Akuyona imfihlo kunoma ubani ukuthi owesifazane unomzwelo kakhulu. Uvame ukucabanga ngokucabanga, imizwelo yakhe ithulule phezu komphetho. Futhi kamuva kuphela angacabanga ngalokho akwenzayo nalokho akushilo. Kodwa kungase kube ukugcwaliseka kamuva kwe-fait accompli. Ungaba kanjani owesifazane onomlingiswa wakhe ongenangqondo nangokomzwelo.
Ukuzikhandla kuyisici somlingiswa. Ukuzikhandla njengomkhuba wobuciko kubangelwa ukuthi owesifazane uhlale eyazi impendulo kunoma imuphi umbuzo (ngisho noma ungalungile). Kuphela endleleni lapho kunezinkinga, lona wesifazane uphenduka ngokushesha ube yi-anti-war and uqala "izenzo" zakhe. Nakuba engqondweni yakhe eqondakalayo uyaqonda ukuthi lokhu akunakwenziwa futhi kubalulekile ukusebenzisa izixazululo eziningi ezizwakalayo, kodwa akukho lutho olungenziwa ngakho.
Futhi kulula kangakanani ukwenza iziphetho ngokushesha, ngaphandle kokucabanga ngemiphumela yalezi ziphetho. Kuyiqiniso, lapho imizwelo igxile futhi ingqondo ivuliwe. Owesifazane uqonda isinyathelo sakhe sokunganaki. Kodwa kunzima kakhulu ukubuyela emuva iwashi bese ulungisa iphutha. Indlela yokufunda indlela yokuphatha kahle izimo, ungaxazululi konke ngesikhathi esisodwa nangenhloko eshisayo.
Owesifazane ongacabangi ngezindlela eziningi kufana nengane encane, engenangqondo. Ufana nomntwana ongenalutho, ulandela imizwelo yakhe kuphela kanye nezifiso zesikhashana ezenzweni. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, akaqapheli lokho akwenzile, noma lokho akushoyo, futhi akenzi lutho.
Kodwa nokho, ekukhulekeleni kunezici ezinhle:
ukufutheka akusho ukuqinisekiswa nokuqinisekiswa;
isimo sengqondo esibi sihlala isikhathi esincane;
isinqumo senziwa ngaphakathi kwamaminithi;
yonke imibuzo iphendulwa njalo;
Empeleni, kuthatha yonke imithwalo yemfanelo;
ihlale isebenza;
zonke izinkinga eziphakamisa, chofoza njenge "nuts".
Lezi zimfanelo ziyatholakala kulabo abambalwa. Kodwa, ngeshwa, imikhuba enjalo yemoto ephakeme kakhulu ayihambisani ngaso sonke isikhathi kubahle. Linikeza izinkinga eziningi ngokungabi nakakhulu kwabanye njengokuthi ngokwazo. Imiphumela yezenzo namazwi awayeki njalo ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngoba ezimweni eziningi ziyakhathaza futhi ziphikisana nemithetho ejwayelekile.
Ukuze ungaphazamisi ukuthula emvelweni. Udinga ukufunda ukunciphisa emaceleni. Ngaphambi. Kunokuthile okumele uthathe noma uthathe isinqumo esibalulekile, kubalulekile ukuba ubalekele ku-10 futhi emuva futhi kuphela ukuvula umlomo wakho omuhle, ngesitatimende sesinqumo esilandelayo.
Uma lona wesifazane engakwazi ukuhlala, uzodinga usizo lwabanye. Kubalulekile ukuvumelana nomndeni nabangane. Ukuzisiza ukulawula imizwa yabo ngezibonakaliso ezithile. Yikuphi abazokukhonza ngaleso sikhathi. Lapho owesifazane eqala "ukusika kusukela ehlombe" futhi. Kungaba izimpawu ezehlukene ezivela egameni elithi "stop" ukuze uhlabe izandla zakho. Ukuyeka, lo wesifazane uzokwazi ukuwazisa amazwi akhe nezenzo zakhe.
Ukunciphisa ukucindezela kanye nokuzwelana kunzima kakhulu. Akunakwenzeka ngokushesha ukuxazulula le nkinga enzima. Vala abesifazane nabanye kungenzeka ukuthi bazi ngalesi sici somlingiswa bese uzama ukumphatha ngobuqotho kulokho okuye kwashiwo nokwenziwa. Kodwa abantu abangajwayelekile bangethusa ukuziphatha okunjalo okwanele, futhi lokhu kungabaholela ekutheni bangene kwi-stupor. Umuntu ofundayo kufanele abike ngokushesha izici zakhe zobuntu kubantu abazungezile nabangakajwayele ukuze angazilimazi yena. Futhi funda ukuxolisa ngalokho okwenzekile phakathi "nomkhuhlane".
Futhi into ebaluleke kakhulu ukukhumbula ukuthi ungalungisa lokho okwenziwe. Vele udinga ukuthola amagama afanele. Isibonelo, wenza isinqumo sokukhwabanisa, ngosuku olulandelayo noma emva kwesikhathi, ungabhekisela ekujuleni kwesinqumo futhi uthathe okunye okunengqondo futhi ulinganise zonke izinzuzo nezingozi.
Umsebenzi oqhubekayo uzothola imiphumela emihle.