Kodwa ukuza kule nzwa udinga wena kuphela.
Futhi uyayithanda lapho bethi, "Ungakwenza! Uzosinda! Uzobona, uzozibamba, ukhumbule lesi simo "? Uma singenempilo enhle, uma isimo sengqondo sibi, ukucindezeleka sekuvele kungqongqoza emnyango - kubalulekile ukuzitholela ngezifiso zomusa zabanye abantu. Bafuna ngobuqotho ukusiza, kodwa okuthile akusebenzi kahle. Ngakho-ke, akusizi ngalutho ukufaka flip nokukubonisa kwabanye. Ukuze wenze, ukuthi yaba okuphawulekayo, kubalulekile kakhulu - kodwa kanjani?
Kwenzekani manje?
I-Mood - isiqeshana sokushintsha. Ngezinye izikhathi sizibheka sicabanga ukuthi uma uzizwa ungalungile, khona-ke uyaqaphela ukuthi kunezinsuku ezinhle. Namuhla nje akusilo usuku. Nokho, eqinisweni, inkinga ibaluleke nakakhulu.
Isimo sengqondo siwumphumela oqondile:
- isimo sengqondo
- isimo samanje sezindaba
- amanani omuntu
- indlu yakhe
- isimo ekhaya, eqenjini, ezweni.
Kunzima ukujabula uma umakhelwane athola izikhathi ezinhlanu ngaphezu kwakho. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngifuna ukugxuma emzimbeni omuhle - ngoba nje indodakazi yami ibelethe indodakazi! Lokhu kubonakala kuyinani "lekhaya" le nkinga. Kodwa odokotela baqinisekisa ukuthi sesivele sicabanga ngalokho okufanele sikwenze uma uzizwa ungalungile: noma uyaqonda ukuthi ngezikhathi ezithile kuhle, noma "ukulungisa" kwenye yezinhlelo zokuphila.
Ngokwezibalo zengqondo, eminyakeni engama-20 isizukulwane cishe siyokhula, esizokwazi ukuphila ngokugcwele nokujabule kakhulu. Phela, "okuhle" kwethu akuxhomeke kuphela ezintweni zangaphandle, kodwa futhi kuhulumeni wangaphakathi. Yini engayivimbela?
Umsebenzi Wabasebenzi
Siphoqeleka ukuba sinakekele ukusinda, okuvame ukusibuyisela ekubeni yizigqila zangempela.
Imikhuba
Umkhuba awukwenzi ukwenza imisebenzi embalwa elula ekuseni, ungayi echibini lokubhukuda, kodwa okungenani ukuhamba noma ukugijima enkundleni yezemidlalo eseduzane ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile ngokuqinisekile kuzoba yinduna, okungeke kwenzeke ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa.
Ama-stereotypes
Indlela yokuziphatha, ukungafuni ukuzama ezinye izindlela zokuxhumana, ukungabi nesithakazelo kwabanye esikhathini esizayo kungabangela ukungabi nesithakazelo kithi. Futhi kuzothatha isikhathi eside ukuphuma.
Isithombe somtholampilo: umuntu ohamba kahle
Izincomo zezengqondo, "ukuba zihle", zilula. Ukugcwaliseka kwabo, futhi ngisho nakakhulu ukukhathazeka ukuthi kwakulula ukuyifeza, kungaba ingxenye ejabulisayo yokuphila.
1. Okuhle - okuzungezile. Uma nje sithuthela endaweni "lapha" manje, siyeka ukugwinywa kulowo olwandle lwezindaba ezizungeze noma yikuphi umuntu omdala. Futhi uma uqala kulokhu, akudingekile ukuba ucabange futhi "umoya" ngokwakho mayelana nezindaba, izinkathazo, ukuqoqa ukunganeliseki.
2. Impumelelo isemqondweni. Ukucabanga ngempumelelo kumnandi kakhulu. Uma ukhumbule okuthile - kungcono ukunambitha izikhathi zokuphumelela, hhayi izikhathi zokuhlazeka noma ukuhlukunyezwa. Futhi kungcono kakhulu ukucabanga ngekusasa, ukwenza izinhlelo, ngisho noma zingasebenzi ngokugcwele.
3. "Kuyini lokhu?" Ukuqwashisa yisitha sosizi. Umuntu ovamile angase angazi okuningi kwengqondo yabo yansuku zonke. Kodwa uma uzizwa ungalungile, khona-ke ungakhumbula futhi uqonde okwenzekayo futhi kuhle ukuthola izimbangela zokucindezeleka noma ukungazitholi. Zilawula ngokwakho - unobtrusively, kodwa njalo.
4. Ukuhlunga. Noma kunjalo, sihlunga ulwazi nsuku zonke. Siyibona ngeglasi lethu elimibalabala. Kuyingozi hhayi "ukubona izwe ngokusebenzisa izibuko ezibomvu" kuphela, kodwa futhi ukuzibeka "izibuko ezimnyama". Zama izindlela ezahlukene zokwakha isimo sengqondo, faka izihlungi ezinhle noma ezimbi. Uzoqonda ukuthi lokhu kuyinto elula - okusho ukuthi unesimo sengqondo.
5. Ungacindezeli! Cindezela wena ngokwakho cishe akusize. Uma imizwa emibi isifikile, akunakwenzeka ukuba "ungacabangi ngembongolo emhlophe," njengomfanekiso omdala osempumalanga. Zama ukushintsha nje, zize ngokwakho - zivumele imizuzu embalwa ukuzwa okufunayo. Iyiphi "i-parrot" ebomvu ongathanda ukuyithatha amahora ambalwa engqondweni yakho? Futhi uma kungenakutholakala engqondweni, unethuba eliyingqayizivele lokusebenzisa ukungabonikazi kwesifazane - isidingo somzimba kunoma yiluphi uhlobo, ukupheka, ukugeza, ukubeka izinto ngokuhlelekile.
6. Ungashiyi izimo ezingapheli. Kunzima kakhulu ukuqeda izinkumbulo ezicindezelayo: ukufa, ukuphikisana, ukuhamba. Kodwa, njengomthetho, konke lokhu kuhlangenwe nakho, uma wonke amazwi eshiwo, futhi isimo "sicatshangelwe" ekugcineni okunengqondo. Kodwa uma into engatshelwa ngokwanele, ayikwenziwanga - ngisho noma iholidi elihle kunazo zonke lingadutshulwa yimicabango "Kodwa kuthiwani uma ngingagcini insimbi?" (Futhi lokhu kusekhona okulula kakhulu, kwansuku zonke).
Esimweni esinzima, akekho ophazamisa umuntu ongekho ukuba aziphendule ngemicabango yakhe. Tshela labo abangaseduze nawe manje, konke engingakuthanda. Lalela, uthethelele futhi uqonde.
7. Yisho imizwa! Uma uthukuthele, ungajabuli, uphazamiseke, usizi - zama ukubiza imicabango yakho nemicabango yakho engafaneleki isimo sakho sengqondo esifanele. Uma kusiza, kodwa sibuthakathaka - sibacaphuthele. I-Poohayte kanye ne: "Ngabe ngiyaphila, ngithole kanjani unstuck! Ngingakwenza kanjani, mina, ngimpofu, ngiyaxolisa! "- futhi ungakwazi ukulawula imizwa yakho.
8. Khombisa ukucaciswa kobudlelwane. Ungaphikisani futhi ungaboni ubuhlobo uma wena noma othandekayo bakho benemizwa enamandla emibi. Sicela ulinde.
9. Ungabonakali! Izinto eziningi namaqanda adliwa akufanelekile. Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokunikeza amagama, izinhloso noma imicabango embi yomuntu ku-akhawunti yakho (bese "ugaye" ekhanda lakho) - ucacise. Mhlawumbe kungumcabango nje kuphela, kodwa uyaphazamisa isimo sakho sengqondo?