Izikhathi ezinengqondo
Bobabili abesifazane nabesilisa abaye bawela uphawu lweminyaka engu-30 bavame ukuthi bangabaphi uhlobo lomuntu abangathanda ukukubona njengendawo yokuhlala. Futhi bakhetha phakathi kwabantu abaningi, bancike ekutheni umndeni wesikhathi esizayo uzohlala uqinile futhi uqine, ngaphandle kokumangalisa okungajabulisi okulindele esikhathini esizayo.
Amathuba empahla aqinile. Ukuze siqhathanise, ake sithathe umbhangqwana ozibophe umshado eneminyaka engamashumi amabili. Kulo modeli, umndeni uvame ukubhekana nezinkinga zezezimali, ngoba abashadile abasha bazokwazi ukwenza umsebenzi wabo kuphela. Futhi-ke, ngaphandle kosizo lwabazali ukuba bangavunyelwe, uma kuziwa kunoma yikuphi ukuthenga okukhulu, njengemoto eqashiwe. Kodwa ngabantu abashadile emva kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu, njengomthetho, imibuzo ixazululwe ngezindlu zabo siqu futhi sebeziqaphele ngokwabo emsebenzini wokusebenza. Ukucabangela la maqiniso abalulekile, singasho ukuthi uma sebezibonele emisebenzini yabo futhi baphumelele, abashadile bazokhokha kakhulu umndeni futhi bathathe ngokubonga zonke izikhathi ezimnandi ekuphileni kwabo okuhlangene.
Imfundo ehambelana nezingane. Ukuhlela, isifiso sangempela nokuzimisela ukuba nezingane kusize abazali ukuba balungise ngokucophelela ukuzalwa kwengane, futhi ukuphila nokuvuthwa kwempilo kumvumela ukuba aphathe ngokuqonda, futhi amfundise ngokwanele nangokufanele.
Ukuxazulula izinkinga zomndeni ngokuhlakanipha. Ukukhula nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabashadile kwenza kube lula ukwenza izenzo eziphuthumayo neziphuthumayo ezizofaka isandla ekuveleni kwezingxabano nokungavumelani. Kodwa-ke, akungacacisi ukuthi akusho ukuthi ngemuva kokushada eneminyaka engamashumi amane, abantu ngeke bahlukunyezwe ngokuzenzakalelayo. Noma kunjalo, emshadweni onjalo kuyoba nokuhlambalaza okuncane, inhlonipho eyengeziwe, isifiso esikhulu sokuthola umhlabathi ophakathi futhi cishe ukuqeda ukulwa.
Izici ezimbi zokushada kwasekupheleni
Ukukhuluma ngezici ezinhle, futhi akulandeli izinkinga ezingase zenzeke emishadweni esedlule.
Iwashi lezinto eziphilayo kanye nokuzalwa kwezingane. Ngokuvamile ukushada komshado, ekubeni umshado osekupheleni kwesikhathi, kuthanda kakhulu ukuthola umntwana, kodwa ngeshwa, kunezinkinga zempilo, okuvimbela inqubo yokukhulelwa kanye nemivimbo ye-vynashashivaniya. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini engayisho, sekuyisikhathi eside saziwa ukuthi isikhathi esihle kakhulu sokuzalwa kwengane yisikhathi esivela eminyakeni engu-20 kuya kwezingama-30, lapho umzimba wesintu ungakhathazeki ikakhulu ngezifo ezihlukahlukene. Ngenxa yalokho, njengomfazi, nokho indoda, ayinayo imizwa engcono uma engakwazi ukufeza umsebenzi wabo omude - ukukhulelwa encane encane.
Enye ingozi yokushada kwezomshado yimikhuba ehlobene neminyaka. Ngemuva kwalokho, ngamunye womshado, ngaphambi kokuba ahloniphe ubuhlobo bawo, uye wajwayela isisekelo esiqondile empilweni, ukwenza noma nini ufuna ngaphandle kwemingcele kanye nemibiko kumuntu ngokuziphatha kwakhe. Yilokho efonini futhi kungase kube khona ubunzima, kuze kube yilapho umndeni udlulisele isigaba sokusika.