Manje kukhona imindeni engaba ngu-20% - lokhu ngumshado phakathi kwabantu bezizwe ezahlukene. Mayelana nokudalwa komndeni nabantu baseRashiya, cishe amaphesenti angama-85% emishado enjalo imindeni lapho umyeni engumDagestan nomkakhe kuyiRashiya. Amakhosikazi aseDagestan angashada amadoda aseRussia kaningi kangako: imishado enjalo yenza amaphesenti angu-15 kuphela emishado yamaRashiya.
Uma unesithakazelo ebuhlotsheni phakathi kowesifazane waseRussia nendoda yaseDagestan, noma uma uhlela ukuhlanganisa impilo yakho ne-Dagestan, uzothola ezinye zezincomo zethu ngalokho okufanele ukulungele futhi okufanele ukucubungula.
Okokuqala, i-Dagestan iyizwe elinama-multiethnic. Bahlala ama-Avars, Kumyks, eRussia, amaTabasar, amaTchchens, amaNogais, amaJuda, amaDargins, amaLezgins, amaLak, ama-Azeris nabanye abantu. Ngakho-ke, kusukela ekuqaleni, kufanelekile ukwazi ukuthi bangabani abantu abakhethiweyo bakho, nokufunda isiko sabantu abathile.
Okwesibili, kufanelekile ukulungiselela ukuthi izihlobo zomyeni zingase zingakulungeli ukushada ngokobuhlanga. Ku-Dagestan, imishado phakathi kontanga ibhekwa njengamandla kakhulu. Ubuzwe, isiko, isimo sezenhlalo, isimo sezezimali, ukholo kufanele kube okufanayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abanye abaDagestan bayaqiniseka ukuthi kufanelekile ukudala umndeni onelungu lomndeni ohlobene noma umakhelwane. Abafokazi kufanele balwe isikhathi eside ukuze bathole izihlobo zendoda noma umfazi osuka kuDagestan.
E-Dagestan, imishado eminingi isalungiswa abazali. Ngakho umshado phakathi kowesifazane waseRussia no-Dagestan ungonakalisa izinhlelo zabo. Futhi nakuba eminyakeni yamuva, ukuziphatha sekukhululekile, kubalulekile ukucabangela lesi sici futhi ungabi nokwesaba uma abazali bazoqala ukuhlela umshado wendodana nomakoti abazithandayo. Uma bebona ukuthi lokhu akunakwenzeka, kungenzeka ukuthi ngeke baphazamise ukukhetha kwendodana.
Amanye amasiko okuthuthukiswa komndeni ku-Dagestan ayanyamalala kancane kancane esikhathini esidlule, kodwa amanye avele, ngokungalindelekile kuwo wonke umuntu. Isibonelo, ukweba komakoti manje akuvamile. Abashadikazi beba kuphela ezindaweni ezisemadolobheni, futhi kaningi nangokuvuma kwakhe. Kodwa eminyakeni yamuva, isiko lokukhokha umakoti imali saqala ukukhula.
Uma i-Dagestan yakho ekhethiwe yindodana encane kunazo zonke emndenini, kungenzeka ukuthi kuzodingeka ulinde isikhathi eside somshado. Ubudlelwano phakathi kwamalungu omndeni ku-Dagestan bakhelwe ekuhlonipheni abadala. Futhi uma abafowenu abadala bomlingani wakho bengashadile, umndeni wakhe ungacela ukulinda kuze kube yilapho behlela impilo yabo. Lokhu akusho ukuthi lo mndeni ubona okuthile okuvukela ebuhlotsheni phakathi kowesifazane waseRussia nendoda yaseDagestani. Lokhu kungumkhuba owamukelwa ku-Dagestan.
Uma ufuna ukuxhuma isiphetho nendoda eDagestan, ngokuvamile kudingeka ulungele ukuhlanganyela njalo ngezikhathi ezihlukeneko ukwenza amasiko ahlukene nokugcina amasiko.
Isibonelo, ku-Dagestan, njengaseYurophu, kuyisiko ukuhlola imizwa. Ngaphambi komshado, kuyisiko ukuphetha ukubandakanyeka, okungahlala iminyaka eminingana. Futhi uma kuphela abasha bengashintshi izingqondo zabo kule minyaka, umshado uzodlalwa futhi udlalwe.
Imishado eminingi ku-Dagestan manje ayifani nemishado ejwayelekile yaseRussia. Lona uhambo oluya ehhovisi lokubhalisa, idili, izingoma nemidanso. Kodwa imikhuba engaphambi komshado yowesifazane waseRussia ingamangaza.
Ngokwesibonelo, kwamanye amadolobhana aseDagestan ngesikhathi sokuzibandakanya, izihlobo zomkhwenyana zingahlela "iholidi labesifazane". Bafika endlini kumakoti anezikhwama ezigcwele zezipho. Ngokuyinhloko, kungukungcebeleka nokugqoka, ukuze kumnandi wonke umuntu, lapho umakoti nabangane bakhe benethuba lokuzama izingubo eziningi ezahlukene ngaphandle kokuthenga.
Ngemuva komshado, umfazi we-Dagestan kufanele abonise izici ezimbili eziyinhloko: ukuthobeka nokuhlonipha abadala. Abesifazane basemadolobheni abanamuhla emadolobheni amakhulu bangagqoke izingubo ezibukhali nezindwangu, kodwa emizaneni nasemadolobheni amancane kusengokwesiko ukuhamba ngesigqoko noma ingubo ende.
Umfazi kufanele ahloniphe futhi alalele umyeni wakhe, kodwa ubuqili besifazane kulindeleke kuye. Ngokungafani namanye amasiko aseNtshonalanga, lapho ukuhlukunyezwa komfazi kuthathwa njengento engcolile, amaDagestani asamukeleki kuphela, kodwa afiselekayo. Ungagumbuki, hhayi amahlaya futhi ungaqondisi imiyalo kufanele ufune umkakhe uDagestan. Ukuze akhombise umyeni wakhe ngesinqumo ayidingayo, kumele akhombise ubuqili, ubuhle nomqondo ongavamile.
AmaDaghestani, ngokungafani namadoda amaningi aseRashiya, azinike isikhathi esengeziwe sokukhulisa izingane. Abesifazane baseRashiya bangathola lokhu okungavamile. Nokho, emva kokuzalwa kwengane emndenini lapho uyise eyiDaghestanian futhi umama isiRashiya, owesifazane angalindela izimanga. Igama elithi ubaba wengane emndenini waseDagestani lisho okuningi, futhi owesifazane angase abhekane neqiniso lokuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi izingane zakhe zizolalela ubaba ngaphezu kokuzimela.
Lokhu kunama-pluses nama-minuses ayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho ukuthi imfundo yamadoda yenza uhlobo olukhethekile lokuzivumelanisa nezwe emntwaneni - ikhono lokuzibuyisela umhlaba, izidingo zabo. I-Cons - uma indima yomama ekukhuliseni kwezingane isinciphisa, ke izingane zingakhula ngokweqile zifuna futhi zihlukumeze. Kuyinto evamile kuDagestan ukuthi owesifazane uqobo uyakwazi ukuvikela amalungelo akhe ukuba ahlanganyele esixazululweni semibuto ebalulekile mayelana nezingane. Kungase kubonakale kungavamile ukuba owesifazane waseRussia angajwayele lokhu: emindenini yaseRussia, umfazi unalo ilungelo ngokuzenzakalelayo, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nesimo se-polar senziwa lapho ubaba engekho ekukhulisweni kwezingane kuze kube yilapho esekhulile.
Uma ubiza umbono wokuthi "awunabantwana", okungukuthi, akafuni ukuba nezingane, mhlawumbe ngeke ushade noDagestan. Ngoba emasikweni abo, isisekelo somshado ukuzalwa nokukhuliswa kwezingane. Owesifazane ongafuni ukwenza lokhu uzohlale ebonakala ephansi, futhi ngokushesha awe ngaphansi kokukhishwa.