Enye yezindawo zomsebenzi wezengqondo zomndeni isiza ukuxazulula izinkinga ezihlobene nobuhlobo phakathi kwabashade, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yizingxabano, izinkinga zesiphakamiso socansi noma isahlukaniso. Kwezinye izimo, ngisho nemizwa eqinile yangempela phakathi komyeni nomfazi akuyona isiqinisekiso sokuzwana phakathi komndeni: ukuhlala ndawonye kuvame ukuhlanganisa ukuqoqwa kwezikhalazo ezingadingekile, izingxabano ezincane nezingxabano. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi kunengxoxo elula yenkinga. Ngisho nokuhlala ngokwehlukana, indoda nowesifazane abakwazi ukuthola amahora ambalwa ngesonto ukuze bakhulume ngobuqotho nomchwepheshe mayelana nokungafani kwabo kokubukwa, ukuqonda izimbangela zalokho okwenzekayo nokuthola izindlela zesisombululo sabo, banethemba lokuthola imiphumela emihle yezenzakalo.
Abenzi bezinkinga akuzona ngaso sonke isikhathi abashade ngokwabo. Ngokuvamile, indoda nomkakhe kudingeka nje bavumelane nezimo ezintsha zokuphila, njengokushintsha indawo yokuhlala, ukuhlelwa kabusha komhlaba emsebenzini, ukulahlekelwa ilunga lomndeni, izifo nokunye.
Imakethe ehlangene eya kwengqondo yomndeni nakanjani iyofaka isandla ekuvuseleleni ukwethembeka phakathi kwabashade. Uma ubheka isimo emndenini ngokubukeka okusha, kuzoba lula ukuthola imbangela yezinkinga futhi uchaze izindlela zokuqeda.
Isazi sezengqondo somndeni sakha uhlelo lomuntu ngamunye umbhangqwana oshadile, ngenxa yezizathu zokungavumelani phakathi kwazo zonke izibini zabo. Indlela enjalo ayihambisani kuphela nale mpikiswano, kepha futhi nezici zomuntu ngamunye womshado. Ngemuva kwalokho, njengoba kwaziwa, zingaki izinkinga ezikhona, nezindlela eziningi zokuzixazulula.
Izizathu zokuvakashela umqondo wezengqondo zomndeni azigcini ezinkingeni zobuhlobo phakathi komyeni nomfazi. Isizathu sokuvakasha singabuye sibe uhlobo lobuhlobo phakathi kwabazali nezingane noma ukuxhumana kwengane nabantu abazungezile. Kunezibonelo eziningi ezinjalo ezivela empilweni: ukungathembeki, ukusebenza kwesikole okungalungile, ukungqubuzana, izinguquko ezivamile ekuziphatheni nasekuziphatheni, amaphutha ahlukene, ubunzima ekukhulumeni nabantwana abaneminyaka efanayo nabadala.
Umuntu omdala uyinakekelo enkulu yabazali. Kodwa ngisho nokubheka kancane kancane kungaholela emiphumeleni emibi - ukungavumelani ekukhulumisaneni kwengane namalungu omndeni kanye nabantu abakuzungezile emphakathini.
Njengesibonelo nombhangqwana oshadile, isazi sezengqondo sikhetha indlela ekhethekile kumakhasimende. Kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuthi isazi sengqondo somndeni singabamba ukubonisana ngezindlela ezahlukene: angasebenza nomndeni wonke, nabashadile, ingane nabazali bakhe, nomuntu othize emndenini. Abantu bangabuye babonisane, ngubani ngenxa yezizathu ezithile noma abahlali emndenini noma abangenayo okwamanje. Noma ubani angasebenzisa usizo lomqondo wezengqondo zomndeni.
Abantu abaningi banesithakazelo esidingo sokufuna usizo kumuntu wezokwelapha. Bangabaza ukuthi umuntu ovela emgwaqweni awunandaba nesisombululo sezinkinga zabo, ngoba akajwayelene namalungu omndeni.
Naphezu kwakho konke, kudingeke uzame. Phela, odokotela bezengqondo zomndeni bangabantu abaqeqeshiwe bangakusiza ukuba uqonde inkinga evela esikhundleni sobuchwepheshe. Abakuphoqeleli ukuba wenze ngokuhlakanipha kwabo, kodwa nje kukuqondise, kusize ukuba uphume esimweni futhi ukhuthaze amalungu omndeni ukuba acabangele ngesimo sabo. Zikuholela esinqumweni esifanele, lapho zonke iziguli zikwazi ukuza khona.
Manje singakwazi ukunikeza impendulo eqondile embuzweni wokuthi ngubani ongumqondo wezengqondo zomndeni. Ungumuntu owazi kahle umsebenzi wakhe, okuzosiza ekuthuthukiseni ukuqondana phakathi komndeni, ukwenza ubuhlobo phakathi kwabazali nezingane buvumelane kakhulu, kusize ekuchazeni ngokucacile imizwa yabo, kungabandakanyi ukuphoqeka. Futhi ukuthola indlela yokukhishwa kwemibandela ekhona, ukunqoba imikhuba yokuziphatha yakho kanye nokudala ezintsha, ezingcono kakhulu, ukukhomba izizathu zokungazinzi kwengqondo kwezimo emndenini noma ukwenza uhlelo olulodwa lwabazali besikhathi esizayo.