Ngisho nasesikhathini sikaFreud, ukubonakaliswa kobulili kwakungaphansi kokuvinjelwa okubi kakhulu. Futhi nakuba lokhu kwakuyisidingo esingokwemvelo - ngisho nokuzwakalayo ukukhuluma ngalokhu kwakungavinjelwe. Ngenxa yalokho, ngenxa yokungabi nempilo ejwayelekile ngokomzimba, izinkinga zengqondo zavela. Abantu bafuna ukukhululwa komphakathi, ukuvuleka. Freud futhi waqala le revolution. Ngokushesha udaba lobulili nokubonakaliswa okuvulekile kobulili kwaxazululwa. Umbuzo ulungisiwe.
Cishe isibonelo esifanayo, kanye nabameli bamanje abancane bezocansi. Bawavikela futhi bafuna ubudlelwane obuhle. Futhi konke bekungeke kube khona uma ukuphazanyiswa kubhekwa njengento engokwemvelo. Empeleni, ukuphambuka okunjalo kuthathwa njengesifo. Ngokufanayo, abavikeli bazo zonke izigayida kanye nabasosayensi abanikeza ilungelo lokugula ngengqondo. Futhi iphesenti phakathi kwabanye ababa "abanjalo" ayinaki. Bonke abanye babenomlando omubi wobudlelwane obujwayelekile. Futhi ukuguqulwa kwezimiso ezimweni ezinjalo kuyindlela elula yokufakazela ukwehluleka kwabo empilweni nasendleleni yangaphambili. Sisabaphatha kanjani laba bantu? Futhi yiyiphi inkinga yenkinga?
Mayelana nenkinga
I-revolution yafezwa, kodwa inkinga yaqhubeka yinto efanayo. Yiqiniso, konke akukubi njengakuqala, kodwa akujabulisi ukuvala inkinga engxoxweni.
Njengoba kunikezwe ukuthi konke lokhu sekukhulunywe ngokukhululekile, abantu abaningi bathola lesi sihloko bengakhululekile. Ngisho nalabo abathintekayo emkhakheni wendabuko, kunzima ukukusho ngokukhululekile ukuthi bafunde ngokuthandwa kwabo ngokocansi.
Ubulili bubhekwa njengesoni esibi, idemoni nehlazo. Futhi kubhekwa njengenxenye ngoba ezweni lanamuhla konke kugcwele ukuziphatha kwezenkolo. Uma ucabanga ngendlela eqondile - ubulili buyingxenye yethu. Sonke sazi ukuthi ukukhanya kubonakala kanjani futhi konke kubonakala kungokwemvelo. Kodwa sinamahloni ngokuziphatha kwethu ngokobulili kuphela ngoba izifiso zethu zobulili zibonakala ngathi zihlazo nokuziphatha okubi.
Ubulili ngenye yezindlela ezibaluleke kakhulu zokuzimela, futhi wena. Sisebenzisa ukuze sithole uthando olududuzayo noma ukuzwa amandla. Futhi uma sithola umphumela oyifunayo ngosizo locansi, umuzwa wokungaphansi kwethu uya ohlelweni lwesibili. Kodwa uma le ndlela iphela ukusebenza, yilapho izinkinga zethu ziqala khona. Izinkimbinkimbi ezikhona kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okungalungile kobulili bendabuko konke kuhlanganisa ukusiholela ekuqinisweni ukuthi sishintsha isibonakaliso esincane kuze kube yilapha. Kukhona uhlobo oluhlukile lwe-fetishism, futhi esimweni esinzima sibheka othandweni lobulili obufanayo.
Eqaphela ukuthi ukuqondisa kushintshile, umuntu uthola kulezizathu kanye nomqondo wokukhululeka. Uthola le ncazelo ekuhlulekeni kwakhe kocansi okudlule. Umane uthola impendulo kuyo yonke imibuzo - "Angihlukile."
Ukuziqhenya kwabantu kanye ne-homophilia
Inhlangano ibilokhu ikholelwa emibonweni ethile, izindinganiso ezisungulwe. Futhi lapho bekhona labo abangazange bahambisane nalezi zindinganiso, umphakathi wabo udelelekile futhi uzizonde. Kanjalo kwakhiwe izinhlobo ezihlukahlukene zokunyakaza kwemibhikisho njalonjalo. Umphakathi wawufuna ukuvikela imibono yawo.
Ngakho kwenzeka lapha. Izingqondo zethu zibekiwe ukuthi uthando lwangqingili aluvamile, luyinto enyanyekayo, abantu abanjalo kufanele badelelwe. Umphakathi uyadabuka lapho ebona "okungavamile", ongenamahloni 'ngokungajwayelekile' kwakhe, ebeka kulo myalelo.
Ngakho-ke kukhona abaphikisana nabancane abancane ngokocansi.
Labo abagqugquzela uthando lwangqingili, bafuna ukuveza ukusekela kanye nokwahlulela. Sonke siyazi ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani umuzwa wokuzwela, ububele. Futhi abameli bezingane ezincane zocansi bazama ukunikeza usizo, beqaphela ukuthi laba bantu banezinkinga abazifihla ngemuva kokudangala kwabo. Ngakho-ke, labo abangahambisani namadoda angama-gay, zama ukuvikela labo umphakathi abawenqabe.
Ngamanye amazwi, ukwamukelwa kobulili bomuntu kuyindlela enhle yokuzikhethela ilungelo lokuya ocansini. Ukukholisa abanye ukuthi ukwehlukana kwabo ngokobulili kuvamile, sinikeza ukukhanya okuluhlaza ekuthandweni kwabo ngokobulili. Ukukholisa ukujwayelekile kwabanye, nathi ngesikhathi esifanayo sizikholisa ngalokhu.
Kukhona abanye - abantu abavamile, bavumelana nabo futhi abanandaba nokuma komunye umuntu. Hhayi, yebo, kukhona abantu abangaziwayo, kahle, abanakho okuthile empilweni, bavele bejabulela lokho abakwenzayo-ngakho-ke. Futhi akazimisele ukuvikela noma ukulahla labo abadakile. Lokhu kuyinto evamile.