Kukhona amasu akhethekile angokwengqondo, okulandelayo okungeke uphendule kuphela imibuzo ekhohlisayo bese ufaka umphikisi wakho endaweni engakhululekile, kodwa futhi ubukeke kahle. Ukuze ungabonakali ubuqili esimweni sangempela, kubalulekile ukuthi uqale ukufunda lezi zindlela bese ucela abangane noma izihlobo ukuqeqesha nawe.
Izincomo ezisuka kumklami no-Sherlock Holmes
Lapho i-interlocutor ikubuza umbuzo othize, akudingeki uphendule kuso ngendlela efanayo yokukhonkolo. Unganika impendulo efanayo njengomhleli we-anecdote. Lapho uSherlock Holmesletel ehlezi ebhaluni futhi elahlekelwa indlela yakhe, wabuza, "Nkosi, uzongitshela ukuthi siyiphi?" Umqambi wamphendula ngokuthula wathi, "Mnumzane, usebhasikidi lebhaloli." Naphezu kokuthi impendulo ayizange ilethe ulwazi oluwusizo, umlimi weqiniso waphendula iqiniso futhi washiya isimo esingenakulungele kuye.
Futhi, unganika impendulo evamile eyokusiza ukuthi uphume, kodwa ngeke unikezwe. Isibonelo, umbuzo othi "Ukhokha malini?", Ungaphendula ngokuthi "Ngithola i-pootrasli yomholo ojwayelekile."
Umphumela we-Mirror
Uma i-interlocutor ebuza umbuzo oyisiphukuphuku noma ongajabulisayo, ungaphuma kulesi simo ngokumbuza umbuzo ophikisayo. Kulesi simo, ungasebenzisa elinye lamaqhinga amabili.
Yakha umbuzo wokuphikisana nganoma iyiphi indlela, ukuze umphikisi abe nehloni ngentshisekelo yakhe empilweni yakho. Ukuze ukhiqizwe, ungasebenzisa inkulumo eyingqayizivele ethi "Uma ngiqonda kahle, ke ...", ekugcineni kuzoxhomeka embuzweni owacelwayo, nokuthi ngabe ufuna ukuqhubeka nokuxhumana ngalesi sihloko noma ufuna ukuyeka ingxoxo futhi ungabuyeli futhi kule sihloko .
Uma i-interlocutor inesithakazelo ngentshiseko empilweni yakho, tshela ukuthi "Uma ngiqonda kahle, awubambeli ikhandlela embhedeni wami?" Noma "Uma ngiqonda kahle, awukwazi ukulala uze ufunde imininingwane yempilo yami yangasese?"
Kuyinto efiselekayo ukukusho konke lokhu ngokuzithoba nangokuzithobayo, izwi kufanele libandayo, akudingeki ukuba u-gesticulate. Okuphezulu ongakwazi ukukukhokhela ukuphakamisa ishiya ngokumangala.
Inqubo yesibili ukwandisa isithakazelo enkulumweni, ucele lowo oxhumana naye imibuzo enjalo ekhohlisayo. Isibonelo, uma umphikisi ebuza, "Uzothuthukiswa nini ekugcineni isevisi?", Ungase ubuze "Uke wakhashwa ngengozi emsebenzini?"
Yiba ithalenta lomdlali
Uma ubuzwa umbuzo ongajabulisayo, ungahlala udlala indima, ngaphandle kokubonisa ubuhlobo bakho beqiniso nenkinga. Kulesi simo, kunezinketho eziningi zokuxazulula isimo.
Ungadlala ithemba futhi uthi ngezwi elibuhlungu elizwakalayo, "Ngiyakuncenga, ungabe usakhuluma ngakho." Okukhethwa kwesibili - uzizwe ungumbusi wangempela emhlanganweni, uthi "Ngiyabonga, umbuzo olandelayo." Ungaphinde uphendule ngesimo samahlaya "Lolu lwazi luyimfihlakalo, futhi lufinyeleleka kuphela kubakhethiweyo".
Ungabi nhlobo
Naphezu kokuthi ukuphenywa kwe-interlocutor kukucasula kakhulu, awukwazi ukubonisa ubuthakathaka bakho kunoma yikuphi. Esikhundleni sokuthukuthela, ukucasuka, ukukhamuluka, kungcono ukumomotheka futhi unike impendulo enobungako ngezwi elingakhethi.
Beka umphikisi wakho ekupheleni kokufa, uye emininingwaneni engacacile eyomenza adideke. Isibonelo:
"Uzothatha nini ukushada?"
- Isazi sami sezinkanyezi sathi kuqala kubalulekile ukukhetha usuku olufanele, uma kungenjalo umshado uzobhujiswa inhlanhla. Ababelethi kumele bahlangane, emva kwalokho sobabili siyaqaphela ukuthi kufanele sishade ngempela. Uma sizizwa, ngosuku lokuqala oluhle lwekhalenda yenyanga, sishada.
Zama ukukhuluma ngengqondo ehlakaniphile nengenasiphephelo njengamazwi amaningi nemigomo ngangokunokwenzeka, lapho umxhumanisi engaqondi ngokugcwele. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi uzofuna ukuqhubeka ingxoxo.
Joke
Amahlaya ama-Witty angasiza ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuphuma esimweni esibuhlungu.
"Kubiza malini lokhu?"
- Ngihlehlisile unyaka, kodwa kwakudingeka ngibole imali ebhange, kodwa akukho lutho, ubuhle abufanele!
Izimpendulo kuzo zonke izikhathi
Futhi manje sizama ukuqoqa izimpendulo zendawo yonke ezizosiza ukuphuma nokugwema isimo esingathandeki.
- Ngiyajabula nje ngethalenta lakho ukubuza imibuzo engalungile!
"Ngicela uthathe impumulo yakho. Ngitholile ezindabeni zami."
- Ingabe unesithakazelo esikhulu empilweni yami? Ngizizwa nginenkanyezi yangempela. Uyazi ukuthi izinkanyezi azithandi ukukhangisa ibhizinisi labo?
Futhi ekugcineni. Amantombazane angashadile ngokuqinisekile ayesimweni esibucayi uma ebuzwa ukuba abe mnandi. Ngesizotha, ungaphumelela kuleso simo ngokuphendula, "Ngicabanga ukuthi ngabe ngishadile, ingabe ubungabuza uma ngiqeda ukuhlukanisa?"