Ukucindezeleka kuthinta ubulili

Mayelana nezinzuzo zocansi abhala okuningi: ukwandisa ukukhulelwa kwengculazi, kunciphisa ubuhlungu, ukukhathala, kusiza ukulwa nokucindezeleka, kodwa ... kule mpi, ubulili, i-alas, ngokuvamile kuvame ukuhlukunyezwa okudabukisayo.

Okokuqala, asichaze igama elithi: kuthiwani ngokucindezeleka? (Mayelana nokuthi isiphi isondo, imibuzo, asithemba). Yona kanye izwi lokucindezeleka ngesiNgisi lisho "ukushaywa umoya, ukucindezelwa, ukucindezelwa." Izimo zangaphandle noma izinkinga zangaphakathi zicindezelwa ngomqondo wangempela - futhi umzimba uphenduka nazo zonke izinhlobo zokukhubazeka kwengqondo nangokwenyama. Ukuphazamiseka kokulala nokudla, noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, ukulala nokufisa ukudla ama-candy amabhokisi, ukudabuka, ukukhathazeka, ukuthukuthela, noma, ngokuphambene, ukuvinjelwa - konke lokhu kuyindlela yokucindezeleka. Futhi njengomthetho, ngaphansi kokucindezeleka abantu abaningi, ngeshwa, ungabi nobulili. Kodwa cishe abantu abangu-9% bazama ukuxazulula izimo ezicindezelayo nje ngosizo lwabo. Ukuthula kuka-statistician kunempumelelo kangakanani. Kungcono ukuhlola ngesipiliyoni.
Kodwa-ke, kuyathakazelisa ukuthi ukucindezeleka "okuhle" okubangelwa imizwelo emibi kakhulu kwandisa kuphela ama-hormone ezocansi, ngakho-ke, amathonya obulili obuhle. "Okubi" futhi kuletha izinkinga eziningi ebuhlotsheni bobulili, kodwa kubesilisa nabesifazane bazibonakalisa ngezindlela ezahlukene. Ngakho, ukwelapha ucansi lokucindezeleka.

Uma ukucindezeleka komuntu

Kwenzekani?
Amadoda amaningi agcina izinkinga ngaphakathi. Abakhulumi ngamahora efonini mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho, musa ukuthululela ukuhlukumeza kuma-hysterics, futhi ugcine ngokwabo yonke imithwalo yezinkinga ezingaxazululwa. Ngakho-ke, lapho umuntu esesimweni esicindezelayo, uvale ngisho nakakhulu kuye. Noma yikuphi ukubuza noma ukukhathazeka okungenandaba nakho kuyamcasula. Ngokuqondene nobulili, kunezindlela ezimbili ezingenzeka zokuthuthukisa isimo.

Uma ukucindezeleka kungenamandla futhi kungabi kakhulu, kungakwandisa okwesikhashana ukukhanga: ngokusho kochwepheshe, ubulili besilisa buxhunyaniswe ngokuhlukunyezwa, isifiso sokuwina, ukunqoba, ukusebenzisa amandla negunya lawo. Kodwa ngeshwa, ukuphumula ngokomzimba akuhambisani ngaso sonke isikhathi nokukhishwa kokuziphatha, futhi uma imbangela yokucindezeleka ijulile kunokukhathala kanye nosuku olunzima emsebenzini, ngeke luhlinzeke ngocansi olunjalo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ingahle iqhume futhi ibangele ukugula okungeziwe.

Okuyingxenye yesibili yokuthuthukiswa kwesimo - ukunganaki komlingani, ukucindezeleka kokuthambekela ngisho nenkinga yokulungiswa. Kulokhu, lo muntu uvale nakakhulu futhi uqale ukugwema lo mlingani, ukuze angabanjwa ekuthunjweni, ubheke ukukhathala nomsebenzi omkhulu.

Indlela yokuziphatha?
Ukulwa empeleni, kuqala futhi okubaluleke kakhulu imbangela yokucindezeleka, hhayi ngokuphenywa. Ngokuphathelene nesondelene naye, umlingani udinga ukukhombisa ukuhlakanipha nokubekezela okukhulu. Noma yikuphi ukuhlambalaza noma, okubi nakakhulu, amahlaya, ukuhleka usulu, nakuba mhlawumbe ulimi lubukeka ngokungenakubekezela, alufanelekile. Emva kwakho konke, udinga ukwesekwa nokuqinisekiswa kokubaluleka kwakhe, hhayi ngokuphambene nalokho.

Uma umuntu engabonisi isinyathelo embhedeni, ingubo entsha ebomvu nge-lace, amakhandlela kanye ne-striptease, cishe, engabi lutho. Ukholo olunjalo luzobangela ukwesaba okungenzeka kube khona ukucasula noma ukucasula. Njengokugqugquzela izinketho eziningi ezingcono kakhulu zokungabikho - isidlo esiphundu ne-aphrodisiacs, ukusikhipha. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu: othandekayo kufanele abe nomuzwa wokuthi uyabaluleka kuphela kumongo wobudlelwano bombhede.

Uma ukucindezeleka kowesifazane
Kwenzekani?
Ngokungafani namadoda, abesifazane basetshenziselwa ukukhipha okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo ngaphandle. Kodwa mayelana nokuhlukunyezwa kwesifiso socansi akuphelelwe umbuzo, ikakhulukazi esimweni esicindezelayo, abameli bezocansi abalungile badinga ukuphumula, ukuthula nobubele. Ukuxhumana okuthinta inhliziyo - ukumbumbulula, ukucindezela kahle nokukhathalela ngezikhathi ezinjalo kudingekile. Kodwa uma umuntu ethatha isidingo sokucindezela isifiso sobulili ngokushesha futhi ngokushesha, izinkinga nezikhalazo kungenzeka, ngoba kulokhu kukhona ukungaboni kahle. Ngenxa yalokho, umuntu angazizwa enqatshiwe futhi engadingeki, azibonele yena konke okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe (ngenxa yokuzimela kwemvelo), avaliwe, akhubeke noma akhiphe ngisho nakancane ekumangaleleni kokuntuleka kobuhlobo bomlingani futhi ngokujwayelekile ... Yiqiniso, konke lokhu akubambi noma ukuzwana phakathi kobudlelwane, noma ukunqoba isimo esicindezelayo. Kodwa-ke, umthandi omnene kuye ngokuthi isimo, Yebo, uyakwazi ukushintsha umlingani nakho okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe ukuthanda.

Indlela yokuziphatha?
Ungaziphoqeleli ukuba ulale ocansini, kuphela ukuze ungamcasuli othandekayo, ngeke kukujabulise wena noma yena. Ngemuva kokuvunyelwa okunjalo, owesifazane uzobonakala esetshenzisiwe, indoda izozizwa ingakhathazeki, ngoba iyozwa ukuthi ayijabuli umlingani. Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukusho ngokuzithoba: "Cha, esinye isikhathi", kunokuba ulale phansi buthule futhi ucasule umlingani ngokungahambisani nokungabi nalutho. Uma kuphela into oyifunayo emva kosuku olukhuni - thatha ukushisa okushisayo bese ulala, vumela ukuba uphumule futhi uphumule. Into eyinhloko - zama ukuchazela othandekayo wakho ukuthi akusikho kuye, kodwa ekuhlangenwe nakho kwakho. Futhi qiniseka ukunikeza umhlahlandlela wesinyathelo, ukucacisa nokukhonkolo, ngaphandle kwamacebo: "Ngidinga ukuthi ungigxume futhi ulalele."

Uma isimo esicindezelayo siphuthumayo futhi noma yikuphi ukucabanga ngocansi ngokushesha okubangela ukwenqatshwa, kufanele uzame ukushintsha isimo sengqondo sangaphakathi. Siyazi futhi ukuthi umngane oyinhloko wokucindezeleka ukukhathala ngokomzimba. Zama ukuphumula uphinde ulale, futhi mhlawumbe maduzane ekamelweni lokulala ngeke ufune ukulala kahle.

Zama ukwakha isimo sengqondo: ukunambitheka kuza ngokudla, futhi mhlawumbe ngokuthatha kuqala isinyathelo kuqala, wena ngokwakho ufuna ukuqhubeka.

Futhi-ke, lapho ukucindezeleka kushiywe emuva futhi konke kubuyela emuva evamile, ungakhohlwa ngokuvimbela ukuvimbela ukucindezeleka njalo. Phela, ubulili, uma kungenjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi kungasetshenziswa njengokwelapha okuphelele kokucindezeleka, bese nje ukuthi ikhambi lokuvimbela lihle kakhulu! Unikeza ukuphumula okuphelele ngokomzimba nokuphumula, kuphakamisa isimo sengqondo futhi kunikeza ukuzethemba. Yenza njalo ngangokunokwenzeka, uma konke kuhle, bese uzophuma kalula kunoma yisiphi isimo esicindezelayo.