Mhlawumbe, ngaphambi kwanoma yikuphi owesifazane kunombuzo othakazelisayo kakhulu, ngubani ozoba ngcono noma oqondile ukubiza ukubeletha? Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ufuna ukubiza umuntu othandekayo nothandekayo wakho, ngakolunye uhlangothi, udinga ukuthi lo muntu ungabonakali kalula, kodwa ngandlela-thile wakwazi ukusiza kulo mzuzu onzima ukusiza isinqumo esifanele, ukuze ukusekelwa okudingekayo kuvela kuye. Futhi-ke unquma kanjani ukuthi ungubani?
Sibheka ngomuntu ongumsizi ongeke nje abe khona eceleni futhi ejabule ngamazwi, nakuba lokhu akuyona encane, kumele abe "I" wakho maqondana nabasebenzi bezokwelapha. Kubalulekile ukuthi angakwazi ukukhumbula ngokuqhubekayo ngobuhlungu obunzima, ukuqapha isimo sempilo yowesifazane hhayi endaweni yokubuka udokotela, kodwa njengomuntu osondelene nowomnakekelayo, umuntu onjalo angabona izinguquko ezincane esimweni. Umuntu onjalo uzokwazi ukudlala indima ye-co-operative, uzolandela ukulwa nokuphefumula, akhombise ukuthi ukuphoqa nokuphefumula ngendlela efanele, lokhu kuzoba phakathi kwamaphakathi nababelethisi. Kumele kuthiwa ukuhamba ngesikhathi kanye nemiyalelo ngisho nokuphefumula okufanele kungasiza kakhulu ukubeletha nokunciphisa ubuhlungu bomsebenzi. Umsizi angakusiza ngesikhathi esifanele ukusikhipha emuva emuva, welula izicubu ze-muscle, ngesikhathi esifanele umise isikhala. Ekuzalweni okunzima kakhulu, owesifazane akanaso ukusekelwa okuncane kakhulu futhi iseluleko esifanele, ngisho nasendabeni enjalo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kufanelekile ukuthatha i-anesthetic noma cha. Noma kunjalo, kunemibuzo eminingi kanye nezimo ekuzalweni.
Ngokuvamile, amadoda ayesaba ukuya ezinkambweni ezinjalo, efihla ngenxa yokuthi angeke abe khona njengabasizi, nokuthi adinga usizo ngokwabo. Kodwa lokhu kwesaba kungenxa yokungaqondi nokungazi ukuthi yini umuntu edingekayo nokuthi yini angayisiza nakancane. Futhi kungamsiza ngokuhlakanipha, isibonelo, angabona ukuthi isikhathi siphila, futhi uma nje engekho, umyeni uzokwazi ukunikeza odokotela isicelo noma athathe umkakhe ngesikhathi sokuphefumula. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungenza into ephezulu ye-toponadichitsya, kodwa ngisho nje uthole i-napkin ebusweni bomzimba, lolu sizo nokuthinta kuzokunika amandla. Futhi kukhona ithuba lokuthintana nezihlobo nokubika ngesimo sokubeletha. Okubaluleke kakhulu umzuzu ngaphambi kokubeletha, ekulindeni isikhathi eside ukulwa nokuqala komsebenzi, lapho isimo somfazi sijabulisa kakhulu, khona-ke ukukhuluma nomuntu othandekayo kubaluleke ngaphezu kwanoma yini enye.
Kodwa lezi yizona zonke izincomo zokukholisa, kodwa empeleni zifanele isifiso somlingani wakho, ngoba izinkolelo eziningi zingathonywa yilowo nalowo, kodwa ke lowo muntu ngeke akwazi ukukusiza ngisho nasemibuzo eyisisekelo. Ngakho-ke, uma ingxenye yesibili, ngemva kokucubungula isiphakamiso, wenqabe, kungcono ukuthi ungaqhubeki futhi ungaqhubeki. Kumele kuqondwe ukuthi lo uyindoda, kanti ukuzalwa kwakhe akuyona into eyimfihlo kuye, ngaphandle kwalokho, akuwona wonke umyeni ongakwazi ukubekezelela ukuhlupheka okunjalo. Ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kungase kube kubi ngomqondo wokuzihlola, uma eqaphela ukuthi njengendoda engenakusiza noma ngabe yikuphi, noma ngabe ukhona.
Ungalahleki futhi ungakhathazeki, ngoba namuhla kukhona ochwepheshe ezindabeni ezinjalo, yidala. Ungabuyela kuchwepheshe onjalo esimweni esibi kakhulu, uma udinga ukuba khona komuntu, kodwa akekho umuntu. U-Dole akayena umbelethisi, ungumsizi wokubeletha, usiza abantu nangokwengqondo. Kubalulekile ukusho ukuthi eYurophu, futhi ngempela emhlabeni, lokhu sekuvele kuwumkhuba ojwayelekile lapho umama ozayo ebeletha i-doula.
Iyini iphuzu, ngoba lo akusiwo umuntu oseduze, ungabasiza kanjani, kuyenziwa eRussia?
Kumele kuthiwa i-dole ayiyona entsha, kodwa mhlawumbe umsebenzi wasendulo, abasizi abanjalo baye bavela esikhathini esidlule. Namuhla ngisho neviki lonke ligujwa ngoMashi 22-29, futhi lo yiLusuku Lwamanye amazwe, nakuba lunezinsuku ezintathu kuphela ezinsukwini zanamuhla. Ezinsukwini zakudala, i-dole yintokazi enkulu enolwazi. Usizo lwabesifazane abanolwazi olubhekene nabesifazane abasemsebenzini luhlale lukhona emasikweni wendabuko, kodwa emphakathini wanamuhla amasiko anjalo ayekhohliwe. Kuphela e-US ngasekugcineni kweminyaka engu-70 yekhulu leminyaka eledlule kwaqala ukuvuselelwa kwala masiko ezindala. Ngomhlaka-22 Mashi, intwasahlobo kungukuqala kwayo yonke into ephila emva kokubusika, lokhu kuzalwa kwendalo entsha nokuphila okusha, ngakho-ke lolo suku luhambisana ngokuvumelana nekhalenda lemvelo.
Ubani nokuthi uyithola kanjani kithi?
Njengoba sekushiwo kakade, i-dole ingumsizi wokubeletha, noma kunjalo, akuwona wonke owesifazane oye wabeletha, okungukuthi umsizi osebenza naye osebenza naye wezokwelapha, akuyona isazi sezidakamizwa. Umsebenzi oyinhloko we-dole ukunikeza owesifazane ukuzola ngokomzwelo, ukwesekwa kwengqondo nokukhulisa ukulandelela kokududuza ngokomzimba. I-Dole isekela owesifazane ngokomzwelo ngesikhathi sokuzalwa ngokwaso, kusukela ekhaya, kuyasiza uma udinga ukuhlangana ndawonye nokugula, futhi inikeza inqubo yokuvumelanisa nekhaya lokubeletha.Sekuvele kuboniswe ukuthi owesifazane ovame ukubeletha, kudingekile ukuba ulahle yonke imicabango, uphumule ngokomzwelo, uqondise yonke inqubo yokubeletha futhi ubelethe. Kungenxa yokucindezeleka okuqinile, ukwesaba, ukuhlukunyezwa nokwesaba okutholakala ukubeletha okuqhubekayo nokubuhlungu. Phakathi nalezi zikhathi zokulungiselela, uma isikhathi sidlula ngokulindela okubuhlungu futhi esibuhlungu, idokodo kufanele linakekele lona wesifazane kuzo zonke izindaba. Lokhu kuhlanganisa ukudla, ukuxhumana, ukusekela okubi, ukusikhipha okufanele, ukuqinisa isimo sengqondo nokukhuthazwa. Kodwa konke lokhu kufanele kube njengokwemvelo futhi kuphila ngangokunokwenzeka.
Udinga ukukhohlwa ngaye futhi unakekele lo wesifazane. Odokotela bathatha ukubeletha, njengoba kulindeleke, odokotela, kodwa idokwane linganikeza iseluleko esihle ukuthi yikuphi ukuzama ukuzama ukubeletha, iyokutshela ngokuhlakanipha ngombono wokuphefumula, ukulawula izikhathi zokuphambana.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi konke ukukhulumisana nama-medics kuthatha ngokwayo igama, uma owesifazane ekhulumisana njalo kuphenduka ubuhlungu kunazo zonke. Kodwa-ke, akakwazi ukushintsha imithetho yokuzalwa, izimo ezikhona esibhedlela, akeke ulawule ukubeletha ngokwabo futhi uphazamise inqubo ezama ukushintsha odokotela.
Esimweni nase-USA, amakhaya amaningi okubeletha asezingeni eliphezulu asebelwe kakade ama-douches ochwepheshe, futhi anikezwa ngezinsizakalo zawo njengoba kudingeka, futhi mahhala. Kwaphawulwa ukuthi uma umsizi noma umngane ekhona nowesifazane, yena, njengombuso, akadingi i-anesthesia. Futhi, amacala e-cearean ayancipha, okubaluleke kakhulu.
Yiqiniso, emkhuba wokubeletha waseRashiya, abasizi bezochwepheshe abangekhona okwamanje kakhulu. Asinayo imfundo enjalo, ngokuyinhloko sisebenza nodokotela, abafundisa izifundo zabesifazane abakhulelwe, ngezinye izikhathi izazi ze-psychologists, kanye nomama abanolwazi lwababelethi abaningi nemfundo yezokwelapha. Ezweni lakithi babizwa ngokuthi "abasizi abangokomoya", kepha abesifazane abasha ababeletha ekhaya babizwa ngokuthi, ngenxa yalokhu kukhona ukudideka okuncane.
Ngokuvamile, ngokusekelwe emisebenzini eyenziwe yi-doula, usizo olunjalo lungenziwa kuwe noma yimuphi umuntu omethembayo, phakathi kwabantu abasha noma abaseduze, kubalulekile ukuzwa ukusekelwa kuye. Kungaba umama wakho, udadewethu, intombi, udinga nje ukucabangela ukuthi umuntu obelethwe okokuqala, uzojabula futhi akhathazeke. Lokhu kuyinzuzo enkulu ye-douala, akakaze alahlekelwe, ajwayele isimo, uye wasiza ngokuphindaphindiwe ngokomqondo ezinkingeni ezinzima. Ngakho-ke lona wesifazane, ephethe izandla ezinokwethenjelwa, uzizwa ezolile futhi evikelekile.
Uma wanquma ukusiza udoti, khona-ke thola owesifazane okhona phambi kwakhe ekuthuliseni futhi ethembele, kwenzeka ezingeni lezimzwelo nokuqonda. Xoxa naye izikhathi ezimbalwa uma uhlangana, uzizwe ukuthi ikufanele yini noma cha, kodwa kubalulekile ukuqonda kahle ulwazi olunikezwa idokethi noma ochwepheshe kulezi zifundo. Ngezinye izikhathi ungase uzwe izincomo eziningi kakhulu mayelana nokubeletha emanzini noma ekhaya, ukuhlinzeka ngokubeletha kwesigqila esithile, noma uncoma ukwamukela ama-herbs, decoctions noma imithi, kufanele uqaphele ekwenzeni izinqumo, ngoba ungumntanakho.