Yini ephuma: ubungane phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane kungenzeka, uma ...
Umqondo othi "ubungane" uhlukile kubo bobabili besilisa nabesifazane. Ungacabanga ukuthi inkampani yamadoda idonsa imiphefumulo yomunye nomunye, ithulule izinyembezi phezu kwehlombe lomngane ngenxa yenye inkaba engakaze yenzeke, ngentshiseko yokutshela ngendoda esanda kuthengwa noma ukuxoxa nomngane isikhathi esingaphezu kwehora? Isithombe esingenangqondo, akunjalo!
Le ncazelo ifaneleka kakhulu kwabesifazane. Ubuhlobo besilisa busekelwe ezenzweni. Indoda engavamile ayesabi ukubonakala ibuthakathaka.
Inendima enkulu idlala yizinkolelo. Ubuhlobo phakathi kwabantu bobulili obufanayo bucacile futhi buqondakala. Ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane buphakamisa imibuzo eminingi nokungaqondani ngisho nasemphakathini wanamuhla. Kodwa ubungane obunjalo bungenakugwemeka futhi kukhona indawo okufanele ibe khona. Ingabe kufanele kusimangaze ezweni lanamuhla?
Ngaphezu kwalokho, abesifazane abaningi bathemba izimfihlo zabo kumngane wesilisa, futhi indoda igcina izimfihlo zayo ngowesifazane ongeke abe ngumlobokazi noma umfazi.
Ukukhulumisana okunjalo kungaba ubungane bangempela, obuqinile. Kodwa-ke, akufanele sikhiphe iqiniso lokuthi ebuhlotsheni obunjalo, noma ngasese, kukhona ubulili. Lobuhlobo buyinto ekhangayo, kodwa ukungena ebuhlotsheni obuseduze kuhilela ingozi enkulu. Njengoba leli zwi lithi: "Ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane buyenzeka uma umuntu engadonseli owesifazane njengento yezocansi".
Noma kunjalo, ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane buyenzeka, uma:
1. Zixhunyiwe ngokubambisana kwebhizinisi. Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi loluhlobo lobuhlobo lube lukhiqiza kakhulu. Ngokuvamile, abalingani bebhizinisi bangowesifazane nowendoda. Njengoba bethi, ebhizinisini akukho ukungafani ngobulili.
2. Inzuzo yomsebenzi. Njengomngane wami oyedwa wathi: "Ngingenza ubungane nentombazane uma sinesithakazelo esivamile." Isibonelo, uthanda ukudlala i-poker noma ukuchitha amahora ukuxoxa ngezemidlalo noma ezokuvakasha.
3. Ziyizihlobo. Kulohlobo lobuhlobo engikholwa futhi ngineluleka. Noma kunjalo, ngikhuluma ngani! Ngikhumbula ukuthi, lapho ngineminyaka engu-17, ngathandana nomzala wami wesibili ....
4. Bangabathandi bokuqala. Yebo, kunjalo. Ukukhangwa ngokocansi, abasazizwa, kodwa bayazi ukuthi bayathandeka.
5. Khona-ke kuphakanyiswa ithuba: uma bengabathandi besikhathi esizayo! Yebo, yebo, lesi isibonelo sami siqu, nabangani bami abaningi. Konke kuqala izingxoxo ezinobungane "mayelana nokuthi, mayelana nalokhu", kahle, kuphelile, uyazi ukuthi yini ....
6. Ubuhlobo esimweni sayo esihlanzekile! Ubungane obusekelwe enhlonipho, izithakazelo ezivamile. Izingxoxo zakho azihlobene nhlobo nokuthandana nobudlelwane, kepha ngokuphindaphindiwe zibandakanya ukuzilibazisa, izinto zokuzilibazisa, impilo ngokujwayelekile. Abalingani bakho abakabi nomhawu ngawe ngoba babona ukuthi awuphazamisi ekuphileni komunye nomunye. Kulula kakhulu, kodwa kwenzeka.
7. Okhetho olufanele kakhulu namuhla. Bangabangane abahle ngoba banezimo ezihlukile. Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi lobu buhlobo buyiqiniso futhi buqinile. Nonke uya ezitolo, uxoxe ngemikhiqizo emisha, izimonyo, Vasya, Masha ...
Yiqiniso, kusekhona okuningi ongakhetha kukho. Isibonelo, ungumfana womngane wakho omkhulu. Noma ungumkakho womngane wakho. Kodwa lapho ngiqala ukucabanga ngobungane phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, angikwazi ukukhumbula inkulumo yokuthi ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane buyancipha lapho kuqala khona ubusuku.
Njengoba bethi, zicabange wena, zizinqumele ukuthi ungaba nomngane wesilisa noma cha.
Ngemuva kwalokho, ukwazi lokhu kusondelene nakakhulu kule ndoda enhle, kakade ngeke ujabule ukuthi wake wanikezwa ukuba uhlale ungumngane nje.