Umndeni
Udadewethu uyangigcina nsuku zonke ngenxa yezinhlamba ...
Ngodade osekhulile sasingasondelene, kepha lapho ekhulile, wayeka ukuxhumana nami. Ngazama ukuxhumana, kodwa ngagijimela odongeni lokudelela. Manje ngihlukanisiwe nomyeni wami, futhi siphila ndawonye: baba, nginendodakazi yami nodadewethu. Uhlambalaza nsuku zonke. I-kettle ayifanele, ikhethini alinamatheli ... Ayifuni ukushintsha indlu, anginayo ithuba lokuqasha igumbi ngokwehlukana. Ungaba kanjani?
Ukuphawula kwengqondo
Into yokuqala okufanele uyenze ukubuza ukuthi udade uyedwa yini. Ukuphila kubonisa ukuthi empini engapheli, izinhlangothi zombili zinecala njalo. Ukungaqondile kahle futhi kunecala akukenzeki. Kungenzeka ukuthi ekuziphatheni kwakho kunesici sokucasula okungazibandakanyi. Ukuzama ukuzibheka ngamehlo kodade kuzosiza ekuqondeni kangcono imithombo yokucasula nokuthunjwa kwayo. Kubuye kusize ukuhlukanisa phakathi kokuyinhloko nesondari. Ngokudabukisayo ukulenga amakhethini nokuma endaweni engafanele i-teapot kunzima ukufakazela ezintweni zomthetho. Nalapha futhi kukhona ithuba lokunciphisa. Futhi "ukudelelwa" kwalodadewethu, kungenzeka ukuthi ubeka ubungozi bawo nokungazinzi.
Uma uxoxa nomqondisi wezokwelapha ezindabeni zomndeni, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi udokotela uthanda ngempela ukukusiza, futhi akusikuliphuli noma iyiphi imali yenkonzo.
Angikwazi ukuthola umlingani wami othandekayo
Esinye isisebenzi kimi esivame ukugqoka ". Ukukhuluma, uzama ukuthinta, uvumela amahlaya angenangqondo, uvuka uma ngiphuza ikhofi ekhishini lehhovisi. Ngomusa nangesizotha, akusebenzi, kodwa angazi ukuthi kunzima kangakanani futhi kungenhlamba engikwaziyo ...
Waphendule kwesazi sengqondo
Phakathi kokunethezeka kanzima, ukuhlonipha nokuhlambalaza kunezikhundla eziningi eziphakathi. Akudingekile ukuba ulayishe ngokweqile. Kunengqondo ukwehlukanisa kabusha ukuziphatha kwakho kokuziphatha. Isibonelo, bukela ngomoya othulile ku-interlocutor, uma uzwakala i-joke ekhululekile kakhulu. Akukho ukumomotheka, akukho ukuphawula - bheka nje emehlweni. Ezimweni eziningi, i-joker ilahlekile, bese ingabe ingengozi yokusebenzisa. Inkulumo ethi "Angithandi ukuthintwa ngabasemzini" iyodumaza osebenza naye ukuthi angadonseli izandla lapho engafanele khona. Into kuphela ekwazi ukuvimbela icala kungukungathandi kwakho ukuba "ungaqedi" isoka.
Imfundo
Indodana yami eneminyaka eyisishiyagalombili ifunda kahle, ingena emidlalweni, inobungane ... Kodwa kuye yonke isheke (ukulawula, ukuncintisana, ukuncintisana) ukucindezeleka. Uyesaba, ukhathazekile, uzama ukuhlehlisa. Ungabeki ukubekezelela imidlalo yamathimba, ungazi ukuthi ulahlekelwe kanjani - ungakhathazeki kakhulu. Ngingamsiza kanjani?
Ukuphawula kwengqondo
Ngokwabo, imisebenzi yokuhlola, imincintiswano noma imincintiswano akuyona imbangela yokucindezeleka kwengqondo. Izingane azikaze zakha izinga elizinzile lezimangalo kanye nezinhlelo ezikude zokuziqhenya. Abacabangi ngekusasa futhi baphile kuphela okwamanje. Izingane ezihlukumezayo akuzona izivivinyo, kodwa ukwesaba ukungaboni izidingo zabazali. Futhi iphuzu lapha alikho ekusongweni kwesijeziso somzimba, kodwa ngokwesaba ukuxoshwa, akuvunyelwe yilabo abaxhomeke kubo nalabo abayidingayo. Ukuze unciphise imizwa, thatha umntwana, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uphumelela esikoleni, ungabonisi usizi ekuhlulekeni futhi ungazinaki izilinganiso.
Ingabe kufanele ngisize umama kamama ngendlu, ngitshele, isazi sezengqondo?
Siphila nomfana ngamunye nabazali bakhe. Ngichitha ngempelasonto naye. Umama wakhe "ukhonza" umndeni ngokuphelele. Futhi uthi kimi: "hlamba izitsha," "usule uthuli ekamelweni likaLesya." Ingabe bafeza lezi zidingo? Angifuni ukufundisa umfana ukuba acabange ukuthi wonke umsebenzi wesikole wenziwa owesifazane ...
Awudingi ukunakekela uLesha. Umyalelo otholwa emndenini womngane wakho akuyona kuphela okukhona, kodwa kuphela okuhlukile kwendlela yokuphila. Thatha njengesisekelo noma uthuthuke ngokuphelele - usadingeka unqume. Ukwengeza, ukusatshalaliswa komsebenzi kwabesifazane nabesilisa kunomqondo olinganiselwe. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, unembeza omuhle, ungase udele emsebenzini wokuhlonipha ukuze usule uthuli egumbini lomfana noma ugeze izingubo zakhe zangaphansi. Ukugeza izitsha kunzima kakhulu. Uma abazali bakondla, uphuze njalo ngempelasonto, khona-ke nje udinga ukufaka isandla ekubambeni okuvamile. Ngakho-ke, ungakwazi ukugeza izitsha, kodwa kanye noCrada Lesha.
Ukuze uthole ukubonisana okufanelekayo kwengqondo kwengqondo ezindabeni zomndeni, isikhungo esihle se-psychology kufanele sitholakale.