Bathi akunangqondo ukushintshela kubuntu. Kodwa asisakwazi ukulinda ukuxoxa nomunye umuntu. Isibonelo, wena kanye nengxabano yakho yangaphakathi.
Kuyini ukuphoqa? Uqinisekile ukuthi uyazi ukuthi ungumuntu ongenalutho, plan, uhlele imigomo yomsebenzi - futhi ngokuzumayo ngelinye ilanga (ulimi aluguquli ukulibiza ngokuphelele), umuntu ophakathi kwakho uqala ukufuna impilo ehlukile. Ukuguqulwa okunjalo kuhle kumathekisthi e-movie, kodwa empeleni akubangeli ngaso sonke isikhathi umdlandla. Okokuqala, kukhona ukuhlanya okukhulu kakhulu emhlabeni. Okwesibili, ngifuna ukuzethemba. Noma, uma ucabanga ngakho, inkulumo engenamacala "ukuzethemba wena" isivele isho ukuthi umuntu uhlukaniswe.
Ungacabangi ukuthi sikusabisa, kodwa izazi zengqondo zanamuhla zithanda ukuphikisa ukuthi "umuntu ophelele" akuyona nje into ehlanganisiwe yamazwi, kodwa empeleni ingqondo yomuntu (impilo enhle kakhulu, indlela) iningi. "I-Archetypes", "i-introduc", "ukuxhasana" - wonke lawa magama afinyelelekayo asho izingxenye ze "I" yethu. Ngezinye izikhathi lezi zakhi zihluke kakhulu kangangokuthi impilo yabo ehlangene "ngaphansi kwephahla olulodwa" iphenduka umzabalazo oqhubekayo, futhi uyazibuza ukuthi ingabe amandla angaziwa akwenza wena, olahlekelwe isifungo sokulahlekelwa isisindo, ukuphululela esiqandisini nomswakama we-bite! Akuyona isikhathi sokuzibuza: ake siqonde kangcono, lapho laba bantu bevela khona nokuthi yini abayifunayo. Abasizi abanobungozi
Izazi zengqondo ziphikelela ukuthi wonke umuntu udala izithombe zakhe ezingqondweni phakathi kwabazali bakhe. Lokhu kwenzeka ngokungazi, ngoba izihlobo ezifihliwe ekujuleni kwekhanda zingaba ukwesaba ngokungafani nomama wangempela nobaba - ngokuvamile ezibhekene nokukhathala okukhulu nokuziqhenya.
"Awukwazi ukwenza noma yini," "nonke niwela izruk kuze kube phakade", "kahle, ufike kuphi?" - Ngisho nomama ofanelekayo kwenzeka ngezikhathi ezithile angenakubekezelela. Futhi ukuze angathukutheli (ngoba abazali kufanele bathande!), Indodakazi enhle yamukela la mazwi ebusweni bomzimba futhi "ubeka" ngaphakathi ukugxeka umuntu omdala njengomeluleki.
Iminyaka ihamba phambili, umama wangempela ufundisa kancane kancane, kodwa umeluleki usebenza njalo futhi ngesikhathi esingaphansi kakhulu - isibonelo, ngokuhleka usulu ukunyuka kwamaholo. Ngezinye izikhathi kusuka ekungabaza okujulile kunokwenzeka ukugcoba, kepha kaningi silahlekelwa isibindi futhi njengamantombazane asibonelo, siqala ukulalela. Kodwa kufanele senze okuthile. Okokuqala, cabanga ukuthi ngubani kanye nokuthi kungani amagama alotshiwe kuwe. Mhlawumbe umama wakho wayekhathazekile futhi wazama ukukuvikela ekuhlulekeni. Noma, ngenxa yokuzithoba, abantu abaseduze babengakholelwa ngisho namandla akho. Futhi ngokusekelwe emiphumeleni yalezizindla, zama ukuqonda: ngisho noma abazali bakho bangempela baye benza amaphutha amaningi okufundisa, ungakwazi ukunciphisa ngokuphelele isimo somuntu wangaphakathi. Ngezikhathi ezibalulekile zokuphila, zizwe ukhululekile ukuzibuza ukuba zivale. Ngoba ziyingxenye yobuntu bakho, okungafanelanga kahle ukuhlala entanyeni yakho.
Kodwa ngombono we-psychologist wase-Swiss we-mustachioed uCar Jung, owasusa isayensi eminyakeni eyikhulu edlule, izingxenye ze "I" zethu zinikezwa kusukela ekuzalweni. Njengokuba abantu sebevele bezalwa nge-prototypes (archetypes) emiphefumulweni yabo egcwele okuqukethwe okuyingqayizivele. , Shadow, the Old Woman, lezi zindlela eziningi kanye nezinye eziningi zihlala kulowo nalowo kithi kungakhathaliseki ubuzwe noma isimo sezenhlalakahle (ngakho-ke izinkolelo nezindabuko zezizwe ezahlukene ziqondakala ngendlela efanayo nakuwo wonke umuntu ngaphandle kokuhlukile.) Omunye we-archetypes ebaluleke kunazo zonke wesifazane, isazi sezokwelapha sibheka i-Animus, isilisa Isinika amandla nesinyathelo, kusiza ukugxila ngaphezu kwekhanda futhi sithathe ingozi yemali yokubolekwa kwempahla.Ngesikhathi sisebancane, sinamathuba amaningi okufunda izinhlobo zokuziphatha zabesifazane, kodwa ukukhula, siwina kuphela uma senza ubungane ne-Animus. Isici esinzima sokuzijwayeza - amaphupho othandana nomuntu ongaziwa kahle (noma umngane ongabangela imizwa enethando kakhulu empilweni.) AmaJungian athi amaphupho anjalo ayengumfanekiso ongokomfanekiso wesidingo sokuthola ukwesekwa okuvela engxenyeni yesilisa. Ngakho-ke, uma uphelelwa amandla emibonweni enjalo, thola isikhathi sokujwayelana nomsizi wakho siqu. Dweba, bhala indaba ngokuhlanganyela kwakhe, udlale inkhulumomphendvulwano - ngokufishane, ake sibambe. Ngendlela, izincomo ezinjalo ziyasebenza nakwamanye ama-marmetip. Ungabambisana nawo wonke umuntu: kokubili uNdodanakazikazi no-Evil Old Woman bawusizo kakhulu, udinga nje ukuthola ukuthi yisiphi isimo sokukhulula isimo sabo.
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Futhi uma abantu abadala benqabe ukubona inzalo yabo ezinye izici noma izifiso, naye uzokusheshisa ukuba abenqabe, nje ukukopela umama nobaba. Omunye uvinjelwe ukugcoba i-plasticin emgodini futhi avikele amalungelo abo; othile - ukuya esigabeni sakho ozithandayo noma ube abangane nabantwana "abangalungile." Amantombazane akhange agibele izihlahla, abafana abalili, umculo awuyona inzuzo ... Mhlawumbe wena ngokwakho ungaqhubeka nalolu hlu.Nansi, okungazwakalayo kuphela, Ubuntu bethu (bungafani) ngeke buphele nje kuphela, kodwa, njengabakhadidi abaluhlaza, bayoba nomthelela ekuthandeni impilo yakho endala.
Ngenkathi ingqondo yakho ifana nomphakathi, sekuyisikhathi sokucela umtholampilo we-neurosis. Futhi noma kunjalo ukuwela ithemba lapho kungekho zizathu. Umsebenzi oyinhloko ungachazwa kanje: ukuze ujwayele izakhamizi zawo zangaphakathi, ungawahlukanisi kokulungile nokungalungile, okubi nokuhle. Futhi lokhu akufanele kube nje ukujwayela okusemthethweni, kodwa kunalokho uphenyo lwesayensi. Uma lokhu kuvela komuntu kuvela, yini ayifunayo uthanda, futhi yini hhayi? Uma uthola imininingwane eyengeziwe, iphakamisa amathuba okwenza abangane futhi uthole ulimi oluvamile nalo. Ukusikisela ngale ndlela kungakhonza izifiso zakho. Qala ngempendulo eningiliziwe yombuzo othi "Ngiyifunani?" Futhi akunandaba ukuthi ezinye izinto zizophikisana nomngani.
Mhlawumbe othile ngaphakathi kwakho ufuna ukudweba ngamafutha. Ungasheshi ukumemezela lesi sidingo ukuthi uyisiphukuphuku noma ingalungile - ngemuva kwakho konke, izifundo ze-studio yobuciko akukuvumeli ukuba ushiye umsebenzi noma umndeni wakho. Kodwa uma ungayinaki unyaka wakho wangaphakathi womculi, kunengozi ukuthi uzovukela futhi afune ukuthatha indawo esemqoka empilweni yakho. Umsebenzi ubonakala uyisimungulu futhi umphefumulo ucela ukugqama? Kungani ungazami ukugxuma ngeparachute noma ufunde ibhayisikili lezintaba? Kungenzeka ukuthi, ngisho nesenzo sesikhathi esisodwa esibizwa ngokuthi "Angiyena i-akhawuntiant, kodwa ukuphazamiseka" kuzoletha ukuthula nokuzwana okulinde isikhathi eside.
Futhi iqiniso lokuthi ngamunye wethu omuntu unesithunzi, akungabazeki. Uma, ngokwesibonelo, uba umthunjwa kumkhuba wokulawula konke, uzibheke umphangi omncane - lo muntu uzokufundisa ukuthi ungakhathazeki ngezihluthulelo. Umdlali onamandla kaMala Haribudet kubaluleke kakhulu ekuxoxweni okungenathemba nakwezinye izimo zokufa. Into eyinhloko ukuthola isikhathi nendawo yakho yezingqimba zakho zangaphakathi. Khona-ke, ngisho nasezikhathini ezinzima, uzobe nomuntu ozocela usizo futhi aqhubeke nomunye umuntu.