Yini umfana othandekayo aphuphayo?
Intombazane ephupha njalo ebusuku nokhethiweyo wayo kufanele icabange ngobuhlobo obenaye nomlingani wayo. Uthando lwakho aluqine njengasekuqaleni kobudlelwane, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuletha umoya omusha. Ungathola impendulo ephusheni uma ubeka umbuzo ngokushesha ngaphambi kokulala.
Umfana owanikile into efudumele ephusheni, futhi empilweni yangempela uzizwa kuwe imizwa eqotho. Musa ukufihla imizwelo yakho, kanti othandekayo wakho uzokuphendula ngokuphikisana.
Uma ephusheni wahlukana nomuntu othandekayo, qiniseka ukuthi ukhumbule ukuthi yiyiphi ingxenye engokomzwelo yephupho. Isibonelo, ukungabikho kokuzisola ngokuhlukanisa kusho ukuthi empeleni imizwa yangempela yobudlelwane isiphelile futhi ungcono ukuhlakazeka ukuze ungahlukunyezwa.
Ukuze ubone ukuthi umfana othandekayo ushiye enye intombazane, eqinisweni, ayithwali lutho olubi. Empeleni, insizwa yakho izobe ithembekile futhi ithembekile. Kodwa yini okufanelekile ukulinda ngemuva kwephupho elinjalo, ngakho-ke umhlangano nomngane omdala.
Uphuphile ngomuntu othandekayo owakujikijela ngehlazo elikhulu noma ngisho nokushaya, uthi kungumphumela wakho futhi ulimi olubukhali oluzobangela ukuqedwa kobudlelwane. Ngakho-ke, uma uyakwazisa futhi uthande insizwa yakho, zama ukugcina kancane.
Umfana wathi ufuna ukulala
Naphezu kokuthi noma yiyiphi intombazane ifuna ukuzwa ukuvuma kwemizwa evela kumfana wayo, ukubonakaliswa kwemizwa yethando ephusheni akusho ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuchazwa ngendlela enhle.
- Ukumanga othandekayo ebumnyameni obumnyama kusho ukuthi maduzane ungabhekana nokuhlukunyezwa.
- Zizwa ukwamukela umfana, khona-ke imizwelo yakho iyoqina kuphela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kufanele ulindele isenzakalo esijabulisayo, esizoletha ubuhlobo bakho ezingeni eliphelele.
- Ukuze uzwe kusuka okhethiweyo wakhe amazwi omthando, nakuba empeleni lokhu kungakaze kwenzeke, kusikisela ukuthi intombazane ayinalo uthando nokuthandana ebuhlotsheni. Uma ungathathi izinyathelo futhi ungazitsheli ngezifiso zakho kubathandekayo bakho, khona-ke uzohlala ungenelisekile ngezimfuno zakho zokuveza imizwa.
- Uma unephupho lapho umfana eninika khona indandatho, ukunikela ukushada naye uthembisa izenzakalo ezifanayo kanye neqiniso. Kodwa kuzokwenzeka kuphela uma indandatho eyanikezwa ephusheni yayibushelelezi futhi ingenamatshe.
- Uma kwenzeka ubona ukumomotheka okukhulu ebusweni bomfana ngesikhathi sokunikela, empeleni konke kungase kungabi kuhle kakhulu. Akukakushiywa ukuthi empeleni umfana akazwa imizwa eqotho futhi ejulile kuwe.
- Uma uhamba ngephupho udade wakho othandekayo, ungaqiniseka ukuthi uzomlethela inhlanhla. Ubuhlobo bakho buzogqugquzela umfana emiphumeleni entsha futhi uzokwazi ukufeza okuningi ngenxa yothando lwakho.
Njengoba iphupho lapho umfana othandekayo ekhona khona kubhekwe njengento eqondile, kudingeka uhlole ngokucophelela yonke imininingwane yombono bese uwaqhathanisa nezenzakalo zangempela, ukuze ungadibanisi izimpawu ezivela phezulu ngezifiso ezilula ezingacabangi.