Ngokucindezeleka emadodeni, usizo luzophumelela kakhulu uma ungakwazi ukuqonda incazelo ejwayelekile yegama elithi "ukucindezeleka kwabantu" futhi ukucaca ngokucacile izimbangela eziyinhloko ezingabangela. Futhi ezimbangela ezicacile nezivame kakhulu zomuntu ocindezelekile emadodeni yilokhu: ukungabi khona kwemali okuqhubekayo, umsebenzi ongaphumeleli ngaphandle kwemfuneko yokukhula komsebenzi, ukungabi nokuziqhenya ngesikhathi sokufuna "ukudala" ukuvumelanisa wena ngokwakho, izinkinga ekuphileni komuntu siqu nobudlelwane obuseduze, ubunzima ekukhulumeni abantu abazungezile, inkinga yaphakade phakathi kobaba nezingane, ukungalingani nabesifazane, izindlu ezimbi kanye nezimo zomphakathi nokunye. Ngelinye igama, lolu hlu lungabuye lwaqhubeka isikhathi eside kakhulu, kodwa sanquma ukuma futhi sisho izinkinga ezivame kakhulu ekuphileni komadoda. Into ebaluleke kakhulu lapha ukuthi ukucindezeleka kwamadoda kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kunathi besifazane. Konke lokhu kuxhunyaniswe neqiniso lokuthi indoda ihlala ezinkingeni zayo ikakhulukazi ngokobulili obuthakathaka futhi izama ukulwa nokucindezeleka ngosizo lophuza utshwala, ukuvalwa kuye, ukuhlukunyezwa. Singakwazi ukunqoba isimo sethu sengqondo esibi ngokuvakashela i-beauty salon, ukuthenga, ukushintsha ingaphakathi endlini, ukuxhumana nabangani ngisho nokuthola isilwane. Nakhu usizo lwakho, olungaphumeleli nhlobo kumqondo wesilisa.
Imali yonke ikhanda lakho .
Njengoba sesishilo kakade, inkinga ebaluleke kakhulu ebangela isimo esicindezelekile kumuntu yisimo sakhe sezezimali. Phela, imali engakaze yenzeke ngempela, futhi ngisho nokuphambene nalokho. Yimali ethatha indawo ebaluleke kunazo zonke engqondweni yomuntu. Lokhu kungenzeka kakhulu ngenxa yokuthi umuntu uqala futhi oyinhloko umthengi, lapho inhlalakahle yomndeni wonke incike khona. Ukucindezeleka komuntu okhohlakeleyo kufinyelela ngesikhathi lapho indoda enenhloko yayo ibamba "emncintiswaneni wemali" futhi ayikwazi ukuyeka nhlobo. Esimweni esinjalo, usizo olungcono kakhulu ukushintsha isimo sakho sengqondo ngemali nokubona ukuthi imali ayiyona into esemqoka ekuphileni. Uma umfana engakwazi ukukwenza ngaso leso sikhathi, makazame ukugxila kwezinye izinkinga ezilula ukuzixazulula. Lokhu kuzomsiza ukuthi aphazamiseke "enkingeni" enkulu. Ngendlela, kunoma yikuphi, noma yiziphi izimbangela zokucindezeleka, kuhlale kudingekile, okokuqala ukuziqonda wena, futhi kuphela ukulwa nalesi sifo sengqondo. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ukucindezeleka yisifo esiphazamisa isimo jikelele sempilo, ngakho ukuhlala nayo akuyona indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma.
Okubi kakhulu uma imbangela yokucindezeleka yindoda ukuthi indoda ayikwazi ukusekela umndeni wayo. Lapha, ngaphezu kwakho konke, kusekhona isisindo esinecala phambi komfazi, izingane, abazali. Akuyona into emangalisa, kodwa uma ubulili obuqinile kunendlela eyodwa kuphela: ukugembula, utshwala, ukulutha izidakamizwa. Lena akuyona indlela ephumelelayo yokunqoba ipeni lakho. Kodwa le ndoda ngokwayo ngaphandle kokuyiqonda, imane ibhubhise isimo sayo jikelele. Kule ndaba, ukucindezeleka nokusiza ekucindezeleni ukuthi indoda idinga ukuqondisa amandla akhe endleleni efanele. Isibonelo, yenza ukulungiswa endlini, hamba nomndeni ukuba uphumule, wenze imidlalo, uhambe kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka nabangani bebhola bese uchitha isikhathi esiningi nomndeni. Konke lokhu kuzokhipha ushintsho lwe-psychology wesilisa kule nkinga ukuze uqaphele ukuthi akuyona yonke into embi empilweni futhi kunezinye izikhathi eziningi eziqhakazile nezijabulisayo kunokuba uhlezi ubuso nobuso ngenkinga yakho. Futhi into esemqoka lapha ukusekelwa kwezihlobo.
Ungagxumi ngaphezu kwebha yakho .
Uma umuntu evaliwe kuye ngenxa yomsebenzi wakhe (akagcini nje anganelisekile, noma ukhathele ukuphupha ukuvusa), lapha iseluleko esiyinhloko akukaze sibeke ukuphakama okungenakwenzeka kanye nezinhlelo ezingenangqondo. Kulesi simo, kubalulekile ukugxilisa konke ukunakwa kwethu okuthiwa "ukunqoba okuncane nezinzuzo". Kodwa akudingekile ukuba uziphazamise ngenxa yokuwa kwezingqondo zakho. Indoda kumele ibeke imingcele ecacile, ezohlukanisa okufunayo kusukela kunokwenzeka. Ngendlela, ukushintsha indawo yomsebenzi ingenye yezindlela ezingcono zokunqoba iphleen lakho futhi ubheke umhlaba onamehlo ahlukene.
Ukuphila komuntu akuyona isizathu sokucindezeleka .
Izinkinga ezimpilweni zabo zingabhidliza ngokuphelele umuntu oziphatha kahle nangokomoya. Ngakho-ke, ukucindezeleka ngenxa yokungaboni kahle emndenini, izinkinga nomfazi, izingane ziwumqondo ojulile futhi okhuni wengqondo ongenza umuntu angene ngaphakathi kuye. Kulokhu, usizo lomuntu luvame ukuhlotshaniswa nokuhlukunyezwa nokuphuza utshwala. Kodwa lokhu akuyona indlela yokuphuma kweso simo. Isazi sengqondo somndeni kanye nengxoxo engagwegwesi nomuntu wesifazane, lapho bangakwazi khona ukusindisa umuntu ekuhlangenwe nakho kwabo ngokomzwelo, ukuwaqeda ekuhlakalweni okuqhubekayo nokuphuza utshwala.
Futhi ekugcineni, ukuze indoda iphume ekucindezelekeni futhi ithole injongo yokuphila kunoma yisiphi isimo kanye nesizathu esibangela lokhu kugula, kutuswa ukufuna usizo kuchwepheshe. Uchwepheshe kuphela ongasiza umuntu athole amandla akhe "okudala", anqobe izinkinga, aziqinisekise ngokwakhe futhi athole imibala emisha yokuphila. Ngaphezu kwalokho, "udokotela wengqondo" uzokwazi ukunikeza imithi edingekayo (izidakamizwa zokucindezeleka), ngenxa yokuthi umuntu angasimisa kanjani isimo sakhe sengqondo ngokushesha. Ngakho akudingeki ukuba ulwe nokucindezeleka yedwa, ngoba kunezindlela eziningi zokubuyela esimweni esijwayelekile sokuphila futhi uzizwe njengomuntu ogcwele. Into esemqoka akukuthi uzibophe "ezindongeni ezine", kepha ukufuna indlela yokuphuma kunoma iyiphi inkinga bese noma yikuphi ukucindezeleka kuyoba nje okungabalulekile.