Umyeni, efika ekhaya, uqala ukubona inhlamba efulethini hhayi umyeni ohlotshiswe kahle - ngaphandle kokwenza, ukukhathazeka, izingubo ezigqoke futhi ezihlanziwe. Nokho, owesifazane emva komshado ngokuvamile uzizwa engathandwa kangako. Yiqiniso, izimbali namaswidi manje unikezwe kuye ngo-Mashi wesishiyagalombili nangosuku lwakhe lokuzalwa, uma umuntu engakhohlwa ngakho. Mayelana namakhonsathi asePhilharmonic nakwezemidlalo yaseshashalazini, umyeni futhi ukhumbula ngokungajwayelekile ukuthi: "Ukhathele!" Futhi uthatha indawo yokuzijabulisa yamasiko ngesethi elula: ithelevishini, ibhola, ubhiya.
Abashadile baqala ukucabanga ukuthi uthando ... luphelile. Futhi ngokubi kakhulu uhlushwa emcabweni wokuthi manje konke ukuphila kwami kuzodingeka ngihlale nabangathandeki. Yiqiniso, zixhunyiwe okuningi: indlu ejwayelekile, imoto evamile, izingane ezivamile. Njengomthetho, izingane ezingavamile ezingathandeki. Phela, baba - abazali abavilaphayo, futhi bangasolisi ukuthi ubuhlobo obuhle bombhangqwana buqukethe izizathu eziningi kakhulu nomsebenzi omkhulu kakhulu. Futhi ngemva nje komshado, abaningi abaqondi ngempela ukuthi ukuphila komkhaya kuzokwakhiwa kanjani. Kodwa-ke, maqondana nabashadile emva komshado, kulula ukuqonda ukuthi lo mshado uzojabula yini. Isibonelo, kunezibhangqwana ezihlukumezela umndeni wazo injabulo. Batshela omunye nomunye ngesineke nokuqonda, futhi uma kungelula ukuhambisana nomunye nomunye - yiya kwengqondo ye-psychoanalyst. Uchwepheshe uzonikeza iseluleko esifanele isimo esithile esinzima emndenini othile. Noma kunjalo, kunezimiso ezijwayelekile okufanele zilandelwe.
- Zama ukuqonda ulimi lomuntu oseduze nawe. Futhi uma into engacacile - cacisa . Isibonelo, ufuna kakhulu ukuthola isitifiketi esisha sezemidlalo nje ngesayizi yakho, oyisanda kubona esitolo esiseduze. Unqume ukusebenzisa inkohliso yamazwe, futhi bathi: "Ukudumisa, uyazi, kubonakala sengathi ngitholile kancane ..." Le nsizwa ye-hysterical ingase ixubane nalesi sihloko esiyinkimbinkimbi. Isibonelo, faka ikhadi lomuthi kaKhisimusi esikhungweni sempilo. Futhi hhayi ngenxa yokuthi ucabanga ukuthi uphelele, kodwa ngenxa yokuthi ucasulwe ngamentimitha akho engeziwe.
- Cabanga ngokuthi umshado wakho uzokwakhiwa kanjani ngaphambi komshado . Abashadile abaningi abacabangi ukuthi bazohlala kanjani ndawonye. Yiqiniso, uma othandweni - konke kubonakala ku-pink. Awucabangi ngisho nokucabanga ngakho, kepha lokho okuthandile - impilo yomndeni. Umshado ubonakala ungumkhawulo wamaphupho. Futhi kuvela ukuthi kukhona ukuphila emva komshado. Futhi lo mbhangqwana kufanele basebenze kanzima ukuqinisekisa ukuthi lokhu kuphila kuyajabulisa futhi kuvumelanisiwe.
- Musa ukudibanisa uthando ngothando . Ekuqaleni ucabanga ukuthi lo muntu usukulungele ukuphila impilo yakho yonke. Ukuthi uhlakaniphile futhi uhle, futhi usebenza kanzima, futhi uhlakaniphile kakhulu. Futhi ngakusasa ekuseni emva komshado, isigqoko sothando salala futhi uthola ukuthi wavuswa eduze nomuntu okhulile, owephuzile, okhulile owayengumuntu ofundele esikoleni-yena, kusukela esikoleni sokufundela umsebenzi, wayesengumnyaka wokuqala exoshwa ngenxa yokudakwa. Futhi akekho osebenza kanzima - uhlala ubusuku kusihlwa, esikhundleni sokulungisa impilo yomndeni. Ingabe kwakufanele injabulo yemali esetshenzisiwe emshadweni, isikhathi kanye nezinzwa ongazisebenzisi ngokuhlukana.
- Qaphela izingane . Izingane kufanele ziphile ngokuvumelana. Ngakho-ke, ukukhulelwa ngokwayo, ngaphandle kwemizwa ejulile futhi ebonisiwe - akuyona neze ithuba lomshado. Mhlawumbe kunokwethenjelwa ngokwengeziwe ukuvuma ukuthi uyise wengane uyamqaphela emva kokuzalwa futhi uzokhathalela futhi akhokhe u-alimony? Futhi-ke umonakalo womlingani oboshiwe ngokuqinile emndenini womndeni ngeke ubonise kuphela othembekile wakho, kodwa futhi kuwe, nangomntwana wakho. Ngakho-ke, ingane ingenaso icala. Kuyafana emshadweni. Uqinisekile ukuthi ujabulelana, thandana? Okukhulu. Khumbula ukuthi izingane kufanele zihlale othandweni, emndenini ojabulayo futhi ogcwele.