"Ngenkinga eyodwa, amadoda nabesifazane bayavuma: bobabili abethembi abesifazane."
G. Mencken.
Ukuphila kuvame ukufaniswa nomgwaqo. Kodwa-ke, akusho ukuthi kufane ncamashi kufana nomgwaqo omkhulu onjengejubane eliphezulu. Hhayi njalo njengoba singathanda, silindele impumelelo, injabulo, inhlanhla, ukugcwaliseka kwazo zonke izifiso zethu.
Futhi ngokuphendulela okulandelayo, umgwaqo ngokumangalisa uyasimangaza, futhi akuzona njalo ezimnandi. Futhi masinyane, okwesikhashana, ulahlekelwa ngokuphelele "ukuqondiswa" Ngisho noma ufuna ukubonakala uqinile futhi ugcine zonke izinkinga kuwe, kungaba nzima kakhulu ukufeza le njongo ngokusebenza.
Imizwelo emibi kakhulu kakhulu kangangokuthi kubalulekile ukuwaphonsa endaweni ethile. Yabelana, tshela ngakho konke. Ukuze ulalele, babemi eceleni, bazwelana, baduduza futhi, ekugcineni, banikeze okungenani iseluleko esithile. Esikhathini eside esidlule kukhona isisho phakathi kwabantu: "Ngizobhubhisa izinkinga zomunye ngezandla zami ..." Futhi liqala ukubonakala ngathi izinkinga zethu kanye nesisombululo sabo kubonakala kakhulu ohlangothini.
Emazweni aseNtshonalanga, izazi zengqondo nama psychotherapists zixazulula ukuxazulula izinkinga ezinjalo. Kodwa, okokuqala, asikatholi lokhu kusatshalaliswa. "Sinomqondo ohlukile," sisho ngokuphendula iseluleko sokubonisana nochwepheshe. Futhi okwesibili, kungani ukhokhela isazi sengqondo? Lapho intombi ilalela ngokucophelela, i-poohs, futhi, ekugcineni, ikhuluma nawe ngamazwi ahlabayo: "Uhlupha ngani nalokhu ... (i-epithets ingena esikhundleni sayo)? Wahlukana nabo bonke. Ngeke uthole lutho olunjalo! "
Usuvele ucabanga? .. Yebo, uqinisile. Phela, ngokusho kwengqondo oyiSofya Kovalevskaya, futhi ngobuhle uyaphalaza uPenelope Cruz. Futhi ukuthola okuthile okufanelekile ukunakwa kwakho akulula. Omunye kufanele aqinisekise ukuthi kusukela manje ukhululekile. Ukusikisela kwezandla nezinhliziyo zamadoda acebile kakhulu nenhle kunawo wonke avela emhlabeni wonke azofafaza kuwe kusukela e-cornucopia ... Emaphupheni, usuvele uqalile ukuqhuba ukukhishwa kwawo.
Ngiyaxolisa ukuthi ngikubuyisela ezweni lethu lesono ngokungalungile.
Zibuze umbuzo owodwa nje. Kungani umngane wakho omkhulu "cishe ehlakaniphile futhi enhle njengoba wena", engakashadile? Nakuba esevele esencane ngemuva ... Futhi zonke izihlobo zakhe zothando ziyaqhuma emva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa.
Yebo, noma yikuphi isikhundla esiphakeme owesifazane ophetheyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi angasenakho indawo yokuhlala endlini kaRublevka, naye, ngezinye izikhathi, ufuna ukuzwelana nokuqonda. "Owesifazane oqinile uyakhala ewindinini" - lokhu kusho bonke abesifazane abacula i-Alla Pugacheva. Owesifazane njalo amaphupho okuba buthakathaka. Futhi, eqinisweni, munye.
Kodwa esikhathini sethu ukhetha ukungabonakali ubuthakathaka bakhe. Akafuni isihawu nesihawu. Abesifazane "abanamandla" baye bahlangabezana okuningi ngaphambi kokuba bathole lesi simo. Futhi ngomkhuba sasiqiniseka ukuthi uzwela luyi-90% olungenasisekelo. Ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala kufana nokugcoba.
Yiqiniso, njalonjalo, kukhona okuhlukile. Laba besifazane abaphila ngokujabula njalo. Ungaboniswa. Abaqinisekisi abanye kulokhu, kodwa empeleni bayajabula. Ngoba bahlala ngokuvumelana nabo kanye nezwe. Azikho eziningi zazo, kodwa zikhona. Umuntu ojabulayo uhlale enomusa futhi ephendula. Futhi uma umngane wakho evela kulolu hlobo, khona-ke unenhlanhla kakhulu.
Kodwa yini okufanele uyenze ngokuhlolwa okwenzekayo ngokungafanele ngokukuphonsa? Ungagqoke konke okuhlangenwe nakho kuwe? Akunakwenzeka! Ngakho ungangena kalula ekucindezelekeni futhi ubone umhlaba kumathoni amnyama kakhulu futhi amnyama kakhulu.
Owesifazane osesimweni esinjalo uvame ukusizwa ngethenga, okuthiwa ngithenga. Ukuya salon beauty, ukushintsha isithombe, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho ibhalela ye-chocolate.
Yiya endlini yokugezela, ungaphansi kweshado bese u "khala" inkinga yakho. Kulimaza ngamanzi futhi kugeleza ngaphansi kwebhuloho. I-ushokoledi emva kokugeza ayikhanseliwe, kodwa yamukelwa.
Ukuze ubhale ephepheni owathengile, nokuthi yini olahlekile, mayelana nalesi simo. Futhi ukuthi konke lokhu kungasetshenziswa kanjani njengesifundo esikhathini esizayo.
Angikhulumi ngezindlela ezinamandla, njengotshwala, ugwayi, njll. Zilimaza impilo kuphela, zihlehlisa kuphela isinqumo.
Kukhona enye indlela. Uvame ukungisiza ekuphileni. Okokuqala, ngokuzwakalayo ngokuqonda nokuqaphela ukubiza amagama adumile kaScarlett O'Hara: "Ngizocabanga ngakho kusasa." Zama okungenani uhle kancane kancane. Bese uqaphele. Lalela futhi ubuke lonke ulwazi oluza kuwe: izindaba, imisho, njll. Ngesikhathi esifushane uzothola ukusikisela okufihlekile noma inkomba ecacile ukuthi ungayichitha kanjani isimo. Kungaba isihloko ephephandabeni, ekusakazweni kuthelevishini, noma ngisho nengoma ethile ezwakala eduze kwayo.
Kholwa, i-Angel Guardian yakho ihlala njalo futhi iningi lizama ukusiza. Ungesabi, kodwa qaphela ukuhamba kwakhe.