Isazi sefilosofi esidumile u-Arthur Schopenhauer wathi abantu abaningi bathandana, ukuzama ukubhekana nezilingo kubalungiselela. Futhi ngokuvamile lezi zivivinyo zivela lapho ungalindeli khona. Izazi zengqondo ziye zaqaphela ukuthi umsebenzi owonakelekazikazikazi, ukuhleba nabangane konke kunamandla, kunamandla okuzwa phakathi kwabathandi. Owesifazane osesimweni sempi nomyeni onganaki uzosekelwa nxazonke. Futhi uma ethandana futhi ejabule, izintombi zangezolo izokwazi ukuphenduka kalula zibe yizicukuthwane ezizofuna ngobuqotho amaphutha kumlingani wakhe kanye nobuhlobo naye.
Okufanayo kusebenza kumadoda: uma ebuhlotsheni nomkakhe konke kuhamba kahle, ujabule futhi ujabule uye ekhaya, hhayi emibuthanweni enobungane, angathola kalula idumela le-henpecked. Futhi lapho efika kubangani bakhe e-pokozlovit ngesihloko esithi: "Bonke abesifazane bayisiphukuphuku" noma: "Kodwa i-bitch yami izolo ...", uba ngumuntu wakhe kunoma iyiphi inkampani.
Akukho lutho olulimazayo kunamandla welahlekile abahlangana ndawonye maqondana nabantu abaphumelelayo kakhulu. Futhi njengoba kukhona imindeni eminingi enenkinga esikhathini sethu, kunzima ukungena emgodini wokugxeka abangane babo abahluphekile emshadweni wabangane noma izintombi.
Inkinga ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwendoda nomfazi ingavela ngesiphambeko "sezingcweti ezihlakaniphile". Futhi kunzima ukuwunqoba, ukusondela kwakho kumuntu okhathazekile ngobungani bobudlelwane bakho nesinye isigamu. Namuhla sizocabangela kuphela lezo zinhlobo zezimpikiswano ekukhulumisaneni phakathi kwendoda nomkayo, okubangelwa ukuxabana nesinye sezihlobo-nendoda yomyeni wayo.
Ukungqubuzana nomkhwekazi
Loluhlobo lwezingxabano lubhekwa kunzima kakhulu emkhakheni wezinkinga zomndeni. Kunzima ukugwema inkinga ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwendoda nomkayo, uma umkhwezala engamukeli umalokazana. Ngokujwayelekile, lokhu kuziphatha kusekelwe enkingeni yonke yezinkinga ezijulile. Lokhu kusho ukuthi bangakwazi ukuxazululwa kuphela ngosizo lwe-psychotherapist onolwazi. Zonke izinhlobo ezingezona ezisebenzayo zezixazululo zingaba phakathi kuphela, okunciphisa kancane ukujula kwezinkanuko, kodwa ngeke zinikeze ithuba lokwakha ubuhlobo obuvumelanisa ngempela.
Noma kunjalo, kunezeluleko ezithile zomhlaba wonke ezingakusiza ukuba uthuthukise isimo ngisho noma isikhathi lapho sizokwazi ukuyixazulula ngokwengeziwe.
Uhlobo lokuqala lwekhambi yilona eluthembeke kakhulu, kodwa amadoda angavumi ukuvuma. Iqukethe kumyeni ngokwakhe ngokwakha imingcele phakathi komama nomndeni wakhe omusha. Umama wakhulisa indodana yakhe, sekuyisikhathi sokuphumula futhi uziphilele. Indodana uqobo uyakwazi ukuzikhathalela futhi ixazulule imibuzo eminingi yokuphila kwansuku zonke kanye nobuhlobo bomndeni. Uma umama engakuqondi lokhu, kubalulekile ukwakha ibanga elingokwengqondo ngokusemthethweni ngesisekelo esithi: "Ngiyaqonda, kodwa angikwamukeli!" Ukuze kube lula, umyeni angakwazi ukukhuluma inkulumo eyodwa ekuqaleni iyovimbela yonke imizamo yomama ukukhuluma kabi ngomkayo noma ukukhuphuka ngeseluleko nokuziphatha . Isibonelo, kungaba yinto ethi: "Mama, ngiyaqonda umbono wakho futhi ngiyabonga ngeseluleko, kodwa ngicabanga ngendlela ehlukile, futhi ngizokwenza njengoba ngicabanga." Okokuqala, awukwazi ukusho: "Siyakholwa ..." Uma umamazala wakhe enonya kakhulu kumalokazana wakhe, kuyoba njenge-red rag ngenkunzi yakhe.
Ngeshwa, akuzona amadoda ngaso sonke isikhathi ohlangothini lomfazi, ngezinye izikhathi zime eceleni komama bese ziqala ukukhuluma nombhangqwana. Inkinga kulolu hlobo lobuhlobo ngokungenakugwemeka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kukholelwa ukuthi owesifazane ongenakho izifo akakwazi ukuhlala esimweni esinjalo isikhathi eside. Ukucindezeleka okuqhubekayo kubangela izilonda, i-gastritis, ukungaziphathi kahle ngisho nemivimbo yokuqala. Lesi simo asikwazi ukunakwa ngokuphelele uma owesifazane ethanda kakhulu empilweni yakhe. Futhi ngisho noma kungekho ukubonisana okungokhululekile noma okungabizi kwengqondo endaweni yakini, kufanelekile ukubonisana nabanokusebenza kwengqondo be-intanethi nokufunda izincwadi.
Kunezinombolo ezimbalwa kuphela zokukhetha ukuxazulula inkinga yezilo ezimbili - umyeni noninazala - engxenyeni yesisulu, okungukuthi, umfazi. Omunye ukusiza uninazala ukuba akhethe impilo yakhe. Njengomthetho, abesifazane, abajwayele ukuxabana nomona kubantwana babo, kunzima kakhulu. Noma kunjalo kubalulekile ukufuna izinketho ukuqinisa ubuhlobo bayo nobaba womthetho. Futhi uma kungenabo umkhwekazi, kuyafaneleka ukuzama ukumjwayelana namadoda. Futhi unobtrusively futhi ngaphandle kwamacebo. Ngokuvamile, ukusungulwa kokuphila komuntu nomamazala, okuyinto ezweni lethu elincane kakhulu ngesikhathi sokukhula indodana, kusiza ukuqeda ukunakekelwa kwakhe okuqaphele.
Enye indlela yokuxazulula ukungqubuzana noninazala ngumfazi ukuthola indawo ecacile ebukhosini. Ngokuvamile, umama omncane nomamazala bayaphikisana nendawo uma behlala ndawonye. Futhi indodana kanye nomyeni abaphazamisi kumuntu oyedwa, ngoba umama ohluphayo wamfundisa ukuba "ahlale ethule". Kulesi simo, indawo efanele kunazo zonke emkhakheni wokubusa komndeni yowesifazane yindawo ezimbili. Okusho ukuthi, udinga ukwenza umama wakho abe yisisombululo sokwenza izinqumo, abe ngowesibili kakhulu, futhi umyeni uzosebenza ngezikhathi zombili. Ukuzama ukuvimbela umyeni wakhe, ukuphoqa ukubonisa umsebenzi nokwenza izinqumo emndenini onjalo - lokhu kuyindlela nje yokwenza ukuxabana nakakhulu. Phela, kuvela ukuthi umfazi weza endlini entsha ne-charter yakhe, futhi uzama ukubuyisela ubuhlobo phakathi komama nendodana eye yathuthukisa eminyakeni edlule. Le ndlela ayifanele imindeni lapho umkhwekazi kakade ubonisa khona izimpawu zokuthi u-senile senility, ukungafundi kahle kwenkhulumomphendvulwano kanye nezinye izici zobuntu be-psychopathic.
Futhi ekugcineni, kufanelekile ukukhuluma ngomuntu wesithathu empini - ngomamazala. Kuye, inkinga yokuxazulula ukuthula kwezimpikiswano incike ngisho nangaphezulu kunendodana. Kuyinto nje imvelo ehlelwe ukuze umamazala angencane amathuba kunokuba amadodana abo abuyele ekubuyisaneni noma azame ukuzihlukanisa. Nokho, lena yindlela yangempela yokuxazulula le nkinga. Uma umamazala wakho evela ezweni, futhi ubona ukuthi uqotho ezinjongweni zakhe, futhi azama ukukuphatha, ungalokothi wenqabe ukukhuluma. Ngokuvamile lokhu kuyindlela elula futhi ephumelelayo yokuxazulula zonke izinkinga ebuhlotsheni naye nendodana yakhe!