obuseduze naye - lokhu kungadlulela eminyakeni emibili. Nsuku zonke kufanele uhambe naye, ugeze futhi ubeke izingubo zakhe. Konke lokhu ngezinsuku zokuqala zomama kuzobonakala kuwumsebenzi onzima kakhulu. Kusukela kuleso simo esibucayi ungase ube nokucindezeleka. Ngokwejwayelekile, ungabuyela ngemva kweminyaka engu-1.5, futhi mhlawumbe isikhathi eside.
Ezinsukwini zokuqala ingane izoqala ukuphulukisa inkaba futhi kuyadingeka ukuyilungisa nsuku zonke futhi akubona bonke abesifazane abangalungele lokhu, ngakho-ke bayathemba lo msebenzi kumyeni. Futhi ukondla umntwana kahle nobisi, umama udinga ukudla kahle. Izindleko zokulondoloza ingane zinkulu kakhulu: izindiza, ukudla, ama-diapers, izikhwama ezikhethekile nezinye izinto eziningi. Futhi ngokukhula kwenkathi yengane, izidingo zezimali zaso nazo ziyanda. Ngokuvamile ingane ingagula futhi idinga imithi, okuyizindleko ezengeziwe. Futhi, zonke izinhlobo zamavithamini nokusikhipha kuzodingeka njalo ezinyangeni ezintathu.
Ngaphambi, uma eneminyaka engu-1 ubudala, udinga ukukunikeza odokotela abaningi ukuhlolwa: njengodokotela ohlinzayo, i-neuropathologist, i-oculist. Kumelwe kudluliselwe kaningi. Wonke odokotela wezingane kufanele ahambe njalo ngonyaka ukukala, ukulinganisa ingane nokugoma. Ngemuva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa zokuphila, ingane izodinga ukunakwa. Yiqiniso, kumnandi kakhulu uma ubona ukuthi ingane yakho iyamatheka kanjani okokuqala, ukuthi ukhuluma kanjani. Isikhathi eside kakhulu sokunikezwa kwengane uma eqala ukufunda konke: hamba, ukhulume, nokuningi.
Ngesikhathi umntwana esemncane, akaqondi ukuthi udinga ubaba, kepha lapho uvakashela enkulisa kuqala, ngokuqinisekile uzobuza ngakho. Futhi udinga ukulungele le nkinga. Yiqiniso, kunzima uma kungekho uyise eduze, yingakho kuzodingeka udlale le ndima. Into eyinhloko ukuthi ufundise ingane yakho kahle futhi umnike yonke uthando lwakho nothando.
Ukuze ube ngumama wangempela futhi onothando, umuntu kufanele abe namandla kakhulu futhi abe nesineke, khona-ke indodana yakho esikhathini esizayo izobonga ubuntwana obujabulisayo amnike yona.
UJulia Sobolevskaya , ngokukhethekile isayithi