Ekuphileni kwethu kunezinto ezihlukene, kokubili okuhle futhi akunjalo. Ngezinye izikhathi kungenzeka ukuthi umuntu omthandayo futhi osithandayo ngokuzumayo ushintsho isimo sengqondo, imizwa ihamba futhi umshado ojabulisayo uphelelwa phezulu. Futhi ngehlukaniso, impela, ukuhlukaniswa kwempahla kuqala. Kulo mzuzwana ukuthi izici ezimbi kakhulu zabantu zivezwe, futhi, kubonakala sengathi inqubo elula iphenduka isihogo. Isimo singasuswa kakhulu uma umndeni unabantwana. Manje sizoxoxa ngalokho okufanele sikwenze uma ukuxoshwa kwezingane kuqala ezimweni zesehlukaniso.
Abesifazane abaningi abazi lo mthetho, ngakho izingane ezixoshayo lapho zihlukaniswa zibenza zibe ukushaqeka kwangempela. Yiqiniso, isimo sibi ngempela, ngoba ukuxosha izingane kuyinto yokugcina yindoda. Ngisho nangesahlukaniso, usazokhumbula ukuthi unguyise. Kodwa, noma kunjalo, akubona bonke abantu ababa yizimbangi njengoba bebonakala. Ngakho-ke, ukuze bavikele izingane zabo okungenani izinto ezibonakalayo, kuyadingeka ukwazi ukuthi yiziphi izimo zokuxoshwa okungenzeka, futhi lapho kungekho khona.
Izinkanyezi zenkontileka yomshado
Ake siqale ngenkontileka yomshado. Uma inkontileka yomshado isayinwe phakathi kwakho nomyeni wakho wangaphambili, lapho kubonakala ngokucacile ukuthi ifulethi lingeyakhe futhi kuphela kuye, angaxosha umkakhe nezingane zakhe. Yingakho, kulabo abazoshada futhi basayine isivumelwano somshado, lolu lwazi luzosiza kakhulu. Abesifazane abaningi balahlekelwa isizathu sabo sothando nokubhala amaphepha ngaphandle kokubheka, okuholela emiphumeleni enjalo edabukisayo. Ngakho-ke, lapho uhlela inkontileka yomshado, qiniseka ukuthi uma kwenzeka isehlukaniso, izingane zakho zinelungelo lokuyingxenye yendawo ephilayo.
Imvume yomkhumbi ukuhlala endlini yomyeni wangaphambili
Kumele kuphawulwe masinyane ukuthi esimweni lapho impahla ingeyomyeni wayo, inkantolo, ngemuva kokubukeza icala, isakwazi ukuhlangana nawe eceleni. Uma umfazi nezingane bengenakho indlela yokuphila, indawo yokuhlala, njalonjalo, inkantolo ingasenza umyeni akwazi ukuhlinzeka indawo yokuhlala yowesifazane wangaphambili nezingane. Nokho, lokhu kungenzeka kunikezwa isikhathi esithile kuphela. Ngakho-ke, ngisho noma ulawula ukuhlala endlini yomyeni wakho, khumbula ukuthi unesikhathi esinqunyiwe sokuthola izindlu nokusebenza. Uma ukhuluma, inkantolo ikunika ithuba 'lokuhamba ngezinyawo zakho,' kodwa isikhathi salokhu sinciphile.
Izingane ezincane
Enye into ebangelwa ukuthi indoda ingakwazi ukuxosha izingane uma kwenzeka isehlukaniso ingu-age. Uma izingane zingabantwana futhi zingenayo indawo yokuphila, inkantolo inqume ukunikeza ubaba isikhala esiphezulu, kodwa ngaphandle kokuthola ifa. Okusho ukuthi, izingane zakho zizokwazi ukuhlala efulethini likayise, kodwa zingenayo imitha eyodwa yesikwele ngakwesokudla. Futhi emva kokufika kweminyaka, angathula ngokuthula ukuthi izingane zishiye isikhala sakhe. Wena, njengomuntu wangaphambili-mfazi, awunalo ilungelo ngisho nokuphila endaweni yokuphila yomuntu.
Impahla etholakalayo ngomsebenzi ohlangene
Kuhle kakhulu uma indlu noma ifulethi itholakele ngokuhlanganyela ngemva kokubhalisa umshado. Kulokhu, le ndoda ayinalo ilungelo lokuphuma endlini, wena noma izingane. Iqiniso liwukuthi ngokuya komthetho, impahla etholakale ngokuhlanganyela ihlukaniswe ngesigamu. Ngakho-ke, uma ungafuni ukuhlala nomyeni wangaphambili endlini eyodwa, kumele avume ushintsho endaweni yokuhlala. Uma kunqatshiwe, le nqubo izokwenziwa nje enkantolo. Izingane zakho, njengezindlalifa ezisemthethweni, zinelungelo lezingxenye ezilinganayo zendawo ephilayo, kokubili eyakho kanye nomyeni wakho wangaphambili.
Futhi into yokugcina okumele uyikhumbule: ukuze ufune ilungelo lezindlu, wena kanye nezingane zakho kufanele ukuthi ubhalise. Kuphela kuleli cala inkantolo inesizathu esizwakalayo sokuphoqa umuntu ukuba ahlukanise isikhala sokuhlala noma aphile izingane endlini yakhe. Uma kungekho i-propiska, awunayo amalungelo ngokuphelele, futhi, cishe, inkantolo ngeke ikusize lapha.