Wema phakathi kwakhe nendodana yakhe.
Yile ndlela ngokuvamile iningi lomamazala libhekwa ngayo. Ngaphambi kokubonakala kwakho emndenini wabo, kwakukhona ubudlelwane obuhle, noma kunjalo, unina womyeni wakho wakholwa kanjalo. Wayelawula ngokuphelele ubuhlobo bawo, wafaka amasokisi endodana yakhe futhi wapheka isobho sokudla. Lapho ufika, konke kwashintsha - indodana yayeka ukutshela unina yonke imininingwane yokuphila kwayo, yaqala ukubonakala kaningi ekhaya, nezitsha zokudla zikamama, eziwusizo ngesisu, ukukhetha ukuhamba nawe nawe zokudlela. Ngokuvamile, owesifazane okhulise indodana yakhe iminyaka eminingi futhi ehlala naye, unomona. Kodwa akuyona into engokwemvelo uma iphazamisa ubuhlobo bakho.
Amaphutha omamazala, obhekene nomhawu kuwe, ahlanganisa iqiniso lokuthi uzama ukugcina ithonya lakhe endodaneni yakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini. Uqinisekile ukuthi ngeke ukwazi ukuzungeze indodana yakhe ethandekayo ngokunakekela kwakhe. Futhi into eyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu ukuthi umyeni wakho mhlawumbe awuboni inkinga. Ujwayele ukuthi unina uhlale ekhona futhi njalo unikeza iseluleko, futhi wena emehlweni akhe awunalo igunya elidingekayo ekuhambiseni kwakhe okungekho emthethweni.
Akulula ukuphuma kule simo. Okokuqala, qonda ukuthi umndeni wakho awuyona insimu yokusebenza kwezempi, futhi asikho isizathu sokuhlanganyela amandla. Umyeni wakho uyakuthanda kokubili, kodwa ngezindlela ezahlukene. Indlela engcono kakhulu ukuhlala ngokuhlukile nomamazala. Uma lokhu kungenakwenzeka ngesizathu esithile, khuluma nomlingani, yena, futhi akufanele uchazele umama lapho ukuphazamiseka okuvunyelwe empilweni yakho kuphelile. Uzama ukwenza okulungile, kodwa ungavumeli umamazala uthathe izinsolo zikahulumeni ezandleni zakho, okungukuthi, zama okungenani okuhlwabusayo futhi udla njalo umyeni wakho, ukuqapha isimo sezingubo zakhe namabhulukwe. Futhi zama ukungaxabani phambi komamazala wakho, kuzomisa nje ngokumelene nawe. Eminye imininingwane yempilo yakho ingafihlwa ngokuphelele kuyo.
Awunayo.
Kuyinto eminye indaba uma umamazala wakho engesihawu nje kuphela, kodwa uyaqiniseka ukuthi awuyena umbhangqwana endodaneni yakhe. Lona elinye iphutha lomamazala omama, abhekana nabesifazane abaningi abasha. Yiqiniso, unina womyeni wakho akafuni ukuba indodana yakhe isebenzise ukuphila kwakhe yedwa, ifuna abazukulu futhi ayikhathaleli indodana yakhe ukushada. Inkinga ukuthi unqume isikhathi eside ukuthi umfazi ohloniphekile kufanele abe yindodana yakhe futhi, ngeshwa, awuhambisani nalezi zinqubo.
Ngokuvamile, omama bafuna ukuthi umalokazana wabo abe ngumndeni wabo omuhle, babe nesizotha nobuhle, babe nemfundo enhle nomsebenzi ohloniphekile, kwakungeyena oyisiphukuphuku, olalelayo, ohlonishwa umndeni ngaphezu kwakho konke, wayengumama omuhle, ophupha izingane futhi enesidingo esihle. Kodwa-ke, noma ngabe umalokazana unabo bonke lezi zimfanelo, umkhwekazi omthandayo uyothola ukuthi ukulahla - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyindlela yokuziphatha noma akakwazi ukugqoka izingubo kuye.
Lapha udinga ukuqonda ukuthi ukhetho lomkayo, okokuqala, lungenxa yendoda yakho, hhayi ngenxa kanina. Futhi uma ekhetha wena, uphendula zonke izidingo zakhe. Ungazami ukufakazela unyokozala wakho, ukuthi umelela umklamo womfazi, nje ungangeni ekuxabaneni naye, ungazami ukujabulisa konke. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uzozikhulula noma uzokhululeka esivumelwaneni sokuxhumana naye, okuyinto engeyona into embi ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Ungumama omubi.
Enye iphutha elivamile umamazala-umzamo wokufaka esikhundleni sabantwana bakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzama kanzima kangakanani, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhulisa izingane nokuthi yini oyenzayo, emehlweni akhe wenza konke okungahambi kahle. Akunjalo ukuthi usule ama-diapers, hhayi ukuthi uyondla ngesifuba, hhayi ukuze ugqoke futhi ukhulise ngokungalungile. Yiqiniso, umkhwekazi angasho ukuthi unolwazi oluhle, futhi usevele ekhulise indodana enhle. Kodwa akudingeki ukuba ube nolwazi olufanayo namakhono, okungenani ube yingxenye yekhulu leminyaka.
Izingane zakho zingabantwana bakho. Uninazala angenza indima kuphela kukagogo, umsizi, kodwa hhayi uthisha oyinhloko. Abazali kuphela kufanele banqume ukuthi bangafundisa kanjani izingane zabo. Ngakho ungamvumeli ukuba athathe amandla futhi azenzele izingane ngokwakho. Uma ukhuluma nomamazala wakho, shiya imiyalo ecacile yalokho okumele ukondle, ukuthi yini ongayigqoka, ukuthi yini ongayenza ukuba ibukele ku-TV. Uma uninazala engalaleli, vele ukhawule ukuxhumana kwakhe nezingane - lokhu kuzosebenza ngesikhathi.
Wonakalisa indodana yakhe.
Kungokwemvelo ukuthi emva komshado, ikakhulukazi uma uhlala ngokwehlukana, umyeni wakho uye waba ukunaka kancane kancane kunina, uye wathola imikhuba emisha, washintsha indlela yokuphila. Iphutha likamamazala ukuthi uyabona ukuthi yikuphi ukushintsha kwendodana okubi kakhulu. Ungazama ukuqhuba izingxoxo ezifundisayo naye futhi akutshele ukuthi unethonya elibi endodaneni yakhe, noma ngabe izinguquko zihlanganisa nokuthi wayeke egqoke ithayi ngisho nase-dacha.
Lapha nje umyeni wakho angakwazi ukubeka iphuzu elimangalisayo empikiswaneni. Angakwazi ukukhuluma nonina futhi amchazele ukuthi usemdala ngokwanele ukwenza izinqumo zakhe futhi akwazi ukuhlukanisa phakathi kokuhle nokubi. Njengoba unomndeni wakho, kungokwemvelo ukuthi umyeni wakho ngeke akwazi ukunakekela umama wakhe, kodwa ngeke ashiye.
Amaphutha omama angaphazamisa impilo yakho nomlingani wakho, ngezinye izikhathi ngenxa yempi enjalo imindeni ibhujiswe. Kodwa udinga ukuqonda ukuthi kungani umamazala wakho eziphatha kulokhu noma leso simo, udinga ukuba ohlangothini lomndeni wakho, kodwa uphathe umama wakho ngenhlonipho. Futhi indima eyinhloko ebuhlotsheni phakathi komalokazana nomkhwekazi kufanele idlalwe yiyo oshade naye, naphezu kwakho konke, umsebenzi wakhe wokuqala ukuphatha wena nokunakekela abazali bakho. Ngakho-ke, ungagijimi empini nomamazala wakho njalo, shiya umyeni wakho ukuxazulula zonke izimo zokuphikisana. Okungenani ngoba umama nendodana bahlale bengavumelana njalo.