Ukufa okungazelelwe kungalimaza. Ngokungazelelwe, kokubili umuntu osekhulile nensizwa, ebonakala egcwele impilo, ingafa. Kungalindelekile, ngokushaqisayo. Ukufa akukhethi.
Ukusuka ekuguleni kufe isikhathi eside. Futhi labo abaye bakhuthazelela ukushona ngokushesha komuntu othandekayo, bavame ukuhawukela labo abaye bakwazi ukushiya izihlobo zabo.
Esimweni esinjalo akukho okukhethwa kukho okungcono, akukho mzuzu ofanelekile nokufa akukaze kuthole isikhathi. Kodwa ungakhuluma ngakho, futhi ngezinye izikhathi uyayidinga. Siphakamise lesi sihloko ukuze sisize labo abalahlekelwe abathandekayo ezimweni ezahlukene ukuze babhekane nazo.
Ukufa okungazelelwe komuntu ozalwayo ngenxa yengozi, engozini, ngesikhathi kwenziwa imisebenzi ehlukahlukene, ukufa okunamandla, kuqhutshwe ukucwaninga kwamacala enecala, ukuthethwa kwezomthetho, ukungaboni kahle kwesimo, ukungacacile komcimbi, ukungakwazi ukukholelwa kulokho okwenzekile. Ngokuvamile kufanele ubone ukuthi umuntu ulahleka kanjani kumzuzwana, futhi ungena egumbini lakhe, ungabona ukuthi zonke izinto zilele phansi futhi kubonakala sengathi inkosi yazo izovula umnyango futhi iphile futhi inempilo.
Indlela yokubhekana nawe?
... kodwa isimangaliso asikwenzeka. Kuzothatha isikhashana ukuhlehlisa ukwamukela okwenzekile. Ukuphendula kungase kuhluke: izinyembezi, izinyembezi, ukuthula nokuzihlukanisa ... Ungabi namahloni, kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi amalungiselelo omngcwabo ahlelekile futhi mhlawumbe uyomangala, kodwa kungukuthi kuxoxwa ngezikhathi ezimbi ezibonakala sengathi ziyisikhathi, ukuthenga nakho konke okukuvumela ukuba uphumule okwesikhashana futhi ungacabangi ngalokho okwenzekile.
Uma umuntu oshonile engazange aqiniseke, ayenomsindo noma ayengewona ubuhlobo obuhle, zama ukuthethelela futhi uvumele umphefumulo wakhe uphume. Ungadinga usizo lomculi wezokwelapha, ngezinye izikhathi ukwanele ukuya esontweni ukuze uvume noma ukubeka ikhandlela ukuthula komphefumulo.
Izikhalazo zesikhathi eside azidluli okwesikhashana, kodwa uzoba lula uma lokhu kwenzeka.
Funa ukusekelwa komunye nomunye eduze. Ungaba nomuzwa wokuthi ubukhona bomuntu oshonile isikhathi eside, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthi wonke umuntu aqaphele ukuthi angeke abuyisele umuntu, kodwa ngokuqinisekile uzomkhumbula, okukhanyayo nokuhlanzekile.
Siza umuntu osizi uma ewela esicupheni. Kunesimo lapho umuntu avela khona usizi ngokungazelelwe alahlekelwe ikhono lokuphendula kwisimo sangaphandle. Mbambe ngesandla, uhlangothi, ubonise ukuthi akayena wedwa, ukuthi uyaphila, ukuthi kumele aqhubeke ehamba, ephefumula. Phakamisa ukugcwalisa okunye, uphuze itiye, ukhulume ngento ethize. Uma umuntu eshiya leli zwe, kungenzeka ukuthi ama-hysteric azoqala futhi usizo lwakho lungadingeka futhi.
Ukuthutha kanye nanoma yisiphi esinye isisindo sengqondo ekucindezelekeni okukhulu kungabuka kokubili kulabo ababengalindele ukufa, futhi kusukela kulowo obenakekele umuntu ogulayo isikhathi eside futhi wazi ukuthi uzoba yi-voskresluchitsya.
Ukuhamba kwesikhathi eside: kanjani ukufunda ukuhlala nolwazi lokungavinjelwa komphumela?
Uma izihlobo zinezifo ezingelapheki, umdlavuza isibonelo, bese kukhula sekuthatha izinyanga, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho neminyaka. Kuncike ekutheni isifo sitholakale siphi isigaba, yiziphi izinyathelo ezithathwayo, ukuthi umzimba wesiguli ukhathalela kanjani. Kodwa kunezimo lapho odokotela beka izinsuku ezimbalwa, uma kubonakala sengathi ngeke kube kubi kakhulu, futhi isikhathi sihlala isikhathi eside kakhulu.
Futhi ukutholakala ngokwakho kuqala ngokwayo. Abampofu baqala ukufisa ukufelwa ukufa kwabathandekayo babo. Futhi bafuna lokhu okungcono kakhulu, beqaphela ukuthi umuntu uyalimala futhi ukufa kuzokwenza kube lula ukuhlupheka kwakhe, lapho isibalo sihamba ngehora futhi ukuthuthukiswa okuncane nje kunikezela izinsuku ezimbalwa ezinzima, kuba nokwesaba imicabango yakhe. Kuba yinto ehlazeka kakhulu. Ungesabi ukwabelana ngemicabango yakho nomuntu omethembayo. Ngikholelwa, ukulinda ukufa komuntu othandekayo mhlawumbe kuyilingo olunzima kakhulu ekuphileni. Futhi kuhle uma ufuna okungcono kakhulu kuye. Akekho okufanele abekwe icala lokuthi ngezinye izikhathi ukufa kungcono kakhulu.
Ngokufa kancane kancane, abantu banesikhathi sokuqeda ibhizinisi labo, bathi bangabani nanoma ngubani abayathanda, kodwa kuphela umuntu ozoba nzima kunokuba abone. Abafayo bathatha ithuba lokuphefumula, bese becela iNkosi ukuba ibuyele ngokushesha.
Kubalulekile ukwamukela ukungavinjelwa kokufa, zilungele ukuthi lokhu kungeke kwenzeke ngokushesha nje uma ubikezela. Futhi hhayi ngokushesha njengoba ungase ubonakale ngezibonakaliso zangaphandle. UNkulunkulu oyedwa uyazi ukuthi lokhu kuzokwenzeka nini.
Thandazela izihlobo zakho, ungesabi imicabango yakho. Lungele kancane kancane emngcwabeni. Umuntu wesilisa uzokutshela ukuthi usekulungele ukuxoxa nabo. Khetha izingubo ndawonye, cabanga ngemininingwane, abavame ukubizwa ngokuthi bahlukanise.
Ngokuqinisekile, iseluleko sizobonakala singavamile, kodwa ukuhleka kwemizwa kusindisa ngisho nasezimo ezifanayo. Uma ukhale amahora angu-24 ngosuku, ngeke kube ngcono kunoma ubani. Akukona mayelana namahlaya omnyama, kodwa kuphela ukuphumula okwesikhashana okwesikhashana, ngaphandle kwalokho ungaphamba.
Njengoba usuvele uqonda, akukho ndlela engcono yokufa.
Kodwa lezi zenzo zifana cishe. Ungaziqineli, zisiza wena noma izihlobo zakho ukuthi ubhekane nokulahlekelwa ngosizo lwemithi.
Phuza amaconsi okuphunga noma ama-capsules. Ngisho noma kubonakala kuwe ukuthi uhlangabezane nokulahlekelwa okwanele namuhla, aziwa ukuthi uhlelo lwesifo sezinzwa luzoziphatha kanjani ezinsukwini ezilandelayo. Kungase kube khona ukuphazamiseka okuphelele noma okuphelele. Yenza okuhle kumuntu oshonile. Ngesikhathi usakwazi ukubona umzimba wakhe. Yiqiniso, ungasheshi kunoma ubani ngemuva komkhumbi futhi uzigcine ezandleni zakho, kodwa ungaphambuki.
Usadingeka uhambe ngezinsuku ezingu-9 no-40 zokufa kanye nezigaba eziningana zokulila. Kuzodingeka ufunde ukuhola usizi lwakho. Thola izindlela ezehlukene zokumthulisa phansi, kodwa nakanjani futhi unikeze ilungelo lokunikeza.
Kuyoba khona intukuthelo kumuntu oshonile. Kodwa ukuthi washiya masinyane kangaka. Ukuthukuthelela ngokwakho, ngokungasizi, akubonanga isikhathi. Konke lokhu kuvamile. Into esemqoka ukuba kanye nalabo ababesabekile kakhulu ngokufa kwezihlobo zabo. Ungavumi ukucindezeleka kuwe. Landela ukudla. Uma ukulahlekelwa okuhlangenwe nakho komunye umuntu oseduze nawe, qiniseka ukuthi unikeza ukudla, okumnandi, ukugwema ukulahlekelwa isisindo esibucayi. Udinga ukuhlanganisa futhi ukhumbule ukuthi impilo iyaqhubeka. Ukulahlekelwa ngeke kukhohliwe, kodwa kuzoba lula, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, okukuningi okukude. Futhi lo muntu owayethande kakhulu kuwe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi usheshe wafa kanjani, noma ubheke ukuhamba kwakhe, angizange ngithande ukubukela wena ezulwini bese ngibona imibono engapheli.
Ngisho nosizi lunesikhathi esithile. Uma sidlula, ungacabanga kalula ngomuntu oshonile. Ubuhlungu buzophela, futhi indawo yayo izokwenziwa ngamanye imizwelo, emihle, ezovela esikhathini esidlule. Cishe ngonyaka nesigamu kamuva, ukuqaphela umcimbi kuzofika ekugcineni, futhi eminyakeni emibili noma emibili nengxenye kuyoba nememori ekhanyayo, izinkumbulo ezimnandi. Ukukhuluma ngomuntu ngeke kubangele ubuhlungu nokukhala njalo. Qinisekisa ukuthi ukhuluma ngomuntu wakho siqu. Abangani bakho, izingane, izihlobo kufanele zikwazi ukuthi kunomunye owayenencazelo enkulu kuwe. Futhi naphezu kokuthi phakathi kwabaphilayo akusekho, uzohlale ukhumbula futhi wazi ukuthi uye ezweni elingcono, lapho engalimazi khona.