Kwadingeka ngibize isikhulu esidlule futhi manje nginguGorynycha emphepheni. Ngaphandle komlilo futhi eqaphele izingozi zokubamba ama-amphibians, wabeka ukusebenza endabeni yokuthi ubuhle bokulala, emva kokuvuswa, kwahlakazeka ukuze kungcono ukuthi angavuki, nokuthi uyamthanda kanjani isibuko ngaphezu kwehhashi lakhe futhi wenqaba ukunikeza indlalifa. Futhi ... wacela ukusiza ugweme isahlukaniso. Futhi ngacabanga ngento engokwengqondo nokubaluleka kwencazelo yegama lokuhlukanisa phakathi kwabashade.
Ukwahlukanisa akunaso isizathu
Ngokuvamile isehlukaniso sinqunywa ekukhuleni, lapho abantu bezimele ngokwengeziwe ekwenzeni izinqumo zabo. Abantu abasha bavame ukwenza iziphetho ezihlelekile futhi bathandana kakhulu. Abakaze bahlangabezane nezinto zangempela zokuphila futhi bangakwazi ukuthenga ubudlelwane bokuthanda "okuhlanzekile."
Kusukela ekuboneni kwezesayensi, ukuthanda othandweni kuyindlela yokwenza izinto eziphilayo ezikhomba ezingeni le-hormonal ukuthi umlingani ofanelekayo utholakele ekuqhubekeni kohlobo. Kodwa imvelo angikwazi ukusisekela okungapheliyo. Ukuphazamiseka kwezinto ezinokwemvelo kwezingxenye zothando kuthatha izinyanga ezingu-18. Ngemuva kwalokho, siqala ukuthobeka ebuthakathakeni obunqunyiwe bomuntu, izinhlangothi ezimbi nezinkumangazo ezingathandeki. Manje sibona ukuthi umkakhe unephunga elide, iphunga elimangalisayo kuye, akakwazi ukulalela futhi akabekezeli izinyembezi zezingane.
Kunzima kimi ukuhlukanisa izimbangela zesehlukaniso kubafazi nabesilisa, ngoba ngisetshenziselwa ukuphatha umshado njengobungane phakathi kwabantu ababili abakha lonke. Sidinga okungenani ezimbili ukudansa i-tango, futhi uma ukudansa kungasebenzi, bobabili abalingani kufanele basole, futhi "abadansi ababi" ngamunye bavinjelwa okuthile okwabo. Kusukela kulo mkhuba ngingasho kuphela ukuthi abesifazane kulula futhi bakhulisa ukuthengiswa komlingani kunamadoda. Ama-Ukrainiya amile kuze kube sekupheleni, kuze kube yilapho impilo ingenakubekezelelwa ngokuphelele. Phakathi kwezimbangela "zowesifazane" ezibangela ukuhlukaniswa ngokuvamile kuvame ukuphuza utshwala ngumlingani wakho. Amadoda ethu alungele ukushada, uma isimo sabo sishintsha kakhulu kangangokuthi bacabanga ukuthi umkakhe akasafaneli.
Isimo sengqondo esivumelana nesahlukaniso phakathi kwabashadile sishintshile futhi lokhu kusemqoka. Umshado akufanele ube "isibopho", futhi isahlukaniso siwubugebengu. Umshado ophelele uyinhlanganisela yamahhala, evumelanisiwe yempilo emibili, futhi uma into engasebenzi ngaso leso sikhathi, kufanele sithathe ithuba lesibili.
Uhlangothi oluphambene nalo lwemali yikungavumeleki kokubhujiswa okungenakuqondiswa kwemindeni, ngaphandle kwemiphumela ekhethekile, okusemandleni ethu ohlelweni lwezomthetho. Emazweni aseNtshonalanga, inani lehlukaniso liphansi kakhulu kunethu, hhayi ngenxa yokuthi alihloli ubudlelwane babo, kodwa ngoba imiphumela yomthetho neyezimali yokushada komshado ibaluleke kangaka ukuthi umshado uyisinyathelo esibi kakhulu. Abantu abamane bashade, uma bengakalungeli isinyathelo esinjalo, ngoba akekho owenqabela ukuba abe ndawonye.
Izibalo zanamuhla ziyinto yemvelo, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo ngikholelwa ukuthi akuyona into edabukisayo njengoba kubonakala ekuqaleni. I-Strange njengoba kuzwakala, ngokuvamile ukuhlukanisa kuyisibusiso, ukuqala kokuphila okusha, omunye umzamo wokuthola injabulo.
Umshado uyisinyathelo esinokwethenjelwa, ngakho-ke ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isinyathelo esinjalo, konke kufanele kucatshangelwe ngokucophelela futhi kuvunyelwane ngokucophelela.