Ngabe kusho ukuthini amaphupho akho ahlukumezayo?
Ubulili obungathandekayo ngesoka langaphambili noma umyeni wangaphambili. Lokhu akusho ukuthi awufuni ukulikhohlwa, noma ukuthi unesithakazelo kuye noma uthanda imizwa ngaye. Kungenzeka ukuthi kusekhona izinkinga ezingaxazululwa phakathi kwami nawe. Mhlawumbe uyathukuthelela futhi uke wavumelana nezikhalazo. Lesi iphutha esicacile ekuqedeni ubudlelwane bakho - kungenjalo, kungenjalo, akuphelelanga ekugcineni. Kuzuzisa ukwenza okungafani komhlangano ukuze ekugcineni uthole yonke imibuzo bese uvumela ukuhamba komunye nomunye.
Ubulili endaweni yomphakathi noma uma ubanjwe ukulala ocansini. I-leitmotif esemqoka yesizinda esinjalo ukukhathazeka. Lokhu kungabangelwa izinkinga ebuhlotsheni bakho nomthandekayo wakho, noma ukwesaba ukuthandana kocansi, noma ezinye ukwesaba. Cabanga ngalokho okwesaba ngakho mayelana nenhliziyo. Ungabhekana nokwesaba ngokwakho, ukwenze, kodwa u-uye kumculi wezengqondo omuhle.
Ubulili nomfazi ohlukile. Abanye besifazane besaba ukuthi amaphupho anjalo - isibonakaliso esicacile sokulingana kobulili obufanayo. Eqinisweni, lokhu kwenzeka ngokungajwayelekile. Ngokuvamile owesifazane owabonakala kuwe ephusheni, ukwenza umhawu ngokubukeka kwakhe, ukuphumelela komsebenzi, ikhono lokuhlala kubantu. Amaphupho akho "amashadisi" afanekisela isifiso sokuphakama ezingeni le "umlingani" wakho, ukuze abe njengoye.
Ukulala okungahleliwe nomuntu osebenza nabo noma umngane. Amaphupho anjalo awasho ukuthi ukukhanga okuyimfihlo kumuntu. Ngokuvamisekile, amaphupho anjalo aphikisana ne-banal intukuthelo, noma awunelisekile ngento ethile empilweni yakho siqu, noma unesizungu ngomsebenzi wakho (uma ubona osebenza naye emaphupheni akho). Ubulili emaphupheni anjalo, njengombuso, bubuye buhle futhi buhlanganiswe.
Amadoda ama-vvshih ama-fantasies ocansi
Umyeni wakho (oshade no-45% wabesifazane). Ngokuvamile lokhu kuyimfanelo yamakhosikazi asanduliwe asebehlala ndawonye emshadweni isikhathi esifushane. Uma ushadile isikhathi eside, khona-ke ukucabanga kocansi nokubandakanya komyeni kusho ukuthi uyesaba ukuyikhulula ngokuphelele. Ufuna ukuthi yini oyifunayo, kodwa awukwazi ukuyikhuluma kumyeni wakho. Mhlawumbe nawe uzizwa unecala phambi komyeni wakho okuthile. Ungesabi, zama! Amaningi (uma kungenjalo) azojabula nje uma ulahla isinyathelo futhi unikeze okuthile okusha ngocansi. Ake uhambe, ngemuva kwakho konke, indawo yokukhululeka nenkululeko.
Othandekayo wangaphambili (abangama-23% wabesifazane) uvela emibonweni yabantu abanomzwelo abahlale bezwakalisa ukuzwa kwabo. Kodwa ukucabanga okunjalo akusho ukuthi ufuna ukubuyisa ubuhlobo obudala (ungenzi leli phutha!). Kungumzamo wokuphinde uphinde uzwe imizwa oye wabhekana nayo ngesikhathi esithile. Kuhle kakhulu ukubuyela esikhathini sokuthandana ngothando - ngakho ungaziphili umsebenzi wezandla.
Izidumi (abesifazane abangu-15%) baphupha yibo abathanda isithelo esinqatshelwe. Ufuna ukuba nokuthile okungenakufinyeleleka empilweni yakho. Futhi, akukhona nje ngamadoda. Kulula nje, awukatholakali "indoda" yakho ngempela futhi uyimbuyisele emibonweni yakhe ngesithombe sakhe. Amazwi afana nalesi sikhathi abuye akhombise uhlobo oluthile lwe-infantilism.
Ongaziwayo (abesifazane abangu-15%) emibonweni yezocansi kubonakala kulabo abaye bahlakulela ingqondo futhi bafuna adventure. Kubuye kuqaphele ukuthi labo besifazane ababona imizwa yabo yabantu abangabazi banombukiso omuhle kakhulu.
Uthanda nini ukwenza uthando?
Ekuseni, kuphela ngemva kokuphazamiseka. Ukhululiwe kakhulu, uziqinisele ngokwakho futhi ungangabazi idatha yakho yangaphandle. Ukukhululeka emva kokulala nabalingani begcwele amandla, kodwa kunalokho kungabonakali emqondweni wabo. Kodwa ubulili buzobe bukhuthele futhi bukhuthele - ucabanga lokhu nge-credo yakho.
Ngaphambi kokulala. Wena wesifazane osebenzayo, ofana nokulandela amasiko. Ubusuku bobusuku bubonisa umshado wakho osheshayo, oyedwa. Kusho nokuthi ukhetha impilo ehlelekile.
Phakathi nosuku. Uyisithandwa esikhethekile, esivamile. Wena nomlingani wakho "hamba ukuhamba" ukuze ugijime ngokumelene namanje, ukuphula izinkolelo futhi ungayinaki imithetho. Ukhululekile, uqobo futhi unomoya ovukelayo. Abantu abanjalo baphendukela umhlaba wethu, njengesimangalo esihle sezingqondo.