Izinsana zivele zibonise ukuvumelanisa ekukhulumisaneni noontanga, futhi ukungabi nandaba ekukhulumisaneni nabazali kuhambisana nokuphambene nalokho. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulu kulabo abadala abakhulile, abangakabonanga ngokucacile imigomo yabo yokuphila. Phela, umuntu onamandla kuphela ongavikela izikhundla zakhe eqenjini, ekhumbula imithetho emithathu eyisisekelo yalowo muntu:
- yenza okungcono kakhulu kuye;
- khetha wena;
- ukushintsha isinqumo ngokwengqondo yakhe, kungabikho muntu ozivumelisayo.
Futhi njengoba isisekelo sokuxhaphaza ngaso sonke isikhathi kusetshenziswa ubuthakathaka be-interlocutor (isibonelo, ilukuluku, ukungafuni ukubonakala njengendlala), lo mfana ulahlwa ngokungazi ukuthi angabanikeli. Ngakho-ke, ungazi, ingane ihanjiswe ezimweni ezingaqondakali noma ithola imikhuba emibi.
Memo kubazali
Okokuqala, ungenzi ama-scandals - lokhu kungabangela umphumela ohlukile, noma ingane izovele iguqulwe ngokucophelela. Kungcono ukutshela ngomoya ophansi ukuthi yimiphi imiphumela yempilo yokubhema. Iziphakamiso akumele zicatshangwe ngokwesayensi kuphela, kodwa futhi zikhuthazwe impilo yansuku zonke.
Futhi futhi udinga:
- Tshela ingane ukuthi iyakhathazeka kanjani futhi iyakhathazeka ukuthi uyabhema, futhi yakha ubuhlobo obufudumele naye;
- khuthaza ezemidlalo kanye neminye imisebenzi - khona-ke ngeke nje ukubhema, ukungathandeki, noma ngisho nokungamukeleki;
- mema abangani bakhe (mhlawumbe nababhemayo) ekhaya futhi babonise amavidiyo ngemiphumela engapheli yokubhema - kholwa mina, kuyamangalisa;
- khuluma nabothisha mayelana nokuthi kungenzeka ukuba umemeze esikoleni abe ngumfundisi, ngubani ozochaza imiphumela yokubhema ngokufanele futhi "ngombala";
- nikeza umfundi osemusha enye yezindaba ezifanele (sizokukhombisa);
- ngokuvame ukugxila "ekugcineni" kokubhema: imali encane yento enye, ukuphefumula, ukuphefumula okubi, amazinyo aphuzi, izingubo ezingamnandi;
- uma ingane ithi: "Ngiyakwazi ukuyeka ngokushesha nje lapho ngifuna," mcele ukuthi abonise lokho ngaphakathi kwesonto;
- siza intsha ukuthi ithuthukise uhlelo "Indlela yokuyeka ukubhema" futhi unikele ngolwazi lwemithombo ukuze usize (ungakhohlwa ukudumisa ngokukhetha okufanele);
- Susa ezindaweni ezivelele zikagwayi (noma kangcono - bese uyeka ukubhema), ngoba indlela engcono kakhulu yokulwa nokubhema nezingane yisibonelo sabazali.
Musa:
- Ukuthi ngeke umthande ingane yakho ngoba uyabhema;
- wehla ekhala noma ukhulume naye ngesitayela se "inkulumo-ntshumayelo".
I-Memo yomsana
Qaphela futhi uqonde ngokucacile ukuthi kungani ufuna ukulahla umkhuba olimazayo wokubhema ebusheni, indlela yokubhekana nayo nokuthi ungakugwema kanjani. Yenza uhlu lwezisusa zakho (ubuthongo obuhle nempilo, isimiso sezinzwa esizolile, ukumelana nokucindezeleka, ukuthuthukisa ubuhlobo nabazali). Zama ucabange kahle amaphaphu akho, uchithe kahle ngokubhema.
Cabanga wena nempilo yakho enhle ngemva kokuqeda lo mkhuba omubi,
Zenzele ukuthi noma nini lapho ufuna ukubhema, yenza umkhuba othile (isibonelo, ama-push-ups angu-50), bese uphinde ucabange ukuthi uzobhema noma cha.
Yenza imidlalo - iyasiza kakhulu.
Kubalulekile! Uma leli qembu "licindezelwa" yiqembu, into elula kakhulu ukuthatha inqubo yokwakhiwa okuqinile: thatha ukuma okuqinile, ungagqugquzeli futhi ungaveli ngezizathu "ezivumelekile".
Imiphumela yocuba
Ukwehlisa amakhono engqondo nengokwenyama.
Isifo se-system sezinzwa nokulwa.
Usongo lokuthuthukiswa kwesifo senhliziyo, umfutho wegazi ophezulu, izilonda zesisu, i-bronchitis engapheli, umdlavuza, kanye nokuqeda i-endarteritis - umonakalo emithanjeni yegazi yamagatsha angaphansi (kubantu - "izinyawo zokubhema") kuze kube yilapho isilonda.
Usongo lokuntula ngokocansi emadodeni nokuhlukunyezwa kwabesifazane.
Ukuguga kusengaphambili nokunciphisa impilo iminyaka engu-10-15.
Amaqiniso
Abantu abaqala ukubhema ngaphambi kokuba baneminyaka engu-15 banethuba elingama-20% lokufa ngomdlavuza wamaphaphu kunabanye ababhemayo "abaphuzile".
Kumuntu omdala, umthamo we-nicotine obulalayo uyipakethe yegwayi, ukubhema ngesikhathi esisodwa, iphakethe elilodwa elisencane!
Intsha, ukubhema ngosuku ngaphezulu kwepakethe eyodwa yegwayi, ijwayele ukuhlaselwa kaningi ngokuphindaphindiwe izikhathi ezingu-15 kunabangane babo abangabhemi.